I love my new best friend but I can not stand a procrastinator. Sometime i feel like i can't depend on her. I mean, we just became friends so maybe i'm jumping the gun. I am a very prompt and early person. If i say i am going to do something, i do it and i do it when i say i am going to do it. If i say i am on the way to your house, I walk out the door r ight then. I dont wait 30 min -2hrs before i leave.
If u send me an email, i reply immediately. so now i have this new best friend and i love her so much but it drives me mad that she takes forever to meet me somewhere or keep plans or show up at my house on time.
I actually told her how i felt and she said that was just her personality but she would try to work on it in situations with me. Isnt that sweet?
and so last night she did leave immediately. I was so happy. hahaha
I dont know why it aggravates me so much...
2007-11-25 05:28:36 · 13 answers · asked by Cutie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
unfortunately there are a ton of people like that it irks me too but what ya gonna do?
2007-11-25 10:53:35 · answer #1 · answered by foxxybabe0430 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was reading your question very intently because it was almost a story about me. I hate to tell you this, because it is not an immediate solution for your situation. But try to accept her the way she is, meantime make sure to maintain a good relationship with your friend to the extent! It's all about giving her chance to learn her own mistakes and grow up! As you mentioned above, perhaps god is giving her chance to learn from you and also you are given a chance to be more patient and not to aggrevate youself. You know and she knows that procrastinating is a bad habit, hopefully she will learn. I struggle everyday to get alone with people because I have a high expectations on me and on others. I reply every emails immediately, not all people do the same back to me. It is not her aggravating you! It is really you're aggravating yourself. Learn to be patient and accept her bad habit. You can help her to be a better person without getting aggravated. It is her to make changes in her lifestyle. You can't change her. If all else fails, you do not need a friend who aggravates you anyway. Good luck.!
2007-11-25 13:45:04 · answer #2 · answered by Q 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has little pet peeves! Dont worry about it! If you spoke to your friend and she said she would try to fix the problem, just wait and see if she does. If it becomes a problem in the future or if you start ruining your plans waiting for her, talk to her again or do what people do for me, tell me a time to be there thats 30 mins to an hour earlier than you need me. Say a movie starts at 6 tell her it starts at 5, that way if she is late, you still are there at a perfect time! Im always late so people work around that with me! Good luck!
2007-11-25 13:32:42 · answer #3 · answered by Susan F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a serious problem. You will have to change if you want a relationship with this person . . . and that may be all but impossible. I have had friends who were always late and I learned to just go without them. They could be on time when they wanted to, though. It was maddening, but I just learned to tell them, see you later, and go. My daughter married someone who had the same problem and she and her boys sit out in the driveway waiting for them all of the time. One of her boys is a procrastinator too.
You said you "can't stand a procrastinator" and that tells it all. If you marry your best friend there will be times when you can't stand her either.
Sorry. At least you are going ahead with your eyes open. Just make sure you can adjust to her and don't expect much of her.
2007-11-25 13:37:45 · answer #4 · answered by Tessie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes we have a friend like that because they have a part of themselves that we wish to adopt or that we secretly admire.
You may not wish to become a procrastinator, but may wish to gather a bit more power over your life by in essence saying. "No, I'm going to take an extra few minutes to myself here because I'm worth it."
Knowing someone who is way over the top in this regard may show you ways to nudge a bit away from always being ontime or early - and thus taken for granted by others.
It's just a thought, I'm only on my second coffee so haven't really done anything yet like mentally wake up.
2007-11-25 13:34:42 · answer #5 · answered by lorus_900 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's your button she's pressing...you sound quite controlling. what would it mean to you to lose control? people are just human..if you don't like it why are you her friend? does it make you feel superior? can't you say no?
2007-11-25 13:33:37 · answer #6 · answered by minerva 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A true best friend accepts you no matter what your flaws are.
2007-11-25 13:31:55 · answer #7 · answered by Christine B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU CANNOT CHANGE PEOPLE. As soon as you realize this fact, you will not become "aggravated".
2007-11-25 13:32:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uh...let me get back to ya on this one...lol
2007-11-26 21:10:59 · answer #9 · answered by chris j 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my philosophy why do today what u can put off til tommorow
2007-11-25 13:32:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋