Why is being a christian making me depressed?

Question

Why is being a christian making me depressed and suicidal? I look at others and feel lonely and also wish they were christians, and when i go home i feel no achievement was made, why do i feel lonely and depressed, shudnt i not feel this way?

Answer 1

Stop thinking about sin--sin--sin--sin
and
love--love--love--love

Answer 2

There is a disconnect here between you and the Word of God. It's not being a Christian that is making you depressed and suicidal. Many people who are believers do experience depression. It is a simply a chemical inbalance of the brain where you simply need therapy combined with the right medication to solve that. The other piece is to learn the Bible and get into a Bible study so you have other people to help answer questions for you. You have no idea of the impact you have on others - why say you feel no achievement was made? Gosh - I told off several people who tried to witness to me for years before I became a Christian. Don't be silly about that. It's sowing seeds - not everyone gets to reap the harvest. You can't be an island and learn the Bible either. Without the Word of God - it's like you're missing a key element which is God's communication to you. It's where you can find encouragement hope and peace even while going through a bout of depression. I have gone through times where I just sat and cried and read through the entire book of Psalms for comfort and it made a huge difference for me. One other question I have for you is - do you know for sure that you are a Christian? There are people who can help 1-888-NEED-HIM - they will pray for you over the phone.

Answer 3

How does being a Christian making you feel lonely, suisidal and depressed? Need more eloboration? I really think it is all in your mind. You make decisions and live with results. You may not be making right decisions for you! If you're feeling lonely do not wait that people come around you, go out and make effort to make friends (help people& volunteer ). And rememeber always appreciate how much you have and what you have, NOT what you do not have. It can be way worse! Have a goal everyday & try to achieve it, in the long run it will help to progress your big goals.

Answer 4

I'm not sure what you mean by 'achievement.' Are you trying to evangelize people? If so, I would back off from that and just do my best to live with kindness and respect toward others.

Really, that's what 'being Christian' means, at its core. If you are kind and respectful toward others, they will usually treat you the same.

The best cure for being (mildly) depressed and lonely is to join a church group or to do something that takes your mind off your own problems and focuses on others.

If you are more deeply depressed, or if your depression has lasted for a long time (over a month), then you should consider seeking professional help. You might have clinical depression (from a chemical imbalance), and that takes time to treat.

Best wishes to you!

Answer 5

Does your church teach God's love? Do you know that Christ is always with you in spirit. There is no reason to ever feel lonely because Christ is always with you. Whenever I have a difficult moment I simply reach out my hand, knowing He is just that close.

If your church is only teaching fear, hell and sin then I can very well understand why you are depressed. Find a church where you will feel welcomed for who you are, where you can worship, study and fellowship with others who are also seeking Christ.

We feel closest to Christ when we are doing those things that Christ asked us to do, when we are being faithful to the teachings of Christ. This means living a life of compassion. Putting the needs of others before our own. Don't worry so much about saving other people, after all, we cannot save anyone. Only Christ can change lives when we permit Him to work through us. Spend time listening to people, not telling them your version of what they need to do. Listening is so much more powerful than telling. Help where you can. This is how we let Christ work through us. And it will completely change your life.

Answer 6

i've looked at your profile, and i see several possibilities, but the most likely seems to be that you're a troll.

on the chance that you're sincere, as a practitioner of alternative therapies, you should know this is not a place to find help for depression, you need a medical doctor or psychiatrist. your religion could actually be causing your depression, in that case, you need to reevaluate it and decide if it is the right path for you. dealing with homosexuality in a christian environment can also be a great cause for depression. in one question, you say that you no longer feel attraction to your boyfriend, yet in another, you wonder why men don't notice you. which is it, ex-gay or gay?

another possibility is that you are an aspie and don't know how to relate to the neurologically typical and need to find a better system of support.

i've been where you portray yourself to be. i'll be happy to share my experiences with christianity, homosexuality, and asperger's syndrome. you can e-mail me thru my profile.

Answer 7

Repressing natural instincts by calling them "Sin" puts a strain on the natural and free mind. Its just not healthy, and if you are still not brainwashed enough so you still feel depressed about the repression then give it up now. It takes many years to undo the brainwashing done by cults.
Find a religion that celebrates YOU instead of telling you youre no good, a dirty low down sinner and a slave to a spiteful, angry Sky-Pixie.

Answer 8

How old are you?
Perhaps it's not your religion but your loneliness that is making you depressed.
But perhaps certain beliefs you hold are part of it. Have you considered that just maybe some of what you believe is wrong? I'm not saying you have to change everything you believe. But maybe certain things you believe are causing you to view the world as more depressing than it really is.

I do not think that the Divine (however you conceive of it) wants you to be depressed and suicidal. I hope you are able to find a better perspective.

Answer 9

It is not "being a Christian" that is making you depressed. Such an emotion is not from God -- but from the devil. Recognizing that, Jesus will give you the Power to resist it as you would any other temptation.

As far as evangelizing... Don't look at it as your responsibility to convince, convict, and convert people. It is not. That is the work of the Holy Spirit. Your responsibility is but to plant the seed and to live the example.

Lastly... Working in "the world" is a draining experience. God advised us (strongly!) not to omit the assembling of ourselves together (Hebrews 10:23-25). It is in this assembling together with like-believers that you get recharged for another foray into "the world." In fact, God gave us the Seventh-day (Saturday) Sabbath as "the day" on which we receive the most blessing (recharging) to keep us going in this world.

Isaiah 58:13 The LORD says, "If you treat the Sabbath as sacred and do not pursue your own interests on that day; if you value my holy day and honor it by not traveling, working, or talking idly on that day,
Isaiah 58:14 then you will find the joy that comes from serving me. I will make you honored all over the world, and you will enjoy the land I gave to your ancestor, Jacob. I, the LORD, have spoken."

Answer 10

From most of the questions you post you seem to be very INTROSPECTIVE and therefore have a tendency toward depression. There is nothing good in us that will lift us up. Introspection always makes depressed.
You need to look UP to Jesus. Look TEN times at Him before you look one time at yourself.
Also, what is lacking in your life is THANKFULNESS. Why don't you start thanking God for all the good things you have, for all the good you can see in other people, for the good in God's creation? And then praise Him for who He is. Open your Bible and read Psalms of praise aloud as a prayer to God every day. One of my favorites is Psalm 145.
Start MEMORIZING some uplifting verses from God's Word and say them to yourself every time you start feeling down again.

Answer 11

Well being a christian doesnt really have anything to do with being depressed unless you feel like thats holding you back from doing the things you love to do (ie. partying, drinking, ect) You can still go and do these things but you have to do it in moderation. With the part with the achivement part, try setting a goal that day on how you can help someone or do a good deed for that day. Hope I could help.