so theres tis person i dont even know who goes to my cousins school whose completely obsessed with. completely. beause of this, my cousin (who is very close to me) has becomevery upset and has told me that this person is extremely annoying, obsessed, can't stop talking about me, and what not. shes also told me that this person is very mean and unexpected and keeps saying stuff like, "i luv matt hes my boyfriend" should this all bother me? i mean, i dont know her and i dont want to wreck my relationship with my cousin because were pretty close, but i really dont want someone saying that. what should i do?
2007-11-25 02:17:25 · 28 answers · asked by matt 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you should ignore her.
-LuckyGirl831 (Denise N)
2007-11-25 02:25:04 · answer #1 · answered by DELETED 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing you can really do to stop it. Hopefully this girl will just get over you and stop bothering your cousin. I don't really understand how your cousin could be mad at YOU. She must know you've done nothing to encourage this girl. After all, you don't even know her so how can what she's doing be your fault? You are right to be slightly irritated by this...this girl is getting on your cousin's last nerve and now your's too! I don't know how long this has been going on but I bet she'll give it up soon. If you and her continue to ignore her she'll see her comments are getting her nowhere and she'll find someone else to bug.
2007-11-25 10:43:27 · answer #2 · answered by mickeymel9 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't really do anything. First of all, if you don't even know this person how can she be obsessed with you? This makes no sense. And she probably just wants attention and is self conscious not mean. As for your cousin, just tell your cousin to ask her to stop if it's annoying her. If that doesn't work, tell her to ignore it and it will stop eventually.
2007-11-25 10:22:54 · answer #3 · answered by Desk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Matt .
Here is what to do.
Tell your cousin the truth on how you feel. Tell her how you do not want to hurt your important relationship with her because she is family.
Next tell her the truth on how uncomfortable you have been made to feel about this person with the obsession.
Next tell your cousin to tell this other person to " GET OVER IT " Matt is not your boy friend and will never be YOUR BOY FRIEND !
Have her tell this gal to go get lost. Let the cards fall where they may. That's life. We can't have everything we want.
Period.
Good Luck !
The Woodster
2007-11-25 10:28:12 · answer #4 · answered by woodster 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does this girl bother you or your cousin?It sounds like she bothers your cousin,is she in contact with you at all?It sounds like this girl is a very young like 13 or 14.If thats the case it seems harmless enough.If she bothers you then you should say something to her,if she bothers your cousin he/she should deal with it.Unless it gets out of hand then maybe step in.Try to be as nice as possible though
2007-11-25 10:29:09 · answer #5 · answered by ... 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's pretty creepy...the young lady needs a reality check. You might wish to confront the girl (if you can be sure that she isn't violent), and just tell her that you wish that she would cease and desist spreading lies about a relationship between you. You do not have to be mean about it - just matter-of-fact.
You can mention your discomfort, and would appreciate that she stop spreading falsehoods for her sake, as well as yours and your girlfriends' (whether you have one or not - it carries more weight when you do). Sometimes the delusional need to have a kick-start (not literally) at waking up.
2007-11-25 10:23:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best way to deal with someone who is obsessed with you is CUT OFF ALL COMMUNICATION, and I do mean ALL. Any chance for them to see or talk to you reignites their passion. I know, I've been there. Tell your cousin not to speak of you whatsoever and steer clear of this person and she'll soon enough move on.
2007-11-25 10:22:17 · answer #7 · answered by Jungle Princess 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like that person is mentally ill. Your cousin should go to her counselor or the principal and report it. An adult needs to step in to handle the situation.
2007-11-25 10:20:53 · answer #8 · answered by notyou311 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell the person to stop and tell your cousin to ignore it also. This all seems like second grade stuff.
2007-11-25 10:20:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just try to ignore it tell your cousin that you dont know her and if you reallt dont then get your cousin to get that girls # and give it to you and you personally call and be like whats your problem and just see what she says
2007-11-25 10:21:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess it depends, whether you want the girl, or if you just want her to leave you alone. If you like her, and would like to date her, then go for it, maybe keep it a secret from your cousin. If you want her to leave you alone, tell her kindly to leave you alone, and that you are not interested in her, or simply just get your cousin to do it. I had the same problem, with my brothers friend from his martial arts. But it went over smooth, after i crushed her. lol.
2007-11-25 10:22:31 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋