how much time should it take to get over heart break?

Question

does heart break ever heal....im so in love with this girl..i dont know if i could ever love sombody like i love her..but things arent working out...shes all i think about all day long and myu worlds been turned upside down because of it..i dont know what to do..i feel like im dead without her..how do you get over this? is this normal

Answer 1

You have to take it one step at a time, don't rush to another relationship so early, because that will break your heart again. I have the same problem as you, so I know how to do this. So just don't worry about your ex right now, just think about happy thoughts and you will be back to normal! email me at [e-mail] if you need more help! Hope I helped!

-HeartBrokenForever (Diane N)

Answer 2

steve, I am so sorry that your having to go through this. we've all been through it and it hurts so bad when things arent working out because you know that its ending. If we could only express our feelings to the ones we love, I truly believe that it could be different. Its so hard to tell someone not to think about them or do this, do that...where in reality its impossible to not care or think about them. I know how it feels when someone is on your mind 24/7 and your life feels like h*** without them.everything reminds you of them and it seems as though life isnt complete. It is so normal to feel this way.your heart may heal but in true saying it only takes a second to break a heart but takes many years to heal them (heart). Im so sorry... but do what you think is best. Good luck!!! : )

Answer 3

My broken and mended heart goes out to you Steve. Yes it is normal. To feel our feelings is always normal. For whatever reason (that you may not understand right now) you are going through this experience and there is no fast forward or quick fix. You just have to feel what you feel - but you dont have to go through it alone unless of course you so choose. If possible try to express your feelings, either with a trusted friend, relative or counsellor or perhaps by writing them down, crying, thumping or screaming into a pillow - any way that feels right for you. Unfortunately most people try to avoid the pain completely. The tactics are many and varied - drink, drugs, find another relationship straight away,over work, over exersise, over eat, over spend - any distraction you can think of really the choices are endless. And of course temporarily this will numb the pain and provide a sense of reprieve.But a quick fix doesnt really exist, tempting though it may be to believe in, because eventually at some point this marvelous, holistic, intellegent, holographic, system named "human" will have the pain come out somehow,somewhere. Of course if at times it feels too much to bear, this may be the time to allow yourself some time out by getting involved in something that makes you feel good or by being with friends etc - you dont have to torment yourself with it 24/7 its not a test of how much pain you can sustain thats not the idea at all. Just be honest with yourself by not running and hiding from your feelings. Then by staying with them you will grow and learn so much. Taking each day as it comes, sometimes only each moment, bit by bit you will move through the hurt and be able to look back on it. This takes as long as it takes. If you have a nasty cold the body goes through a process of healing. We are self regulatory beings always guided toward homeostasis (balance) and as such have an innate, inbuilt healing mechanism. This applies as much to feelings as to physical (all being connected anyway) So my friend all I can offer is my total empathy for your journey ahead - one I have made a few times and survived, only to find I am a much richer, deeper more compassionate human being for living through, and wiser thus able to know you will also come through this. It does end (as all things eventually do one way or another) however, we can make it last longer than necessary by denial, resistance, avoidance or martyrdom. Just be very kind and patient with yourself as you come to terms with your loss and know you walk a road many have been before you and so are not alone. Take care my thoughts are with you.

Answer 4

Hi-I`m so sorry you are going through this-people can be very cruel on here sometimes-but I sympathise 100% with what you`re feeling-I am in love with someone that I thought felt the same-but it turns out,they don`t-so I know how you feel.

There`s no time limit for this-and if you truly love them,i don`t think you ever get over them-you just learn to live with the loss.

Hope you find someone soon to ease your pain.xx

Answer 5

I don't think you can measure the time when a heart break heals, only you have the control when. Find productive activities to get your mind off her.

Answer 6

this is a deep love your feeling
at the moment you think you cant be with out her
and yes it hurts bad but its the old saying time is a great healer
and you can live with out her.
to find love is rare ,but if the other person doesn't not feel the same than they are not your other half

Answer 7

OMG if u feel like this u should definatly try to make it work