Alright about 3 years ago, I met this guy at school and we went out on a date, I originally met him at school. I usually find myself attracted to older guys because they are more mature and don't play as many games as alot of younger guys. I'm 24, I've got my own place, no kids and he says it's rare to find those qualities in a girl my age. He on the other hand lives with the mother of his son, but that's his situation that I don't pry too much into. He's nice, but he's starting to get really corny to me and we just met up again after 3 years. I'm not looking for a relationship, but I feel like he may be, he comes over and tells me what he's NOT going to do. He likes to smoke cigarettes and marijuana, which I stopped smoking to better my appearance. I want him to go outside each time he smokes, but he doesn't like to. He tries to purposely leave certain things over my house so he has a reason to come back and he's getting annoying. Need to give him the deuces advice?
2007-11-25 01:59:38 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he's such a player! don't talk to him anymore. you're better off without guys like him.
-HeartBrokenForever (Diane N)
2007-11-25 02:09:58 · answer #1 · answered by ♫Di [Pro-Love, Anti-Hate]♫ 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
If he has anything in your house right now that he "left behind", put it in a bag on your outside door nob and let him know it's there. If I were you, I would make it clear that you are not comfortable having any type of relationship with him because:
a. he is living in a family setting with his child and child's mother & there is no appropriate place for you under the circumstances.
b. you don't like smoking of any kind & don't want to be around it.
c. You are 24 years old, have a lot of goals & you don't have the available time to hang around with him and "spin your wheels" (going nowhere).
Of course he finds it "rare" and probably really desirable that you are single, have your own place, no children, and a bright future. He is trying to latch onto that for himself without working for it or earning it. They call this kind of guy a leach. The sad part is that he is putting his best foot forward as he is trying to impress you. Yeah, you are seeing his best! It will be downhill from here. RUN as fast as you can. Don't worry about how, just do it.
2007-11-25 02:21:10 · answer #2 · answered by Mrs. Goddess 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave him alone. I've heard horror stories about disgruntled "baby mama's" getting vindictive and doing things like throwing bleach in the faces of girls who are not even romantically interested in their men, but whom the men appear to be pursuing. No offense to the guy, but he sounds like bad news. As far as smoking goes, he should have no say, unless he's helping you rent. As far as leaving stuff at your crib, ask him if he has all of his stuff when he leaves (that's assuming that you continue to invite hime over, of course).
2007-11-25 02:07:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-16 18:19:11 · answer #4 · answered by rothman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well this gyu is not worth any time your giving him... he has a son and lves with the mom that should tell you something right there ... i think its time to move on cause three years ago was in your past and he certainly isnt worth it now. hope i helped
2007-11-25 02:08:41 · answer #5 · answered by sam s 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What a player. You are much better off without him.
2007-11-25 02:05:02 · answer #6 · answered by the carefree asian ! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well he's just getting into an extra marital affair to have a better life...when he's already married...that doesnt leave you any good oppurtunity....you got to forget him n move ahead in life!!
2007-11-25 02:05:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
he thinks he is a player and he thinks he is cool.
The reality is he is none of those things.
Move on this guy is a bum
2007-11-25 02:02:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
erm... maybe u should tell him off if u really dnt like him.
2007-11-25 02:05:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
Please try to speak to him frankly if possible and explain how you feel....
Cheers
2007-11-25 05:17:12 · answer #10 · answered by Prince 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋