Are you angry at God for all the BS he has put you through?

Question

I'm angry at him because he has dealt me a lot of bad cards in life I'm just really bitter and resentful.

Answer 1

I've questioned God a lot in the past and still do sometimes. I ask, "Why me?" but then the answer comes back, "Why not me?" As far as I've been able to determine, everyone either has some burden, or is going to have one at some time in life. I do not see God as smiting me with misfortune; rather, strengthening me and bringing me through those misfortunes. It sounds like you are in a stage that many people go through; that some must go through, in their process of faith. If you are angry at God, dear, tell God about it. God can take it. It might help you, and God already knows you're mad. Blessings to you during a tough, tough part of the journey.

Answer 2

You know, there's no easy answer to your question, so let's start with that. This is one that some of the greatest minds in human history have wrestled with - and lost!

And maybe that is a good starting point. In Christianity, the answers and revelations are not found by the best and the brightest, but by average people. God picks those to whom He speaks. We don't earn that by being super smarter, wise or even extra pure for that matter. God chose St. Paul to bear His witness even though St. Paul was one of the worst enemies of the early Church.

So what does that have to do with your question? Just that
the question is really profound and hard to answer, but you don't have to have a doctorate in philosophy to come up with an answer to this. The answer can come to you even if you're mad and resentful, and that the real answer will come from your own heart and not from a book. You don't read a book to become a Christian; it's something from your heart, which God will speak to.

I have to disagree with something that Protestants, particularly groups like the Campus Crusade for Christ always say, and that is that "God has a wonderful plan for your life." It might sound good, but it's not Biblical. Or to clarify this, God does not promise anyone a happy life here on earth. He does promise us eternal life in heaven, but not happiness here on earth and that's a big difference.

Christ suffered for us, and in our own suffering we can join ourselves with him. He will take up our sufferings and we can share his Divinity.

OK, that's enough of the generalities. How have I dealt with all the bad cards that I got? Slowly, that's how. Time and growing up has helped a lot. I've learned from people who are a lot older than me that it's our choice how we react to things. This sounds radical but it is our choice how we react when something bad happens. This seems to something that everyone learns by the time they get to be 70 or so. I came to the conclusion that if I'm going to end up thinking that way when I'm 70, why not start now? Anger and resentment serve no purpose, and in a way their victory over you means that those who did you wrong have won.

Prayer certainly helps a lot too. I can recommend something called Divine Mercy, which is a prayer that asks Jesus and God the Father to have mercy on us and the whole world.

And that gets us in to another area, and that is to get outside of your own suffering by helping other people, even if they don't thank you or pay you back in kind. Part of Divine Mercy is to do one merciful deed every day.

Another thing is to just find something to do. Don't sit around with a lot of time on your hands. The great thing about house cleaning is that there's always more to do. I will often ride my bike when I'm angry or depressed because it gets me out of the house. Another thing I've learned is to just stop retelling everyone how bad my life has been. Put it aside. Retelling it just makes us re-live it all.

I hope this helps!

Answer 3

There's your problem you're angry and bitter. Let all that go and be thankful for all the good in your life. People are always focusing on the bad instead of the good. Set yourself free and thank God for all your blessings. I've been handed a lot of bad cards also but if you're honest you had a choice in what game you were playing.

Answer 4

God hasn't dealt me anything messed up. Everything I've gone through has made me a stronger woman. Praising God in the midst of a painful and chaotic storm is a credit to your soul, and having bitterness against Him doesn't do me any good. A lot of the sh*t I have gone through is a result of choices that I have made that I shouldn't have. I have to evaluate WHY I am going through things, and if there is something that I need to repent of. The wages of sin, it's death. That's what He says. The gift of God is life everlasting...forgiveness. He IS my ever present help in time of need. He ALWAYS answers my prayers, and I am not going to hold a grudge against Him because He says "no" because I know that He knows what is best for me. If as a parent, I always say "yes" to my kids, they could really end up getting hurt. Same thing with Him.
(hug)

Answer 5

I heard a story before. A person just came to Heaven. He exclaimed "Yes, I finally made it to Heaven!" The guard guarding Heaven asked, "This is Heaven?" The person said, "You mean you dont know?" The guard asked " Where do you come from?" The person said "Hell". The guard looked confused. The person said " No wonder you don't know where Heaven is. You have never gone to Hell.

I take up the same mentality. When I think that my life is very bad, I remind myself that God has given me a life better than a lot of people, and that my life is considered Heaven to a lot of people. Therefore, I remained content and live happily no matter how many bad cards I faced. If I faced any obstacles, I will take them as a challenge and solve and overcome them .

Answer 6

It's easy to praise god when thing go well
but when bad things happen it is just as easy to blame God

when usually 9 out of 10 times it was my fault I'm in the mess in the first place

Answer 7

My God is a loving Father who tenderly watches over me no matter what He might ask me to go through.

No matter what we go through, we go through it together.

Jesus' life, death, and resurrection have convinced me of this.

Harboring long-term anger and resentment . . . towards anyone . . . is like plunking yourself down next to a melting-down nuclear facility. Radioactive. Toxic. No good.

I'm more concerned for you because you say your heart is filled with anger, than I am because of any "bad cards" you may have been dealt. Bad cards can't harm you if you walk with Him.

But the anger, that drives you from Him, and that can destroy you.

Answer 8

Can you honestly blame God for how you choose to play your cards? You could have folded and waited for the next hand to be dealt.....or leave the table and go play slots!

Answer 9

NO! I need that BS to become a stronger individual! It's just a part of life!

Answer 10

At least you're honest, Corey...
No... I am NOT angry...
I am a Buddhist and we believe that KARMA (causes and effects) from this as well as past lives causes both the good and bad events in our lives... Our practice of chanting (Nam-Myoho-Renge-Kyo) both eradicates negative Karma and builds good Karma...