I am very frustrated w/ my parents. It's always the same argueing, curing, and yelling on weekends. My thanksgiving break was crappy and oh yea last night was a whopper! My mom bought some brandy and my dad slept in the living room. She came in and deflated the mattress he slept on and got mad. They started argueing over some woman I've never even heard before. She called the cops and next thing you know dad's gone. Now its 4-5 AM this morning he knocks on the door and she lets him in. In the bedroom they start argueing again and i couldn't sleep for another hour. Now around 6:30 AM she gets up and tries to wake me up for church. I tell her no and she keep comming in my room. She didn't say anything about going before. I had no clean clothes to wear since they were all dirty. And my eyes were extremely heavy. What was I supposed to do? She then said I was the devil like her daddy. How am I the devil if i don't do anything to hurt people? Now I'm home alone. Was I wrong?
2007-11-24 23:55:25 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Wow... I'm really sorry your break was so stressful. Since I don't know exactly what's going on with your parents, all I'll say is that sometimes things get crazy around the holiday's. Your mother is probably not angry at you; the situation may be too much for her to handle and she was frustrated and released her anger towards you when you weren't the one she was mad at. Maybe she just needed to talk on the way to church. See if she needs to talk. Sorry again about your Thanksgiving.
2007-11-25 03:48:47 · answer #1 · answered by D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your parents have issues beyond your control. They are arguing and it sounds like they are very unhappy together. Because of that your mom may have taken it out on you.
Parents aren't perfect and I am sure you've done nothing wrong. Marriage is hard and all couples fight. It's probably good that your dad left the house and got away from the situation. She was very upset with him and sometimes walking away is the best thing to do until you calm down. I'm sure she doesn't think you are the devil or your dad for that matter. We all say things when we're angry that we don't mean, right? That doesn't make it right for her to say but I that's why she said it.
Is there anyone you can talk to about this? Can you speak to one or both of them about it when things calm down? If I were you I'd try to find the best way I could to express how their fighting is making me feel to them. They should hear that they are making your homelife so sad.
If talking makes you uncomfortable, maybe you can write each of them a letter saying so. That is something I do sometimes when I am too afraid to speak to someone I love about something important, face to face. Just let them know that you wish they'd stop fighting so much and how it seems to be getting worse. You have to be careful to be not point fingers or tell them who's more wrong than the other. Just let them know somehow that you want things to be better. Hopefully they will listen and see that it's affecting you too and want to make a change. Good luck to you.
2007-11-25 01:52:22 · answer #2 · answered by mickeymel9 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yikes!! Sorry you are having such a bad thanksgiving holiday. Don't worry about what you wear to church and many people often fall asleep in church. It is such a peaceful place. Go to church if you still can. Don't make excuses if you can't. If you sit down to dinner with your family say Grace very nicely praising the Lord. Pray right now to the Lord to give you strength to deal with this difficult situation and to help you to forgive your parents for the awful way they act and the rude things they say. Keep forgiving your parents forever because they sound like they have a lot of problems and you have to try to stay sane around them. Good Luck and Merry Christmas.
2007-11-25 00:29:41 · answer #3 · answered by slysis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom has control and anger issues. Your best bet is to protect yourself until you are old enough to leave. If things get violent you need to call the cops on her.
2007-11-25 03:06:43 · answer #4 · answered by J D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old are you.get a job and you will be able to ex cape the drama of parents.all the drama keeps the children in there lives.start doing your own cloths.then you will have all the clean cloths you want after all your home alone.
2007-11-25 01:57:50 · answer #5 · answered by Marilyn H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dang, maybe your mom and dad are having a fight about something you don't know. I say stay out of there way. When my parents get in big fights I comfort my big sister and just let fight, it is non of our business.
2007-11-25 02:11:38 · answer #6 · answered by ♥Allison♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot control anyone else's behavior only your own. Eventually your parents behavior will be a distant memory, just ignore it, its not about you.
2007-11-25 00:49:26 · answer #7 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
DEVORCE!
2007-11-25 04:11:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋