i have been talking to a guy online, his personality is ok, i mean hes not persfect but i truly am not attracted to him physically however i feel guilty not meeting him for that reason. Do you think my reasons are legitimate. Personally i am rather attractive and dont look for good looking guys specifically as i care more about personality but surely it is important to have a balance otherwise you'll never be happy and content right???
2007-11-24 23:25:45 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
physical attraction is the first step into liking someone i think.. and if they have a good personality it is what make you fall in love with them.....have to have both or you will not be happy..that is why there are all sorts of shapes, faces, and personalities out there someone for everybody...good luck out there lots of people you like 50% they are called friends do not mistake them as being a lover..need 100 %
2007-11-24 23:42:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you haven't met him because you are not attracted to him physically...you're not going to have much of a problem with him as a "partner", Sweetie. Most folks (who aren't mail-order spouses or in prison) don't usually become romantic "partners" with people they haven't actually met in person yet.
Why do you feel guilty? If you haven't been lying to him, haven't made promises you think you're not likely to keep, then you have nothing to feel quilty about.
If you have or if deep down inside being physically attracted IS important (and you know it is...even a wart-hog has to feel attracted to another wart-hog before she'll mate with him) do this guy a favor. Tell him you met a wonderful guy a couple of weeks back and then end things. Then start looking for your real match instead of trying to settle.
2007-11-24 23:55:26 · answer #2 · answered by Kaye 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good question. I don't have a lot of confidence in how I look, so it would be nice to think women would find a guy really attractive if he had a great personality, but when I read what you write, well this guy is not your Mr Right, there are millions of guys out there, you will know when you have found the guy you want, as he will make you feel wow. This guy doesn't do that.
2007-11-24 23:40:48 · answer #3 · answered by Carlton J 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If so, how do you reckon couples over 50 last?
Physical attraction kickstarts love, which erases the need for physical attraction. Love can build slower in many other ways. If you fall in love with his personality and soul, you won't care how he looks.
But if he's just some new guy that you don't really care for in any way and the only problem is your guilt over telling him this, just let him down lightly. Tell him how hot some other guy is. Let him think you're shallow. Tell him you think of him as a brother.
I think someone is shallow only if you feel emotionally drawn to him but shut it off because of their looks.
2007-11-25 00:25:45 · answer #4 · answered by Persona 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's important initially, but in the long run, looks are less important, as your relationship grows, you'll be attracted to their personality. As for meeting somone off the net, they can always pretend to have such a great personality, but when you get to know the real person, you realise they are full of it. Either way, good luck.
2007-11-24 23:32:43 · answer #5 · answered by ǝsɹnuʎxǝs 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I use to always think that you do need physical and emotional attraction.
Now that im in a relationship - looks do not matter anymore once you fall in love with the person. You start to love the things that use to annoy you. You start to be physically attracted to the person, when it wasn't present at the begining.
2007-11-24 23:34:39 · answer #6 · answered by Glamourous_Girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes, and believe me, I've been there.. you want to find love so bad, that you're willing to settle.. But you should always be attracted to your partner. If not, you will never truly be happy. They don't necessarily have to be gorgeous - I'm sure you'll agree that sometimes we're attracted to average or even downright ugly men.. (men have that luxury that women don't seem to have - lol).. They just have to have something special that attracts us..I say wait for someone that you are attracted to..
2007-11-24 23:31:28 · answer #7 · answered by mj'smomma 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
its been said that its the personality that counts and which is true but at the same time we do reckon for that physical attraction somehow otherwise its very hard to bring yourself to be closer. by experience, i had a phone pal before and we pretty much fell in love thru this...and came a time for us to meet in person and wow! the lack of physical attraction totally killed my feelings. the phone calls begun to falter & then stop.
2007-11-24 23:59:46 · answer #8 · answered by jables 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are not looking for anything serious, then sure met him.. Good friends are hard to come by. If you are looking for that special someone then of course being physically attracted to them is very important.
2007-11-24 23:33:44 · answer #9 · answered by Sugarplum 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heck Yes! You can't seriously be involved with anyone without being physically attracted to them. What's the point? Do you plan on having sex in your relationship sometime down the line? If you're not physically attracted to him the act will just be gross! I hate to admit it but I've done it before.
2007-11-25 02:28:34 · answer #10 · answered by Sweet Honey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋