i wanna get my toungue pierced but hubby is against it !!!?

Question

i have wanted to get my toungue pierced for as long as i can remember but hubby is dead against it should i just get it done anyway ? plus does it really hurt loads or is it not to bad ???

Answer 1

Tongue piercings are stupid.

You have to ask yourself what's more important - a hole in your tongue or keeping your husband happy on this particular issue. I think the best choice is overwhelmingly obvious. You could even use it to blackmail him into giving you massages, buying you clothes and doing the washing up.

Answer 2

it depends why he doesn't want it pierced. My boyfriend HATES nose piercings, so I won't get one out of respect for him - I'd be upset if he went and spent £30+ on something that I hated. It's about compromise though. Maybe he's just worried, because it is dangerous. If you do go for it, be sure to go to a reputable piercer. You need to ask them if they use an autoclave, and if they say no, hotfoot it out of their shop. I'm sure you know, but autoclaving is the legal requirement to sterilise equipment, and with a tongue piercing, they use a huge bar to pierce it initially, because your tongue might swell. They then ask you to come back and they change it to a nice normal one. But, the large bars get recycled. I know that sounds really grim, but the autoclave sterilises things 110% - the force from them is so powerful, it could blow off the front of a building. Not all places recycle them, but it's normal if they do. Mine did!

As for aftercare, invest in some Listerine and gargle with it twice a day - try not to do it more or your tongue will turn yellow. Mine did - not attractive. But it only lasted a few days. Admittedly, the tongue does swell and it's uncomfortable. It should only last three days or so, but you'll be living on soft foods or smoothies - make sure you have a blender!

BUT please please, go to a reputable piercer. The tongue is so complex - they need to look closely and find where the veins in your tongue are. If they pierce a vein, you can bleed and bleed for hours but not realise, in which case you're in trouble. I'm not trying to scare you - I knew all of this before I got mine done, and mine was fine.

You should talk to your husband though. He may think you're doing it just to spite him, and that's not really very good. If you absolutely want it done, just make sure he knows it's nothing against him, and that he might like it! It's actually quite a treat for men once they get over the concept if you know what I mean.... ;)

Answer 3

What are you, thirteen years old? Who are you trying to impress? If he doesn't want it done, are you doing it to gain the attraction of other guys? Do you cheat on him or something and need to give better oral? ( i know thats a bit uncllaed for, but he could be thinking this if he doesnt want u to but u want to real bad)

Think about this. Anyway, it is no that painful from what I hear, but kinda painful. But yea think about what I said.

You would look pretty sluty and trashy in my opinion. Especially if you are anywhere near 30 years old. Or really even in your twenties.



To the girl below me--- horrible attitude towards a husband and ur marriage will probly not work out. It's a marriage, not a "totally disregard what he says and not eevn let him have any kind of say in my life" It's a bonding of them into one grand relationship.. not some "f off bcz I do what I want, boy" WHat the heck is wrong with girls like u.It's a huge commitment to each other for life, not some "I do what I want cuz ur not my daddy , and I act like im 12" type thing. It's a freaking marriage....Some girls r so quick to call the "controlling" card, when they really just want to do whatever the hell they want and not think it would be good to value the opiinion of osmeoe who cares about you. Stupid ignorant fat headed bitches. God, some girls r such stupid spoiled slots these days. I bet u could fit a .50 cal muzzle loader up ur cooch

Answer 4

I don't blame him for protesting.

He's the one who has to look at it, not you.

If it's going to upset him every time you open your mouth and he has to look at it then ask yourself is it worth it?

Also, it's not very nice to encounter one of these when you're having a passionate kiss. In fact, it can be a sure fire way of killing passion for good - think about that. (trust me on this...)

This is one of those things where you must consider the "We" instead of just the "Me". Sorry if you think that's preachy but it's true. Your married, so "give a bit" applies. I'm sure that he's forgone things in favour of a successful marriage (not necessarily jewelry but perhaps his weekly lad's night out or something).

Now the medical bit, which you probably don't want to know about - but you should be aware of...
Medically, it is very bad to have permanent metalwork in your mouth. Unless it's pure gold it will eventually tarninsh and may even react badly with your individual saliva.
The folds of the clip will trap food and will be a snug place for bacteria to set up a home and you'll have to live with the resulting problems (smell, ulcers, etc.) which the proponents of toungue piercing never mention. Unless, of course, you're prepared to remove it every night for a good scrub (including the hole in your tongue).

It will hurt. Running a spike or hot iron through someone's tounge was a favourate mediaeval torture technique. I don't suppose that the executioners would have done that for fashion's sake.

Answer 5

I think your old enough to make your own decision on this one. If your husband loves you then he will go with your wishes no matter what, after all it is only a piercing that can be removed if you don't like it or decide you no longer want it.
I have had mine done for 5 years and as for the people saying it is slutty, IGNORE them as that is just ignorant, it is personal taste and choice so go for it if you want it done!!!

Answer 6

i do no longer possibly fancy it. of direction it hurts,the needle will pierce your toungue and as your toungue is a comfortable section,i think of it will harm greater desirable than getting your ears pierced.after that,you gotta be careful of infections,because of the fact nutrition ought to get caught and reason infections.

Answer 7

It doesn't hurt badly at all. You can feel it going through but its not like "omg im dieing"! For about a week after its uncomfortable and swolen, but hey it's worth it! Whats a week compared to having a neat tongue for as long as you choose?

If i got a new boyfriend (although im happy with my current one hehe) and they told me to take my 19 piercings (including tongue+nipples) out I'd tell them to go **** themself.

If your husband loves you and respects you, he should accept that a tongue piercing will make you happy so be OK with it. Your happiness should count over what he thinks looks good - right?
Piercings arent forever, you could always take it out too. He might learn to love it! (besides, oral is 10x better for him after hehe. It doesn't feel too different kissing either- my bf has his tongue pierced too it doesnt get in the way for either of us)

Answer 8

My wife has her tongue pierced and believe me, for one certain sexual act, it really adds to it. ;)

That said, I'm told it does hurt ALOT. The girl before my wife left the studio crying and with a mouthful of blood.

It's also the four days afterwards when your tongue swells to twice its size and you'll feel like you've got a constant headache in your mouth.

You won't be able to eat or speak properly either.

Not that I'm trying to talk you out of it. You're your own person and if you really want to do this, then do it. Your husband doesn't own your or control you. If you want to do it, do it!

Answer 9

a tongue piercing will give you a fair bit of discomfort, immediately after it is done the tongue will swell up and stay that way for a few days, a tongue piercing can also cause bad breath and chip tooth enamel.
personally i recommend a more intimate piercing, for BOTH of you, i have a prince Albert piercing and my wife is in heaven during love making, it touches in all the right places,

Answer 10

I wouldn't really want to be in your husband's position. I would want you to do what you wanted, but I'd find it icky. Kissing someone with a tongue piercing worries me. Like.. "Am I going to rip it out? Am I going to hurt them?"
So maybe it's better not to?