Uunfortunately, it has happened to me more than once. A woman invites me to a club, and when we get there she flirts and dances with everyone else but me. I try to get her attention, and she talks to other people anyway, or lets other people monopolize her. I am tired of such humiliations, and I am done with trying to have a relationship with a woman. It is always like this: either they say they have no time, or they lead you on and then they give you the cold shoulder. And don't tell me that there are plenty of fish in the sea, because they all do the same thing WITH ME. What shall I do to prevent further frustration?
2007-11-24 21:00:55 · 18 answers · asked by Andrea M 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Stop allowing yourself to be used. It's obvious that these women just wanted someone on their arms to get in the clubs and/or they needed a ride. I hope you didn't pay the cover charges too!
But don't let what a few users do turn you against all women. Don't give them that much power over your life.
The next time a girl invites you to a club, politely turn her down.
Go to the club on your own and find you somebody to flirt and dance with.
2007-11-24 21:09:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, I used to fall into this same trap. But, I found out from hard experience, that if you want to meet up with a girl, NEVER go to her. ALWAYS have her show up where YOU are going. Unfortuneately it's all a big game. You're losing the "game" by looking like a puppy dog and following her around all over the place all the time. As soon as you show you aren't in control, then she immediately will start to get bored - which = flirting with other guys. I wish I was wrong, but this is how it is. Adjust your game, and notice the difference.
Good luck man.
2007-11-25 05:15:09 · answer #2 · answered by Joe R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are being used by these women and you need to wake up to the type of woman that does that. All women aren't that way. Also, if you would start talking to other women at the club (and guys), you know....have a good time yourself instead of worrying about her (but of course you cut off the drinks when she wanders). Work on your looks and personality b/c something tells me that somewhere in there you are lacking or you wouldn't be treated this way repeatedly. They want to go out but they don't have the money, so they "use" you. Sorry bud, but that's the truth and I wish you luck (don't get sour on all women).
2007-11-25 05:07:35 · answer #3 · answered by Gottaloveher 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's obviously playing you for attention; when they do this at the clubs, it's usually a way of them telling you "hey look at me, i'm in control here; i can get any man i want." As much as that might offend girls who are reading this, it is the truth. They want you to see that they are wanted so that it will make you want them more.
Act like you don't give a sh** and go talk to other girls; that ALONE will make them think, "why is he not paying attention to me?" and then it makes them think there is something wrong with them; and that my friend is the moment they come seeking attention from YOU!
2007-11-25 05:05:26 · answer #4 · answered by shaRT 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should analyze the type of women you are selecting. If everyone you date turns out to be a *****, it's not that women in general are such bitches, it's you making a choice that ends up that way.
2007-11-25 05:15:18 · answer #5 · answered by Kerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay...lots of women will do this!
Some of the reasons...1) For SAFETY! It can be dangerous for a woman to go out on her own. Having you there makes it safer. 2) She couldn't get a girlfriend to go with her, and she doesn't want to go alone. Why? Cuz if she goes alone, she's admitting she wants to go and meet guys. If she goes with you, then she's just going out to "have fun" and no one will think she's a ****. (society doesn't like women being sluts...which is stupid!).
Your best bet is not going with women that invite you to clubs, but rather inviting other women elsewhere instead.
Good luck
2007-11-25 05:05:39 · answer #6 · answered by ra 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes they play a lot of games. If someone did that to me I would just leave them at the club. Plus that seems like more of a place to find a date then to go with a date.
2007-11-25 05:04:32 · answer #7 · answered by days_o_work 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
hmm.
sometimes i think the women are trying to get a reaction out of you, seeing how you react to all her flirting.
however if they say they have no time, maybe you aren't quite the right person for them.
i think you just need to understand that.
this advice probably sucks to you, but thats most likely the best you're gonna get. you can't read the different womens minds, so you'll never know what they're gonna do, or why they do it.
2007-11-25 05:07:44 · answer #8 · answered by Amanda P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Andrea. You need to change your name. With the name Andrea, girls think they're taking another girl to go clubbing. You also may want to grow a beard and talk in a lower voice. Male hormones would help, but make sure you get a prescription for them.
2007-11-25 05:06:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do the same thing, but do it before they start doing it. They will be drawn to you for attention, cause that's all that is, attention. Or try flirting with her and I mean really flirting with her. It's human to want attention, it's apart of what makes us who we are.
2007-11-25 05:06:28 · answer #10 · answered by sportsterwolf 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋