along with my daughter, me and my girl have 4. i love all of them very much...and what a blessing!!!But...we never get a minute!!!! mom is under bombardment with either a fight in need of justice or just inquisitive minds seeking answers. 3 are young teens, one is 6. I love all my girls...but damn! usually i'm left just stunned all day as i can't even get a chance to gather my thoughts and i hate to see mom getting run over by this pink tsunami! she says she likes it!!!!!But daddy needs mommy too!!!! I'm looking for advice here!!!!!!!AAAAH!!!! can't we all just get along!!!!is my girl spoiling them? should i just roll with it? WHERE do i put my foot down...as we are a fairly new couple, though we've known eachother for a few years?
2007-11-24 19:28:10 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Send the kids over to grandparents for a night or two and just spend the time with your spouse.
2007-11-24 19:32:11 · answer #1 · answered by mlvue 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You need to present a united front. Sit down and agree on the ground rules. Set the boundaries and enforce them! They should be the same for all of the children. When the rules are broken there must be punishment. It shouldn't matter if they are her kids or your kid. One set of rules, one set of parents enforcing them together and consistently.
It's also important to make time for you as a couple alone! Hire a babysitter (I'd suggest a couple since there's so much chaos). Ship them off to different friends or family (so no one friend of family member is overloaded with the chaos of all 4).
Your relationship will eventually falter if you don't give it the proper attention and it sounds like the chaos could do some major damage to it if left undealt with.
I only have two and we always make double arrangements so they won't be together. They enjoy getting to go on their own and having time away and getting the friend of family member all to themselves. The one babysitting is also spared any chaos they might cause if together.
Best of luck!
2007-11-25 03:45:04 · answer #2 · answered by MISS H 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Get a babysitter or family member to watch your children 1 time a week. Take your better half for a date. Maybe next summer plan a second honeymoon. Your wife may love being a mom but surely could use some rest and adult time.
When was the last time you gave her a nice massage? Spoil her a little and lite some fires ;). I am sure you have not forgotten how to do it.
2007-11-25 10:57:28 · answer #3 · answered by Iris R 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should try really, really hard to find a babysitter you can trust to keep the kids for a few days in a row! You two need a break to get some time for yourselves. You could go on a vacation, or maybe send them away on a trip to see a relative. They'd probably love getting to go somewhere alone.
If their mom still doesn't have any interest in getting time alone with you... Well, that's another problem entirely!
2007-11-25 03:32:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
You need to arrange for a date night out once a week, once every two weeks, at minimum one night a month.
This is a 'date' where you're expected to behave as you did when you first wooed her and she is expected to dress up as she did when she first attracted you.
If you can afford it and/or cover your bases at home, spend the night in a hotel on those nights or, at least once every few months.
The key to handling this situation is in working to keep romance and excitement within the marriage, giving your wife something special to look forward to and awakening the stars in her eyes when you do.
Be creative and think of her as your girlfriend, still.
2007-11-25 16:14:26 · answer #5 · answered by wider scope 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You and Mom need to make date night one night a week. Make it happen, even if you can't go somewhere, get the kids to got to Grandma's house, maybe split kids up with your Mom and Hers. Good Luck, even a drive and alone time, maybe an hour or two every week.
2007-11-25 03:49:53 · answer #6 · answered by itsmetrea 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
let the teenagers babysit and take mom out let her know you want some one on one time every now and the it could just be a walk in the park or go to a museum out to eat rent a hotel for one night just take a break from the kids at least once a month.
2007-11-25 03:33:30 · answer #7 · answered by j_thang_2001 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
As the adage says....2's company, 3's a crowd, 4's too many, 5's not allowed.
2007-11-25 07:28:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Nothing is more important to her right now than her children. Young teens are in need of their mother for guidance and she needs to be there for them.
I think it is selfish that you say you need her too. You decided to date a woman with 3 children!!! A woman with 3 children should be dedicated to her children not to some man! She is doing exactly what she is supposed to be doing, if you don't like it maybe you should find someone with less on her plate.
2007-11-25 03:32:44 · answer #9 · answered by Leizl 6 · 1⤊ 4⤋
y dont u help her
2007-11-25 03:33:40 · answer #10 · answered by silkydreamgirl10 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋