Its not that we dont "do it" . I asked him about it and he 's like " you never initiate it and italways a quickie"
I do initiate . So Im thinking its an excuse and as far as the "quickie" thing , well , we live at his parents house and I have a 2 year old son . When we get a moment alone its never for very long so we have to be quick. So that must also be an excuse.
I just am so hurt because what he expect from me is very unreasonable. Then he wants to break up because of it . He's out in the RV again , getting drunk and masturbating and Im just like ...well I dont know what to think . All I know is this sucks > I hate this .
2007-11-24 18:57:30 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Im in here crying while he's out there blaming me for him being there.
2007-11-24 18:59:08 · update #1
girl, if he's out in the RV masterbating, make sure he has a rag to wipe it all up!
2007-11-25 14:03:17 · answer #1 · answered by tissybelle 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's a bit sad if getting drunk by himself in a RV constitutes a good time for him. If you really want my opinion then I would suggest (if possible) living somewhere other than his parents house. It's a difficult situation for you, even if you get along with his parents you will always feel on the back foot or uncomfortable, particularly if he's threatening to break up all the time. It would be interesting to see how he behaves in a different environment where you are both on equal terms. I don't want to insult your partner because couples have ups and downs and we obviously don't know all the details, but he does appear to be a bit juvenile.
2007-11-25 07:37:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You're with the wrong guy. Sorry, wish your description held some hope, but it doesn't. Plenty of guys out there that delight in having a nice Lady at hand, rather than an image on the screen. Besides, "you" and your son deserve better.
2007-11-26 11:41:58 · answer #3 · answered by Iggy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
in relationships its never about the facts...its about the emotions and feelings.
it is a fact that you initiate it, but he doesn't feel that way. what counts most here?
sadly, the way he feels.
for me, when a guy shuts down or starts giving lame excuses its automatically registered to me that he no longer wants to invest in the relationship, and the sooner I get out the better.
idk if thats the case with your guy....try having a couple of days for yourselves....no babies or parents, no friends, no sports channel...just a full dedication to each other and see what happens.
2007-11-25 11:52:44 · answer #4 · answered by still breathing 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to read stuff like this, I think this is one reason why people should wait to have sex until they are married, some of you are going to hate this but, my husband and I waited and we have incredible sex life, no hang ups, no remember that person did this and you don't, it is the answer, wait, as far as the not initiating you probably don't and don;t even realize it, you should mark it down on your calendar, : )
2007-11-26 02:07:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This seems stupid. If he prefers the company of his hand and some porn? Get rid of him. He obviously has his priorities wrong. You should be the center of his attention not some porn... Especially if he isn't being sexually starved or anything. And yes both of his reasons do sound like excuses.
2007-11-25 03:02:09 · answer #6 · answered by Canuck2222 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like ur guy is addicted to porn as what frequently happens, find a guy that is living in reality not a fantasy world. No gal other than a prostitute is going to try imitating what is observed in a porn movie just to please her partner unless she so chooses and enjoys doing it. If she doesn`t she should say no and stick to her guns. What he needs to do is turn the porn off and turn his significant other on.
2007-11-25 03:21:08 · answer #7 · answered by flamingo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look, you need to have at least a night alone. Talk it over with his parents to at least leave for one or two hours. Sex that lasts 20min-40min is more satisfying then a quickie. You have to negotiate, and you said he has a trailer? Do it there!
2007-11-25 03:02:47 · answer #8 · answered by J 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well tell him to go get a room so you two can have some privacy. also he is acting like a pervert. so tell him to get it together or else. dont let this sex maniac ruin your life with his obessision. you deserve to be loved in all kinds of ways not just sexual. or does he know this.
2007-11-25 03:02:48 · answer #9 · answered by eaglestraces123 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is self-absorbed and doesn't care about your feelings. I suggest you think about breaking up with him. He obviously doesn't care...be sure to break up with him first before you get hurt more.
2007-11-25 03:04:27 · answer #10 · answered by Mav17 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋