Depression.. ?

Question

I'm 14. I have no problems in my life other than small ones. Yet, I feel so depressed inside. No reason at all neither. It sounds cheezy but, it feels like my heart is sinking and I can't pull it out. I can laugh and look like I'm having a great time but, I don't actually feel the joy.. I don't know what's going on. It's been 2 years already.

I went out with some guy, and it was over couple months later. I was really dpresssed but im 100% over him now it's just I still feel like, scars of depression left over. It feels horrible. I wanna be able to laugh and like really, laugh. I feel like I'm lacking emotion or soemthing. I feel emotionless .. yet I can feel angry, jealous, depressed and sad but I can't be happy at all. Basically the negatives. I wanna be care-free again like I once was..

How do I get rid of this? I feel so stressed out when I think of it..

Please don't suggest that I still like the dude. Because I'm 100% certain I don't.

Answer 1

OMG I'm going thru the same exact thing right now!(I'm the same age too). IDK, maybe just spending more time with your friends or playing an instrument can brighten your day at least a little.

Answer 2

I'm not trying to sound condescending, but you are young..and you should NOT feel like this. I know it's really hard but maybe you could tell your parents or a school counsler that you need to talk to a therapist.

It's very possible that you could be dealing with deppression or anxiety or both. It's nothing to be embarressed about....if you look it up (NIMH.com, NAMI.com) or just google....depression and anxiety are literally a chemical imbalance in your brain. It doesn't mean you're crazy, you're not...it just means things aren't working like they should be. If you're sick you go to the doctor...this is one of those things that needs to be treated. Just no blood and needles. Keep an open mind and ask for some help...you'd be suprised at how understanding ppl can be. And I'm sure it's just not "a guy". Ask for help...I wish you the best of luck. Plus if you deal with it when you're young, it's sooooooo much easier. Good luck.

Answer 3

Do you think you are really depressed or could it be that your feelings are deeply hurt because you trusted him and gave up to him something very valuable that you'll never get back...?
On the other hand you did mention this has been going on for a couple of years;you may have some type of chemical imbalance and are in need of a medical checkup.Please talk to your mom or other adult that you trust as soon as possible.Emotions have a way of getting seriously out of control and may cause you to do harm to yourself. Be strong,find the strength and courage to seek and ask for help. I'll be praying for you.

Answer 4

It does sound like you are clinically depressed. I would suggest talking to a doctor and explaining it like you have, so eloquently.

There is an imbalance of chemicals in your brain but with medication this can be adjusted. You won't need to take it forever just until your better and functioning like you should. Best of luck with this and I hope you get better and start feeling positive and happy about life again.
There are a number of websites, like beyond blue, about depression you can look at if you haven't already.

Answer 5

i've recently gotten over something that was somewhat similar. you don't sound crazy, you sound like the typical teenager. i'm not saying that it's unimportant or anything. sometimes just hanging out with friends more often helps or doing things that you used to enjoy.

have you gotten to the cutting or suicidal stage? i really do hope not. then it's important to go and talk to someone, whether you want to or not. i used to cut. for a while i kept it secret but eventually i got caught. i hated the person who found out for a while and told the school therapist but realized that i really was glad for it otherwise i'd still probably be doing it. try not to ever consider it or fall into that trap.

i also have noticed that ever since my parents sent me to a therapist i've pretty much tried to stat out of trouble. i don't sneak out as much, i say no to things more often. i haven't really told her anything too personal but it's reassuring to have the feeling that someone's there for you.

try to get those good friends that'll always be there for you. the kind that you can call up at 3 in the morning to come and get you, if need be. they're almost more important than family, and, in some cases, they are more important.

i wouldn't suggest medication at this time. like i said before, it sounds like you're a normal teenager. medication doesn't seem to be very helpful except for in serious cases, i think. it's caused a few of my friends to get even more messed up, but that's just my suggestion.

anyway, i hope things work out for you and good luck. ^.^

Answer 6

You are 14. You should go out there and enjoy yourself. Get some good hobbies and find things you love to do. I am sure your parents don't mind supporting your hobbies to keep your mind healthy.

If it's about a boy, you just need to keep moving and go out with other boys so you won't miss the first one. Keep moving!

Answer 7

this is typical for a 14 year old , your body is going through many changes and its making you feel wacko. dont trip, there is nothing wrong with you everything just seems ultra dramatic. 10 years from now, you will look back and think of these as the "good ole days". try to smile, if it werent for bad times, you wouldnt recognize the good times.

Answer 8

You probably do have depression or some hormonal thing which is normal. Just see a doctor and they can prescribe you some pills which will help.

Answer 9

get into drugs.
trust me it'll help.