to keep the religious community happy?
2007-11-24 18:11:53 · 55 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
just to clear this up, i am not gay, i just think it's horrible that religous people make such a big deal about gay people.
2007-11-24 18:19:58 · update #1
My friend tried to do that. He got married to this girl straight outta high school.
We all knew he didn't really love her. We knew that he was gay.
The result was quite tragic. The marital problems got so bad that he finally came out. He had kids at this point.
With the pressure of his wife, family and parents, he killed himself.
so no. society should be accepting of people's happiness even if it does mean being attratced to someone of the same sex.
2007-11-24 18:15:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 2⤋
Definitely not! Marriage should always be based on honesty. And a gay marrying and pretending to be straight is pure deception. In Dante's Inferno, traitors, deceivers and betrayers are said to go to the very bowels of hell. Don't believe in religion? Those are still morally among the greatest of wrongs. And for what purpose would you pretent to be straight and marry. Are you ashamed of being gay? Do you expect children? The second would be very wrong. Children need stable families and that requires both parents of the two sexes. I can sympathize or support gays in most things but not parenting children. And if you're covering being gay, you can do that easily enough by only informing those you might be interested in. You don't often see straight people advertising the fact to strangers. Most people really don't care about your sexual orientation unless they become involved or propositioned.
2007-11-24 18:30:37 · answer #2 · answered by genghis1947 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are 3 questions here...
Q: Should someone who is gay pretend to be straight?
A: Never pretend.
Q: ...and get married to someone of the opposite sex?
A: Not unless that person has made a life commitment to become heterosexual and fallen in love with a person of the opposite sex; otherwise the homosexual tendencies/temptations would shatter the relationship.
Q: ...to keep the religious community happy?
A: No. It's not any "community of people" you should be trying to please. Look for a higher accountability.
2007-11-24 18:30:02 · answer #3 · answered by cmnsns 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the religious community saw the ''reprecussions'' caused by such an evil act,to an unknowing partner
they would have to be either,hypocrites or evil to condone this action!!
this happend to my best friend,she was married for 10 years before she found out,he never even had sex with her (maybe once every 6 months)she stayed all that time,because she didnt believe in divorce!
she tore herself apart,trying to figure whats wrong with her?
she ended up becoming an emotional invalid
only someone who has experience this first hand can testify to the devastating effects such an evil choice would do to another human being!
he never even gave her children,obviously,thats good for the children,but imagine living a life like that,without even having children to compfort you??
I could go on forever,but I wont,I can tell you that my God fearing friend that Ive known all my life will never be the same!
the damage he caused her is irreeprable!
she still beieves in God,but can you blame her for doubting religion!!
Id love for this religious community to 'witness'' what their preaching does to innoocent believers!!
2007-11-24 19:54:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
While historically it has been done in more homo -repressive times in order for gay people to fit into and survive in the community at large and not just the religious community. One would hope that in today's more enlightened world that kind of dishonesty would no longer be necessary.
All relationships live or die with the honesty of the people involved in them. To start off a marriage based on a lie will doom that marriage to failure-
2007-11-24 18:27:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No because that isnt fair to the person they marry.Someone who is gay or has gay tendencies should stay single and pray to God hard about it as well as avoid things that make them want to be gay.Just because a person thinks their gay doesnt mean they are or that God cant heal them. Being gay is ok for some people but its not ok by God.Remember Sodom and gommorah?Many Gay people suffer through years of guilt not to mention that some of the sex pratices such as daily anal sex are dangerous.Anal sex can lead to alot of health problems such as fissures ,infections,hemmoroids.Its not nice to dwell on I know.
2007-11-24 18:23:51 · answer #6 · answered by butterflyspy 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'd say no. Is it really better for the community if people are just faking something as important as that? And why should things be as they've been in a religious community? A good/healthy community can change with times.
2007-11-24 18:19:44 · answer #7 · answered by M o 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Definitely not. First of all, you would be completely screwing over the person you marry considering you will never really love them that way. Second of all, you're not being true to yourself. You'll end up living your whole life without knowing true love and happiness. Then when you finally realize you've made a huge mistake, you might have kids that will be broken hearted that you've been hiding something so huge. And you also might be too old to get out and date the people you should be dating.
2007-11-24 18:17:49 · answer #8 · answered by cmbaptista21 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Many have tried this and failed. My best friend's cousin was married for almost 20 years and finally her husband admitted he was gay. This had a devastating effect on the entire family, including their two teenage kids. Think of the pain he could have saved everyone if only he had been able to admit to being gay much sooner. I'm betting that fear kept him "in the closet" for decades--fear of what his friends, relatives, parents, class mates, etc. would say and do to him if he told the truth. It is the religious community that fosters this fear.
2007-11-24 18:24:35 · answer #9 · answered by Antique Silver Buttons 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
NO, why make 2 people unhappy and feel miserable. I mean gay people have a hard enough time with everything. The idea of making them marry another person just for that is wrong to them and the person they would marry. =)
2007-11-24 18:44:21 · answer #10 · answered by Prof. Dave 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do they'd desire to marry in any respect? in the event that they have no activity in marrying somebody, then stay single. uncomplicated sufficient answer. The Bible teaches that that's extra effective for a guy or woman to stay single. That we they're able to serve God finished time devoid of having the accepted jobs of a mate, relatives, infants, and so on. Jesus observed that calling in Matthew 19. As did the apostle Paul in a million Corinthians 7. So the Bible answer to a guy or woman who has no activity in marriage is they stay single and serve God finished time. i'm no longer attentive to a single Christian church that teaches couples ought to marry and then have relationships exterior of their marriage. all of them forbid adultery. (between the ten super "no-no's" in all Christian church homes.) So a pointless declare on your section.
2016-10-18 01:20:46 · answer #11 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋