We have been doing alright but he has been drinking alot. this afternoon he started drinking while i was taking a nap and when I got up he was fine and sweet but a little longer later (after no lunch or supper) he started drinking more and told me that he was not ready for me and that he is not a grown up. He told me in the same breath that he loves me and would not be able to live without me but he can't be with me? Has anybody experienced this and what do I do? I am LOST!
2007-11-24 18:02:20 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Military
he is on 5 different medications for stress and anxiety. He got back in September and like I have said we have really had no major problems for this to come out. He tells me every day that he loves me and loves being my husband. This is out of left field for me
2007-11-24 18:13:01 · update #1
WOULD SOMEBODY PLEASE HELP ME
2007-11-24 18:16:19 · update #2
I am home now with him, out of the blue this after noon I called him and he said he needed me here which is a good thing because we just got out of the ER with alcohol poisoning. He said he was sorry and he never meant it. I hope he is going to be okay. Thank you to all!!!
2007-11-25 16:45:13 · update #3
Wounded Warriors is a good choice. Also Military OneSource is availaible for both of you. (Phone numbers below).
When he's sober, describe to him how his behavior changed and how that made you feel. Ask him to call.
If he does nto or will not, you can call Military OneSource and describe the problem. They are far more qualified than I to advise further. It's all confidential.
Five different meds: Do this IMMEDIATELY--call a pharmacist and give them a complete list of the meds. Include a description of the pills, any oen of them could have been filled wrong. The pharmacist will be able to tell you about drug interactions and side effects. Make certain that you include any vitamins, supplements or body building stuff he may be or have been taking.
Ask also about combining them with alcohol too.
2007-11-24 18:19:52 · answer #1 · answered by RTO Trainer 6 · 6⤊ 0⤋
RTO Trainer is correct.
1. Call one stop, va and wounded warriors.
2. Call a pharamcist and get drug interaction info! With each other, and alcohol and make sure you know exactly what each is for. Many times one will just be to counteract another's side effects and you really do NOT want to be on that many meds. This is often a doctor's way of coping with something he really doesn't know how to cope with.
3. Get an appt with your PCM and demand to be seen within the next two weeks (preferably sooner). IF he/she will not help then demand a referal to mental health, another PCM (you are allowed second opinons with Tricare), tests that haven't been done etc. You MUST be his advocate right now - whether others think you're a b-ch or not!
4. Get some support for yourself. One stop, FRG, etc.
5. Call the Chaplain and get some help on that end too, and don't give up if the first one isn't terribly helpful! Counseling with the Chaplain is free and confidental and they can often refer you to other services on post! Don't skip this STEP!
Hugs, prayers and blessings to you.
2007-11-25 01:23:05 · answer #2 · answered by ArmyWifey 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Wounded Warriors is a good option, but it's a wise idea to bring in the VA, any vets group Service Officer {American Legion & VFW}, and also ask the local Vietnam Veterans of America chapter who they recommend as the best source for PTSD treatment.
Don't give up on your warrior, he needs you more than you know ! As a Vietnam vet, I too had my brush with "the war that never ends"...but my lady didn't see it through....and that made recovery harder. He says he loves you still but isn't ready...that is very common and so true.
Take heart...if you feel the need to have someone in your corner, and want to talk, Yahoo IM me at commanderbuck383 here on Yahoo.
You are NOT alone, and EVERYBODY comes home ! That is what a "band of brothers" means,... more than a movie title. By the answers that have been posted here you can see that it's true, and I am damned proud that all the vets here stepped up to give you help and support !
2007-11-24 18:54:01 · answer #3 · answered by commanderbuck383 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i'm happy that your husband is back abode effectively and your courting continues to be sturdy. I even have not been on your place individually yet through my artwork I even have been in touch with comparable circumstances. A 3 hundred and sixty 5 days is a protracted time for a pair to be seperated, and he's not long been abode. Who is familiar with what he has witnessed or had to take part in as area of his interest? He won't be waiting to debate it with you, specifically circumstances that's to "take care of" the different significant different. additionally some provider workers locate it a splash perplexing to regulate to being back in an entire on "generic" society. It probable isn't you, as he says. yet its him suffering to modify completely. provide it a splash time, savour the kisses hugs and supply plenty. possibly time, money and different commitments allowing, go away someplace non violent and romantic which you the two used to savour for the weekend. Wishing you properly, peace and happiness.
2016-09-30 03:17:17 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, he needs to cut out the alcohol. Read the prescription bottle, DO NOT TAKE WITH ALCOHOL
By doing this he keeps the meds from doing their job.
The rest of the advice given bbelow is 'Ditto"
Stick with him, get him to spill is guts and listen, no matter how horrible it is. he needs to vent, the sooner the better.
2007-11-25 14:42:30 · answer #5 · answered by hangarrat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only a year? I've found that I've been drinking almost every day since I got back from Iraq. He has PTSD, which every deployed service member has to a certain degree. He needs to address this issue. He should also see mental health.
2007-11-24 18:09:31 · answer #6 · answered by DOOM 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
DO not give up on him; he is confused and needs your love, attention and support more than ever. I agree with contacting the VA, Wounder Warriors and OneSource; they can provide you with a lot of information.
2007-11-24 23:22:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Find Wounded Warriors organization and see if you can get help for him.
Life was tough. Really tough.
2007-11-24 18:05:33 · answer #8 · answered by ToYou,Too! 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
ptsd,get to veterans hospital,he shows his military id to them and they will help him and also get a parent such as a father figure to contact a u.s. rep. or senator for honorable early discharge with 100 per cent disability
2007-11-25 14:53:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
get with the va, their programs are getting better and better about handling situations like yours
2007-11-24 20:51:36 · answer #10 · answered by SAM R 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋