when we first became frinds leke just friends type, he tried to hug me once but i told him i dont like guys touching me like that unless i feel close to me. now that we're going out though, he wont touch me! well, at first he did, but then the next day when i spoke to him, he said he doesnt want to caus ehe knows i have limits and he doesnt want me to commit to anything cause he doesnt want anything serious to happen and them have me regret it.
i really want us to be closer in touching, and he said he does to cause he said he really loves me,etc.
so is he saying that just cause he really loves me and is worried things will get out of hand or cause he likes another girl/wants to break up and doesnt want to get to close to me?
2007-11-24 17:51:06 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
touching as in hugging and kissing. thats my limits
2007-11-24 18:04:51 · update #1
and i told him many times its okay for him to touch me now that we're going out he doesnt seem to getr the message though. wht can i do to show him im serious
2007-11-24 18:09:08 · update #2
you have had set your limits. but if you want him to touch you be more passionate and sweet to him like kiss him first, hug him more often as if you misses him everyday. believe me, he will not be able to resist the urge of hugging you back or maybe you'll end up in bed but be sure that you're ready with the consequences.if not, it's better he sees to it that he doesn't go beyond the line.
2007-11-24 18:01:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are an egotistical fool. You don't deserve this guy, and you sound very paranoid. Why he puts up with you, only Gods know.
If you are genuinely serious about trying to re-establish a meaningful relationship with him, this is my suggestion; and if he still cares for you, he will respond in spite of himself.
(1) When walking together, get as close to him as you can, even to the point where he stumbles.
(2) When you get in a car, sit so close to him, he want be able to operate the accelerator or brakes.
Believe me, this always works. It did on me, so I can assure you that I'm speaking from experience.
Good luck,
2007-11-25 02:05:37 · answer #2 · answered by Alberich 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like the only reason he's not touching you is because every time he tried you told him not to! So if you want him to then tell him yes you do have limits but you don't mind a hug or a kiss or whatever every now and again!
good luck! ^_^
2007-11-25 02:00:11 · answer #3 · answered by Nifty_250 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The poor boy really likes you so doesn't want to overstep the mark and lose you. The first time he hugged you, you made it clear it wasn't acceptable. Now he may want to touch you, but respects you enough to need to KNOW that it will be OK with you.
He doesn't want to frighten you off, and isn't yet sure that he has enough control not to. Take it as a good sign, and take it slow.
Not everything has to happen yesterday.
2007-11-25 01:58:10 · answer #4 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Count yourself lucky. This guy actually CARES about you. Sex and intimacy should be considered AFTER everything else...you know...pregnancy, STDs, etc. He HAS A RIGHT TO SAY NO, JUST LIKE YOU DID. Respect that, and continue to show care for him too. The more you two think about what youre doing, and talk things out, the better off you will be.
2007-11-25 01:55:03 · answer #5 · answered by averstar23 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you confused him, honestly.
You should go tell him what you want in a clear and consise manner. If he can't deal it, then find someone who can, but next time dont' tell them you don't like to touch if it's what you want.
2007-11-25 02:05:56 · answer #6 · answered by Sean 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly i dont think guys like touching as much as girls do...4play is more of a girl thing...alot of guys dont wanna waste there time petting or touching...they just wanna jump right into sex...so it couldbe that he knows you wont have sex so he doesnt want to bother...or he could just be a nice guy...lol
2007-11-25 01:57:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its seems you told him and sent the signals about your personal space. If you want him to touch you; it seems like you will have to touch him and tell him its ok for him to touch you.
2007-11-25 01:55:12 · answer #8 · answered by Scott 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are a princess in the kingdom of God, and this guy is just treating you like the royalty that you are!
2007-11-25 01:58:02 · answer #9 · answered by Den 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I honestly wish I could find a guy like this.
2007-11-25 02:26:40 · answer #10 · answered by nouLi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋