no matter how i try i can't seem to let go of my ex. but i know it will not work a second time around. i eat very little if any. should i just ignore my feelings and push myself to go out and meet new people. or should i seek therapy. it seemed to last to long. please help.
2007-11-24 17:35:12 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Well it's different for people.
When they're depressed, they tend to eat more to try to calm themselves down. Or, they eat none, feeling miserable. That's how I am; I don't eat.
It's normal to not eat when you're depressed for some people, or most. How long has it been lasting? If it's been lasting for a while, force yourself to eat. Think of the most wonderful, delicious things out there.
Go to a fancy restaurant.
2007-11-24 17:40:48 · answer #1 · answered by Jacqueline H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can honestly say from experience and education....what you are going through sucks. Therapy never hurts (especially if you have insurance, if not there's other options). Therapy will give you a different perspective on things and help you work them out.
Not eating is usually a sign of anxiety or situational depression, but it's obviously bad for your body.
There is no time line for length of time to get over a break up, it's different for everyone. But you're on the right track. The only thing you can do is keep busy (productively) get out, meet new people, try new things...it will help get your mind off "the issue". And if you can do therapy, the sooner the better. I wish you the best of luck, I know it's hard, I'm still working on it. But it will get better...the sooner you allow it to, the sooner it will happen. Best of luck.
2007-11-25 02:25:45 · answer #2 · answered by cl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Results from things such as break up have different outcomes for different people. Not everyone eats a lot when they break up. I think the best solution is to move on and meet new people. There are many many people out there for you. It just takes a lot of time. Right now, you're just in the healing process and that may take awhile, but just take your time. Keep your head held high because you know you can achieve this because this is just one little bump in the road of growing up.
By the way, if you continue to not eating, you will NEED to seek medical help.
2007-11-25 03:32:41 · answer #3 · answered by Smiles (: 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seeing more people would help. Also confront your feelings but be in control of them not vice versa. Get yourself back to reality. Put things in perspective. You will no longer be with this person, if that makes you feel sad, well it supposed to.
It also helps to ask lots of questions on how others have delt with similar situations.
In this society we are taught to fear failure, but failure can help us learn.Obviously this is not want you wanted but it happened and you must grow from it.
It helps to discover for yourself why people can't let go ,but that you will have to discover for yourself.
2007-11-25 02:01:10 · answer #4 · answered by J's leather emporium 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋