When my ex broke up with me, I went to his best friends younger sister who I happen to work with. This girl is seriously a sister to him/known him her whole life. I asked if he was like this with all girls. He dumped me due to lack of time. She said hes not worth it, he spends too much time on work and college and doesnt care enough and he always does this. He was shocked she made that comment but it made me feel better. What do I make of this, I want to believe he isnt a bad person but idk?
2007-11-24 17:05:40 · 12 answers · asked by liz 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i didnt want much time at all, i work and go to college too..
2007-11-24 17:15:41 · update #1
I say what she said is probably the truth, or very close to it. If she is like a sister to him, she probably has seen it all & can make an accurate assessment of the situation in your case as well. He's too busy, focusing on work & college, seeking his goals for the future, to really tend to your needs. Maybe you were demanding too much of his time & he couldn't focus on his immediate needs of an education & a job to help pay for it, plus expenses.
My suggestion to you would be to either talk to him, really sit down and communicate with each other, and see if you would ever fit in his future plans. If yes, then support his decision & his goals, don't demand that he spend all of his time, money & effort in your regard (a little self-sacrifice in your case could really pay off handsomely in the future). Or if no, you're not in his future plans right now, or he's really not sure, thank him for the honest answer. Or maybe you're just not a higher priority than his studies, career goals, or his job right now & wants some breathing space; then you need to assess whether you want to put up with that & either move on, or "suck it up," & play second fiddle to his studies & job until he decides to make you a higher priority & take a chance that he actually will in the future. (Not many women would do that, because they aren't self-sacrificing & don't want to take a chance it won't work out in the long run.)
No, I don't think he's a bad person, but I don't necessarily say he's a good person either. I think you can make that call. I was just trying to give you some reasoning to his choices & postulate why he would have broken up with U.
2007-11-24 17:23:51 · answer #1 · answered by Andy K 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well there's nothing you mentioned that makes him sound horrible. It just is what it is... he's at that time in his life when his priorities are elsewhere and honestly, it's nice that he can recognize that. He knows that he can't give a relationship the time it needs.
Whether it's what this girl told you or not.. the point is that it wasn't working for both of you. Break ups are always a bummer.. but hey.. if you didn't end things with all the wrong ones you'd never find the right one.
2007-11-24 17:14:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might feel neglected, but if he has a job and college, a lot of people (like his parents) would think that he is a great person and that you might be the problem for distracting him and demanding more of his time.. What did he say was the reason for breaking up? and how much of his time would you like?
2007-11-24 17:14:10 · answer #3 · answered by jimanddottaylor 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You look Japanese, and have a swatsika on your name Ahh, you know in WW2 Nazi-Germany and Japan never coordinated any military or political manuevers during the war. They were merely associated with each other, not a true military alliance. They both considered one another inferior also.. So, why do you have a swatsika after your Japanese name?
2016-04-05 07:56:12 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is not a bad person he want you to be happy and sees that he is not making you happy and he sees that he is not able to give you the attention you deserve while he is trying to get an education and better his life for the future so he let you go, not a bad person just determined
2007-11-24 17:12:03 · answer #5 · answered by alexia's mommy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey look babe he aint a bad person cuz he spends time on things tht will benifit him in the future and i must say tht u jus mite b a badd person and also the other chick is a bad person for not standing by him and realizing tht these are things he needs to accomplish soo yu need to due sum deep self-thinking lady..
2007-11-24 17:11:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
how is he a bad person? just because he broke up with you?...maybe hes too busy to have a girlfriend right now....
2007-11-24 17:13:38 · answer #7 · answered by 123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not a horrible person he just has more important things to worry about.
Such as the rest of his life.
2007-11-24 17:08:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
what goes around comes around.
someone will dump his ***...he cannot even devote time for a relationship cause he's too busy with other stuff
2007-11-24 17:10:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
dump him by what i see he doing something wrong not you.
2007-11-24 17:12:36 · answer #10 · answered by tigerdragonandbadwolf 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋