New relationship. He doesn't always call when he says he will. Should I say something?

Question

We've been dating for about a month. Everything's great except sometimes he doesn't call when he says he will. He'll say "I'll call you tomorrow" and he doesn't.

Sometimes it's two days later. Should I let him know it makes me feel bad? I look forward to talking to him, and when he doesn't call, I'm really disappointed.

I do call him on occasion. We see each other a couple of times per week.

Answer 1

Now that's tricky. You don.t wanna come across like your sitting around waiting on his call even thought you probably are. Don't call him. I mean even when your dying to hear his voice don't call. Then he has to call if only to see whats up why your not calling. Then you tell him baby I was busy, You now how it is when you forget to call me. Give him a dose girl. If he really likes you the tables will turn. If he's not calling because he's not that into you, Then you will not tat also. But if your doing all the chasing DROP HIM!!

Answer 2

Yes, you should let him know that you expect him to stick to his commitments, event he ones as small as calliong on time. This makes me think about a quote..."Men dont forget how much they like you, so put down the phone!" The point is that if this guy is crazy about you he will call, and not doing so signals he's either not hooked or he is unreliable, two signs that are not good even a month into a relationship. The title of the book makes it sounds like and insult, but you should read He's just not that into you! It it written by a male writer from Sex and the City and it pretty much helps you realize how women think different from men, and how we need to realize we are worth phone calls on time, marraige, a real family, etc. It completely changed my attitude towards guys and dating and this question of yours is exactly what the book is about, so go check it out!

Answer 3

Thats men for ya... they forget. That RARELY changes. It doenst mean hes not thinkn about you, or doenst want to be with you, just means hes busy.

Being only a month into the relationship, you might be careful how you bring this up. if you come off too harsh, he'll think you're controling and psycho. If you do it too jokingly, he wont take you serious. The key is to find that happy medium. I say, wait til you're together again next time, or your next phone conversation... and pull a "i really enjoy talking to you, we should do this more often." when he says "yeah". Go, good... call me tommorow.

And um... why dont you call him?? if he waits too long to call you, call him! Guys like to be chased too. They need that feeling that they are wanted as well.

Answer 4

am i in weddings or dating? i would not talk to him about it, he will think you are controlling and pushy and think you are up his a**. it has been one month, give it time. he can be testing you to see how you react to this. if it happens again, don't ask why he didn't call, just ask him what he did yesterday and maybe he will say, oops i was supposed to call you, or i was so busy that is why i didn't call.
he may be thinking that you two are only dating right now, not boyfriend and girlfriend. men think differently about these things. i would wait until at least 3 months of being together before you confront him on anything.

Answer 5

I wouldn't bother. He is not worth it and he is not that into you.
Either that or he is taking you for granted and just assumes he can call whenever he wants to and you will be available.
Next time he calls don't be available. Either answer the phone and give him 3.5 secs.. seriously.. oohh hey sorry bad time I gotta go .. call you later and call him two days later.. or just don't answer and call him back two days later. If you say something he will think you are high maintenance or needy.. being my anxious to call and talk to you has to be his idea because he wants to or else.. he just isn't that into you. There are no excuses. The right man will make the time.

Answer 6

Yes you should. You need to make the rules clear from the beginning of your dating experience. If things work out then when you become a couple everything is understood. Be clear about what you want and find out the things he doesn't care for and that will save you both a lot of grief later on.

Answer 7

You have been dating for a month? What do you know about him? That's all good that you look forward to talking to him, but don't stall your life waiting on him to call. Yes let him know it makes you feel bad.

Answer 8

Your boyfriend may be feel smothered if you complain at this point. Keep yourself busy and you won't miss his forgotten call sooo much. If your relationship was long-term, then I believe you would have more of a reason to complain. Only time will tell. Wishing you the best.

Answer 9

That's a really tough one. You don't want to make him feel smothered, but you also don't want to let him think it's okay to disrespect you. I think I'd tell him it bothers you, nothing more than that and see if he starts calling when he says he will. He may just not realise it's important to you. If he doesn't start calling when he says he will, it could be his way of telling you he's just not that into you.

Answer 10

i don't tell my boyfriend to call me. I gave him my type in case he ever feels the urge to call me, yet i don't think of continually speaking on the telephone is healthful for a dating. in case you assert each little thing on the telephone then you easily won't have something to speak approximately in individual. I agree that it is likewise extra specific to have them call you on their very own unfastened will as a replace of being "compelled" to.