Can you tell me about drugs?

Question

I had this amazing boyfriend. He was sweet and just treated me great. Then he got a bit down and started doing oil pot shrooms k x soft. And he's completely different. He says he stopped but i think he's lying cause he's still...different..its like i dont know him anymore. He doesn't care about me, about him or anyone. Can drugs really change a person like this? I can't help him. I tried and he just ignores me. So. Should i just move on? do you think if he gets clean he'll come to his senses? Please dont reply means things :) thanks

Answer 1

the drug itself will not cause any permanent changes in his personallity if a person abuses any drug over a long period of time then you will see a change even when hes sober
some people can use an intoxicant without becomeing dependant on them i have been able to enjoy alcohol all my life and use it seldomly (about twice a month).
some people cannot if he continues to abuse a drug then you may not be able to get through to him but if you care for him then try to make him see what you see

Answer 2

different people respond to drugs differently. Different drugs likewise, have different effects on people.

Sometimes getting clean will cause you to change back to to the way you were before... more often than not, something still is permanently different from your experiences... normally that difference is negligible.

Alcohol and pot for example, have virtually no long term effect on my personality really... crack cocaine and crystal meth however, made me quite an unpleasant person to be around. When I stopped using those substances and became clean, I reverted back to my happy self for the most part.

The transition also takes time. Being clean for a few days or even a month, isn't going to make you instantly brimming with rainbows and sunshine.

Some people use drugs and alcohol to fill a spiritual hole that they have. The drugs and alcohol serve as a temporary solution to that problem. When you take the alcohol and drugs away, that can often make the person worse until they find something better and more beneficial to fill that hole with.

The bottom line is that I would suggest trying to encourage him to go to an AA or NA meeting. Hopefully he'll go to a meeting and hear the message. If he shows virtually no interest in getting clean, I would move on if I were you.

Some people need to lose everything and hit rock bottom before they can take steps to get their life back. Just hope that he doesn't harm himself or others over the drugs.

That's all you can do really.

Good luck.

Answer 3

Drugs can do this to a person. If he is still acting the way he did when he was on the drugs then maybe he is lying to you but it could be that he is off them and he's suffer withdrawal symptoms. I don't know. But my advice to you is to never get involved with someone who does drugs. They will only take you down with them. And once someone has been on drugs they are never really the same. My Aunt was a heroin addict and she has never been the same. Most of it is due to the effects of heroin but also personality wise, she is just difference. I think you should get out while you still can.

Answer 4

Yes drugs can do this to a person it completely changes them
All they care about and want is drugs.
If there not on it there thinking about when, where can they get it.
If they are on it there personality is completely different.
I this is someone you really really care about like u can see ur self with them for ever and u guys are close to marriage. then i will stick by and try to get them help, if they want it. IF they don't then hit the road.
Recovery from drugs is a long hard process that takes alot out of ppl.
If this guy is not all that important to u like just another nice guy u have been dating.
Then get out, and get out quick
The long u stay with him the longer he will bring u down with him

Answer 5

Drugs affect the mind to the point where the only important thing will be his drugs. That leaves no room for you or a relationship. Drugs make a person do whatever it takes to keep them addicted. He needs to realize where drugs are messing his life up. Getting clean is a long road but he needs to that alone. So please please move on to something more positive and stand up for your own life.

Answer 6

sorry to tell you but drugs change a person, some extremely, some a little bit.
when people get on drugs that's all that matters to them.
it's really sad.
I can tell you this from experience.
I grew up with my mom on drugs my whole life, she was erratic, she abused me on a regular basis, she stole from me, she blamed me for everything, and several other horrible things.
thank god, my mom who is now 43 has been clean from all drugs for 4 years now!
She is COMPLETELY different! she helps me take care of my daughters and she doesn't hit them, they spend time in time-out and she's just the mom I never had and I'm a little jealous but I'm so happy and proud of her.
She calls me everyday, she bought me a car and we go to church together every sunday.

I think you need to just move on, you may not feel tempted but alot of people whose significant other uses drugs, tend to start using them with them, I would hate for that to happen to you!
I would cry and beg my mom to stop doing drugs and she never did. Once she finally stopped using, it was on her own I hadn't even known she put herself in a rehab.
It's not easy for awhile my mom would be on again off again over and over.
My mom is now 43 years old, she's been clean for 3 years, and she started using drugs at the age of 14!
trust me You do not want this to happen to you, try to stay away until you know for sure.

good luck and god bless!

Answer 7

he's never gonna be the same. promise
even the littlest changes in a person's life changes them forever
even if he does quit, that doesnt mean he has quit forever, and it doesnt mean that he's being completely honest with you
maybe talk to him about it and if he WANTS to get back together with you, tell him you are completely against these drugs and that if he does them, that you will break up with him. hopefully you will be his inspiration for staying away from drugs! good luck!

Answer 8

I'm sorry to hear that. He needs professional help, he's not coming to his senses anytime soon. I think you need to move on at this point. Be there for him but don't get so involved that it starts to affect your life in a negative way. Maybe you can talk to someone about this.. his parents? family? friends? But don't deal with it alone. Don't stay with him though.

Answer 9

Hun, drugs change people physically and emotionally. They can become completely different once they get hooked to a substance. You need to move on and realize that he will only change when he is ready to. No one can convince him to change until he is ready to change.

Answer 10

Yes drugs do change their personalities. I'm sorry he got caught up in that mess, that's terrible. He needs to get professional help, you can't help him. You can be his friend but I'm sorry to tell you but you have to move on.