My bf said he doesnt want to have sex?

Question

He's the sweetest person alive, and he always says he misses me, and he says how amazing i am.
He's a virgo, and for those of you who arent into astonomy, virgos are very difficult people.hhaha.
He' s never said "i love you" to a girl.
We're both 15.
We've knows eachother for a long time, and are really close now.
So he said this while we were in the pool, and alone, and he was turned on and everything, and he's like "i would never have sex with you though, not now, we're too young"
And he's like felt me up and stuff. His mom even told him she would buy him condoms if he wanted, so he's allowed to have sex!
DOn't get me wrong, I'm not a nympho i dont want sex now either, but its just the first guy whos said that.
so i guess my question is, does he say that because he respects me?
or, why would he say that? if guys could help me, that'd be great.

I'M NOT SAYING I WANT SEXXX PEOPLEEE! I'M JUST SAYING, DO YOU THINK HE MEANS THAT?? I WOULD NEVER HAVE SEX NOW EITHER, JEEZ

Answer 1

I think he says that because he has a good head on his shoulders and has goals that he intends on achieving.
Sounds like a great guy with wonderful values and morals.

Answer 2

Girl don't be hard on yourself! I'm sure he's definitely into you if he's willing to be in a long-distance relationship with you in the first place! And the fact that when you do see each other you guys have sex so much probably means he's really attracted to you! :) Given that he is older than you, I do believe he is being really honest. Once you get older and you get a full time job, start getting more seriously with your life and so on, you will too notice that you may not want sex as much. Especially if you're around your partner every day, things will change. Some days you may want to do it three times in one day, other days you may just want to sit on the couch, cuddle and watch tv. There is nothing wrong with that, and honestly only you and him can decide when this will become a problem. It's possible that your hormones are raging with desire right now lol and that's ok! Just be confident and know you're awesome and whether you guys have sex every day or not, this does not make you any less attractive. :) I hope this helps!

Answer 3

He is being respectfull and reasonable. You are too young. You are at a point in life where your feelings for one another can change on a dime. He and you may have a fight in a couple of weeks and break up...you don't know. But think about how you would feel after sharing such an intimate moment with him and then breaking up with him, you will never get that moment back. Your first time will then be used up. Think about how you will remember your relationship with him in later years. You won't recall the happy times you had with him first, you'll think of that one moment first. All you can do is just respect his decision and go forward. Maybe he has personal reasons for not wanting to have sex. Could be he wants to wait for marriage, its not uncommon these days. He's actually being very smart about this, minus the encouragement his mom seems to be trusting that her son is responsible enough to make good decisions. Just thank him for respecting you and be thankful that he isn't after you only for sex. So many girls are looking for relationships that are more than just the physical. It seems that he has real feelings for you and that is something special. Don't read so much into this. Just enjoy what you have.

Answer 4

Your boyfriend sounds like a great guy. You shouldn't be worried so take a deep breath and think about how much you enjoy your time with him.

Even if he's allowed to have sex, it's very respectable that he doesn't want to rush it. Having sex at such a young age can really jeapordize and complicate a relationship. Your boyfriend is mature beyond his age, and he's probably very sensitive too. I'm sure he wants to postpone sex because he wants it to be special.

Although he said he "never would have sex with you" he doesn't actually mean he never would. He's just saying that in the context of your current relationship the two of you should recognize that the option of sex isn't even on the table. If the two of you stay together for years (its very possible), I'm sure his opinion will change and once the both of you are mature enough you'll be able to take that step together.

It's very admirable of him to be so mature that he wants to wait to have sex with you. This shows that he really values you, as a person, and his relationship with you. Don't worry that he doesn't find you attractive, he obviously does because you've done other sexual things with him. Just take things slowly and I'm sure your relationship will be stronger for it.

ps. Contraception is very effective if used correctly, if you do decide to have sex talk to your doctor and use the most effective kind you can afford.

Answer 5

okay as for the virgo thing i am one of those and we are verrryy difficult people. but i have been in that situation before. Guys a lot of the time get turned on you will realize. and he will keep getting turned on hopefully and with that and you two getting physical it is going to be really hard not to have sex. Something girls dont always realize is that not all guys want sex right away. not only is sex emotional for girls but for guys too. Sex is a lot of responsibility. You two are fifteen and thats a lot of responsibility. Something you should think about is are you ready? Its a big step and if you say hes only felt you up thats like a huugggeee jump. Practice your intimacy there are steps between sex stick with thoughs. They are going to make you physically ready for sex. Emotionally thats both of your decisions but dont pressure him because you wouldnt want him to pressure you. As for why he said that i think he is being really responsible and looking out for the both of you. You should really acknowledge that hes not trying to take advantage of u and that hes not an ***. You picked a good one. Just dont rush it . Dont jump steps.

Answer 6

Surprised? Ha ha, not all guys just want sex. It sounds like he is respecting you, or fears what might come from it, or what your parents would say if they found out.

This is just one of those questions that have too many answers. But it's probably nothing to worry about, and it's not a bad thing either.

Answer 7

I'm 29 and I think it would be weird if my mom offered to buy me condoms! Don't you think that it's a bit weird that his mother said that? Sex shouldn't be about whether or not your parents allow you to do it. It's not like taking the family car out on Friday night. You're 15. You shouldn't be worried about this now. I don't think it's about whether or not he respects you, I really believe that he said it be he's unsure of himself and maybe even unsure about his ... umm..."man"hood.

Answer 8

He respects you but also lives in reality and knows about the complications that can come from an early sexual relationship. If you don't want to right now either, I'd let it go until you are considering it more seriously.

Answer 9

If you dont wanna have sex either, you should feel happy he is not always trying to talk you into it. Trust me, you are either very lucky or there is something wrong with him. lol

and from the sounds of it theres nothing wrong with him =)

Answer 10

You have yourself an amazing guy. He respects the hell out of you.
Mine does too, but he definitely wants sex. He's not gonna force me though, and I'm gonna be ready before we do so [therefore, it'll be a long while.]