How can i get this kid to stop crying!!?

Question

oMG, IAM BABYSITTING THIS 4 YEAR OLD WHO IAM TRYING TO GET TO SLEEP BUT HE MISSES HIS MOMMY!! whAT SHOULD I DO I HAVE TRIED EVERYTHING!!

Answer 1

hold him and tell him it's ok, his mom will be home soon. Ask him what his favorite story/character/song/something is and then talk to him about it for a while. Tell him you'll stay with him until his mommy gets back and that everything will be ok.

Answer 2

I don't know how his parents would feel about this, but it wouldn't bother me if, when the sitter is in that situation, bedtime rules were bent a little.

I wouldn't mind if a sitter let my kids bring a blanket into the living room and lay down on the couch to watch a movie. Chances are, they'd fall asleep before long anyway.

That isn't something that would be done every night, when I'm with them. But since having a sitter would be an unusual occasion to begin with, having "sitter rules" might help him adjust.

As other people have mentioned, you must remain calm. This is part of the babysitting territory, and babies and small children can smell fear (or stress). If you let him see your frustration, it will upset him even more.

Call mom, if you can. Tell her what is going on, ask if she will talk with her son on the phone, let her give you advice for what to do with him, or let her decide if she would rather call it a night and come home.

And everyone else is right. Get off the computer. It's not your property, and even if the parents said it would be alright to get on, I REALLY don't think they meant you could get on while their son is awake and screaming. Your main objective here should be in caring for him, and you can't do that if you have your attention on the computer.

Answer 3

You need to calm down. Kids have a funny sense about them. THEY CAN FEEL WHEN YOUR STRESSED OUT and that can aggravate them even further. Talk to him. You can't get his mommy for him BUT you can side with how he is feeling and try to comfort him. Ask are you upset that mommy can't be here with? Does that make you sad? Would you feel better if mommy was here? I would like mommy to be here to so that you aren't sad anymore. If you can get him to talk about his feelings it will beeasier to help hm calm down a little a eventually he will understand that you cannot bring mommy back sooner but you do care that he is upset and are trying to make him feel better. I have a four year and if you can get him to change his train of thought then you will be in the clear. Get a coloring book and start coloring and ignore the crying but stay in view where he can see you or do something like quiet play with a toy or something, by changing the focus from wanting his mom to something else that he can have at the moment your night will be a lot better and when he falls asleep than you can put him to bed. Hope this helps.

Answer 4

Calm down, children can sense when a person is stressed. Tell him that Mommy will be comming home soon, but right now is bed time. Ask him to pick out a special book to read. Have him get in bed an tuck him in. Sit and read to him. It may take a while, but just stay calm.

Answer 5

It is pretty normal, especially if he isn't used to his Mom being gone.

He'll either cry himself to sleep or just cry a while if you let him be. Don't let him see that you are upset by it though. If you plan to watch him in the future whatever you do stay firm and consistant. Maybe offer to watch a cartoon and then bed.

If you really can't console him call his mother without him knowing and ask for tips, don't rush her home though.

Answer 6

See if he's into a certain character, Thomas the Train, Mickey, etc. See if there are any tv shows, videos or books that you can read to him that will help pass the time. Ask him if he'd like a special treat like hot cocoa, popcorn or something similar to eat while he watches it.

If all else fails, call the parents because they probably know that he would be like this if they don't go out much. Sorry!

Answer 7

gramps here.

5 kids, 7 stepkids,
a dozen or so grandkids and about a hunnert
'adopted' grandkids.

1- find out why he is crying.
a- misses mom
2- see if dad will watch him.
a- where is he? talk to him
3- is this a regular thing? do you watch him
for a specific reason? is it a regular job?
4- maybe mom needs to speak to a counsellor or minister.

or good ol doctor laura .......

hang in there kid. soon you will get a REAL job with REAL
problems and ADULTS who wont stop whining at you .

fun!

:-)

gramps

if you want more info or help, feel free to email me privately.
babysitting is hard, but not impossible.

Answer 8

Be calm!!! If you act upset in front of him - that will upset him more! Ask him to show you his favorite toy in his room or ask him if he would like you to read a story to him. Or even pretend to ignore him and do something you know he would like...make some popcorn, watch a "kid friendly" movie....he just might come around.

Answer 9

Well you be calm first. Then explain to him mommy is away and will be back later but you can watch a movie or something special till she gets back. Try getting him paint a picture for her, or even give him milk and cookies, as long as he relaxes.

Answer 10

Tell him that his mommy will be right back but she said she'll only come back if he lies in his bed. If that works, then tell him you'll read him a few stories while you wait for her to come back. Hopefully by then he'll have fallen asleep. Best of luck...I feel your pain!!!