relationship help?!?!?!?

Question

so i love this girl, Mellissa.
she loves me

i cant stand being without her. i feel like im going to die
she feels the same

but the problem is, i cant stand being with her, like i feel everything is soo wrong

despite how much i hate being with her, its IMPOSSIBLE to explain how miserable i am without her, i mean i LITERALY look down a 6 story building off the roof barely holding myself from going over because im not with her.

(i was without her since july i dated 2 other girls. i CANNOT just get 'over her')

please help, and i am reading all the comments, so take your time answering, please

Answer 1

I know that relationships can get a little rough. Just remember this:

"Perfect love has no fear". Do not hide anything. Go pure and stay true. You have nothing to fear and nothing to regret when all is said and done. Fight for her and show your love, IF she lets you. Don't go in vain.

Fight for her with truth and bravery, purity and everything in your heart. Stay committed, and do not waiver to other girls (it might get messy).

Stay committed. Fight. Truth and Purity. Fight.

You wont regret anything in purity and perfection, because there would be nothing to regret.

Talk to her with the truth, and stay pure and right. Nothing will go wrong when all is said and done, because purity is pure, in and out. No fear. No doubts. No wrong. All right.

"Perfect love has no fear."

Answer 2

How old are you? I guess I am a little confused that you would consider suicide over someone that you have a love/hate relationship with. You need to just take some time to be yourself. Go out with some buddies, do things that you enjoy, join a sport or a club, get active to get your mind off Melissa. This feeling you have of not being able to be without her, is like a noose on your neck. If you have not talked to her about getting back together, then talk with her if you think it will do any good. But first, I think you need to decide if what you are feeling is maybe not the simple fact that you "can't stand not being in a relationship" that maybe its "cooler" to be in a relationship even if the person you are in it with isn't who you want to be with...atleast you are in a relationship and it doesn't look like you are a weirdo for not having a girlfriend. Let me ask you...socially are you the "cool kid" and part of the "in-crowd" one of the "popularity kings" if so then you really don't have a problem at all. You just need to find a new girlfriend. Anyone that you pick will be fine, because no matter what...if you like her, then she is in. None the less, if you aren't "hot stuff" on campus and you are one of the "average joes" so to speak. Then talk over your issues with a trusted friend, a cool teacher, or your parents. Somethings aren't so tough if you just talk it over. You sound like a smart kid, so think about this a little bit. Look at the big picture. How do you feel when you are around her? Are you treated nicely by her? Or does she treat you like her man candy and you are just there for looks and to fetch her things like a little servant. Trust me, girls like this aren't in it for the relationship...its a power trip and no matter how hard you try...you aren't going to change them. There again, if Melissa and you just seem to butt heads and things just don't click easily for you, then maybe you really aren't meant to be together. The best thing to do is just talk it over with her. See what she wants to do and how you feel about that and discuss your options. Other than that fella...you need to just move on. I know that it seems hard to do...but you will get through it. Millions do. Believe me - you aren't the only one in the world that has had a broken heart.

Answer 3

Wow, thats sort of a big problem...

First of all you seem very much in love, congratulations! Not many people ever feel that way about someone =] but I think you need to work more on loving and accepting yourself (excuse me if i'm wrong). I'm pretty shy and I used to get incredibly self-conscious when I was around someone I liked, I judged every single thing I said and everything I did because I was afraid how I acted wasn't good enough for whoever I was with and then I would beat myself up over the smallest little things I thought i did wrong. i guess being with this girl that you love so much could exaggerate in your mind everything your "doing wrong" because you feel that she deserves so much and you are afraid your not doing justice with your words/actions (again i'm very sorry if i'm wrong) Anyways I think just the more comfortable you become with yourself and with her the easier it will be to have fun with her and enjoy yourself when you with her. Hope This was helpful =]

good luck! ^_^

Answer 4

Yeah you can.


You can get over her. It will take some time. Heck, maybe a lot of time. But I will suggest not thinking about her. Which will make you think of her more. No, in this time period think of something else in your life that does not includes girls or dating and do that. Enjoy that. Maybe there is something you always wanted to do or try. Now is the time to go for it. This unresolved passion has to released somewhere. Once you find that link that you may be missing, you will find your relationship problems with her will either disappear on their own or you will be able to move on to something or someone else.

I wish you luck.

Answer 5

Ever heard there is a fine line between love and hate? This is your problem, that and being unable to move forward and actually letting go of the past. Is this really worth your life? Is it really worth trying to get back together if you feel that you just need her to be around? You are cheating other ladies out of a workable relationship, why do you want to chain yourself to the past? If your really TRY letting go, then eventually you will.

Answer 6

What, exactly, do you feel is so wrong about your relationship? Is it the way she looks? Is it certain mannerisms and habits she has? Is it how you feel when you are with her? Does she say and/or do things hen you are together that make you say this?

How can you "love" someone you can't stand being with? I don't get it...

Maybe a little more info here would be helpful: what are your ages? how long have you known each other? how long have you been together?

Answer 7

You are still not over her from july and it is now december..wow. I think maybe you enjoyed her company, and you feel alone. You dated two other girls? If you were with them for long you should've gotten over her, of course you will still remember all the memories..but surely, if you dont like being with her, then i dont think you should be..try to keep youre mind occupied on other things, and thats all i have to say =/

Answer 8

i think its the kind of thing where you guys really love each other. but there are so many other problems and things that go on..that you guys cant stand each other. if you feel that way about her then shes not for you. you should be happy around her and everything good. you'll get over her if you let yourself get over her. and right now you are not letting yourself.

Answer 9

You have the case of can't live with or without. If you love her then why is it so wrong to be with her? If it's so wrong then that means she's not meant for you and you just want to hold on to her. You gotta let go. free your mind.

Answer 10

this sounds like a hard situation and
my heart goes out to you, but i think
that it is best for you to stop talking
to her and try your hardest to get over
her. i know that this seems impossible
and it will be terrible for a while, but
it is necessary for her to not be in your
life or you will never be able to move on.
good luck :)