you love someone and your parents are encouraging you to get married but somehow you think you wont be able to fulfil your duties towards your partner?
2007-11-24 14:55:03 · 17 answers · asked by ¸.•*´`*•.¸ ℓανєη∂єr ¸.•*´`*•.¸ 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Ramadan
Mark T - my only hope and prayer for you is that may God help you to see the TRUTH InshaAllah.
2007-11-24 15:09:36 · update #1
those are just normal feelings, what will happen? will I be able to to get along with this person?
what if everything goes wrong? what if I cant be what he is expecting? what if I cant get what I'm expecting?...and the list goes on and on.
Just pray astakhara...and put your trust in Allaah. Allaah puts mawaddah(love and sakeenah) in the hearts of those who get marry according to the sunnah of the prophet(saw) remember marriage is half of emaan. (is that correct)? cant remember if it was a hadith.
plus you have your parents blessings what could go wrong?
___I need to go to bed...get to work 2morrow
2007-11-24 15:03:07 · answer #1 · answered by Islam4Life 4 · 6⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-18 00:57:08 · answer #2 · answered by olmeda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you commit yourself to someone by getting married you have to be 100% sure, you feel in your heart that you meet the right person for you and that you will be able to fulfill your duties towards that person, if you are not sure then wait, get to know that person a little better or definetely end the relationship, it is not fair for any of you.
2007-11-25 06:23:47 · answer #3 · answered by AleOmar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a Sunnah to get married. you have to and you should get married especially if you are a girl.
Now as far as your fear of fulfilling the duties towards your partner is concerned, then that is somehting natural too. If you are a girl then you have to tell your self that this is the right path for you.And above all, Pray to Allah. HE is the one who can help you. Recite Darood Shareef as much as you can. Getting married is a difficult but a beautiful task. You will develop a understanding with your partner too and both of you will take sometime to understand eachother and live with eachother. And when Love is there, then def. you can win in your life. Just thank God for what u are getting, there are many girls who wants to get married but due to several reasons they are not getting their man in their lives. so what you are getting shows how blessed you are. :)
Good Luck :)
2007-11-24 19:33:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Salaam Alaikum wa Ramatullah wa Barakatuh Sister,
Hmmm......that's a rough question. There's always that nagging feeling of needing to please one's parents. And Islam states in many ways to honor your parents however possible and respect them with the utmost.
But then again it says in the Qu'ran, that no female shall be forced to marry against her will or desire.(Can't rememeber the surah/ayat......ugh!)
Exactly what do you think you might not be able to fufill?? Email me if it's something really personal and maybe I can help insha'Allah.
All I can say is, I married the first time at 17, to man who had 2 wives already. Masha'Allah he himself was a wonderful man, but I wasn't as ready as I thought. Too immature, not enough iman as I was a new muslimah, ect. I ended the marriage after 3months.
Ask the Imam, muslimahs your age who are married as well as older sisters. The best advice comes from your ummah!
2007-11-25 07:24:55 · answer #5 · answered by ~Nafissah~ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Maria.... and of course some woman feel as if they will not be able to do what is expected of them.. It is best to sit with your fiance or whatever with your family and ask question of what is it he expects.
Inshallah you will be blessed with a great husband..
Just a few things the ones who really put Allah(SWT) first will always be good to others. Always treat one another with respect. Women in Islam have many rights and it is important you do research and learn these...Always respect your parents and his...no one is born knowing exactly how to be a good wife or husband it takes time and work..
Learn your deen more because Islam is a comprehensice religion and covers all aspects of life-secular and spiritual. Islam will help you achieve a balance between the material and spiritual acpects of life.. What more could we ask for.. Allahu Akbar...
2007-11-24 21:22:45 · answer #6 · answered by je 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just go for it, Insha-Allah if you read enough books on the marriage life, you wil be a good wife; because u already worry about that, thats a sign that u care about how u will act towards ur future husband.
Insha-Allah u will marry the right person, and live a very happy Islamic life. =)
salam
2007-11-25 03:48:55 · answer #7 · answered by Authentic Believer (SOA) 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Discuss it out with ur parents that there should be no hindrance from their side to fulfill ur duties to ur partner. Talk to ur would be partner as well that should u try fulfilling ur duties toward ur parents she would cooperate.
2007-11-25 00:48:19 · answer #8 · answered by nazbak 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's normal feeling to someone who up to get married.
We can do some preparation, the most important is purifying our niyat that we get married because following sunna Rasulullah.
Good Intention can help us to keep patience when we face problem in marriage
2007-11-25 02:55:35 · answer #9 · answered by marhama 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why not be able to fulfill them?
If you're not ready for marriage and all the responsibilities that come with it, then don't do it! Wait...
I'm not trying to say marriage is not a good thing. I am married and I am very happy and thankful for my life. But I also realize that it comes with responsibilities... so until you are ready, don't do it.
2007-11-24 15:29:32 · answer #10 · answered by Lily-Ann 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋