Adult input, please:Haven't seen him in nearly 3 years and I still think of him, but...?

Question

I used to live abroad and I worked with a guy that I had feelings for. I was in a relationship, so I resisted letting things flow between us and I didn't explore things back then.

Since then, we're talked through email and he revealed that he had feelings for me the whole time. I knew it back then, but I needed to hear him say it. He left his girlfriend and then came to work on his day off to tell me, etc. I was so stupid not to take things further...

Since then, I dream about him and he's on my mind now and then. But I can't be sure if I'm idealizing him or not? I know there were things that I didn't like about him, but I think I was a different person back then. All I can remember now is his beautiful eyes, his support and how lovely he is. I miss him so much.

I've emailed him about this and I don't know how far to go with it. Do I tell him I was falling for him back then? Does this sound like love to you? Or am I idealizing him because it has been so long? Any advice?

Answer 1

keep talking to him --- get a cam each (so you can watch the body language --- aimed at your faces) and tell him what you would like from this relationship --- even if its to explore possibilities --- see what his thoughts are --- and if there is potential take the time and see each other --- yes you are in different countries but that should not really be a problem if you do care for each other ---- best wishes