I have been dating my boyfriend for three years. We're both 22, Malaysian-Chinese, and studying. Everything was fine between us until last month when we broke things off a bit. He feels that he doesn't want a girlfriend. However, we got back together after a couple of weeks, but things keep running hot and cold. He now feels he doesn't want a girlfriend again, cos it's 'stressful'.
He says he is stressed with juggling parents, work and girlfriend. He's living with his parents and not on very good terms with both of them. His mom hates me and thinks we've broken up a few months back.
At his part time job, his colleagues keep speculating about his love life and 'pairing' him up with other colleagues. He doesn't mention me or that he's even have a girlfriend. I don't visit him at his workplace 'cos he doesn't like people to see him work.
I see him once a week because of studies and work, therefore I don't think i'm demanding or possessive of his time. No other girl, so what's his deal?
2007-11-24 13:58:28 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He says there is no other girl, but really! I think he is playing a game and I think you should back off and let him realize that he is being a jerk. Just play hard to get for a while. You two had been together for a very long time. Guys don't just forget about those relationships that are full of memories. Just take a step back, watch, and listen to the things that are going on around him. I just think he is experiencing a lot of pressure from colleagues and parents. If he really wants to be with you, he will find a way to make it happen with everyone being accepting of you.
2007-11-24 14:05:08 · answer #1 · answered by MerMer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe after three years of dating (I assume exclusively) you should be demanding.....of his respect at least.
It sounds as if he is attempting to sell the world on the idea that you two are not a couple. You said his parents do not approve of you and he accepts it and tells them you no longer see each other....plus his co-workers evidently don't know anything about you and treat him as if he is single. Now he is also back-peddling on your arrangement. Unfortunately all this makes it sound as if he wants to break it off, but is just waffling or working his way up to the idea. Tell him you are tired of him behaving as if you are not important in his life and you no longer want to date him on those terms.
You know the old saying...set someone free, if they come back they were always yours etc.......Be ready for a final break if you do this, as he may not return....but do you really want someone who doesn't want you????
2007-11-24 14:11:22 · answer #2 · answered by SkyLights90N 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like a familiar situation to me. From experience, I'll say it means he cares about you as a friend, but does not see the two of you having a future together. He's young and trying to figure out what he is going to do with his life. Mentally he needs space. I will bet he does not have another girl, but deep down he feels you are not the one for him.
Try not to feel bad over that. You are young too and will rebound.
2007-11-24 14:11:31 · answer #3 · answered by Shanghai Tiger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah, feels like he's merely under pressure. having a girl buddy is extreme-high quality and all yet at times a guy feels like he has to delight her (including directly to the strain). that's what i've got been instructed by potential of my brother and guy buddies. it relatively is how i've got faith too. he probably merely desires a while on my own for a on a similar time as like perhaps a semester or something. i've got been single for that reason, as quickly as i'm executed with my examine nevertheless, perhaps i can attend to the strain that comes alongside with relationship.
2016-12-16 17:55:11 · answer #4 · answered by boven 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
see if you can help him a bit with his stress...or give each other some space...there gotta be some reason he feels he thinks he dose not need a girlfriend....if he thinks you are just adding on 2 his problems...thats not the answer if yall been 2gether for 3years...try 2 talk to him a bit more to see if you can get more details on his opinion!
2007-11-24 14:05:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, you don't have to go through that...if he's not man enough to say "Look I have a great girlfriend, so stop pairing me off!" at his work, then he's not worth your time!
2007-11-24 14:02:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may have someone else, and rather not tell you, I would simply leave him alone. He is not worth, running after or talking to anymore. Move on.
2007-11-24 14:03:03 · answer #7 · answered by That one 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its time to let him go....it seems like he's unsure of ashamed of something about you...I don't see why he's not proud to have someone to call his gf...anyhow...I think you need to confront him and be honest about how you feel....and if it doesn't work out, then it doesn't...but life goes on
2007-11-24 14:28:10 · answer #8 · answered by starr 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋