Muslims I need serious answers plz?

Question

What can one do if they think they wont be able to fulfil the duties of being a good wife?

Answer 1

~salam alaikum i got 10 tips into being a succesful muslim wife~

10. Use your 'Fitnah' to win the heart of your husband
All women have the ornaments that Allah blessed them with. Use the beauty Allah - Azza wa Jal - has bestowed you with to win the heart of your husband.

9. When your husband comes home, greet him with a wonderful greeting
Imagine your husband coming home to a clean house, an exquisitely dressed wife, a dinner prepared with care, children clean and sweet smelling, a clean bedroom - what would this do to his love for you? Now imagine what the opposite does to him.

8. Review the characteristics of the Hoor Al-Ayn and try to imitate them
The Qur'an and Sunnah describe the women in Jannah with certain characteristics. Such as the silk they wear, their large dark eyes, their singing to their husband, etc. Try it, wear silk for your husband, put Kohl in your eyes to 'enlarge' them, and sing to your husband.

7. Always wear jewelry and dress up in the house.
From the early years, little girls have adorned themselves with earrings and bracelets and worn pretty dresses - as described in the Qur'an. As a wife, continue to use the jewelry that you have and the pretty dresses for your husband.

6. Joke and play games with your husband.
A mans secret: they seek women who are lighthearted and have a sense of humor. As Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam - told Jabir to marry someone who would make him laugh and he would make her laugh.

5. Thank your husband constantly for the nice things he does.
Then thank him again. This is one of the most important techniques, as the opposite is a characteristic of the women of hellfire.

4. An argument is a fire in the house.
Extinguish it with a simple 'I'm sorry' even if it is not your fault.
When you fight back, you are only adding wood to the fire. Watch how sweetly an argument will end when you just say sincerely, "Look, I'm sorry. Let's be friends."

3. Always seek to please your husband, for he is your key to Jannah.
Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam - taught us that any women who dies in a state where her husband is pleased with her, shall enter Jannah. So .. please him.

2. Listen and Obey!
Obeying your husband is Fard! Your husband is the Ameer of the household. Give him that right and respect.

1. Make Dua to Allah to make your marriage and relationship successful.
All good things are from Allah. Never forget to ask Allah ta'ala for the blessing of having a successful marriage that begins in this Dunya and continues on - by the Mercy of Allah ta'ala - into Jannah.

Answer 2

You should learn more about those duties, accept them, and be willing to fulfill them. It's not like you are going to wake up one day to find yourself all the sudden feeling able to fulfill them. You have to work on it...

And what does it mean to be a good wife anyway?
Marriage life is about sharing responsibilities and duties... so it has to come from two sides, not one.
If you think that it's your job alone to make it work, then you are preparing for a not happily ever marriage.

You need to work things out with your future husband...
To talk about your fears and concerns and desires...

Then see if you are ready to handle the responsibilities of marriage.

Sorry, I know you don't want to hear this and you might even have a negative attitude towards me for saying this; but you are obviously not ready for marriage!

Answer 3

As Salaamu Alaykum.

I think you should try your best to and learn about the duties of the wife. Getting married is half of the religion of Islam. Try your best to fulfill the duties because if you try your best and are sincere; for sure Allah will reward you. May Allah help you with your dilemma . . .Ameen

Ma'a Salaamah

Answer 4

Its natural to think that way before marriage. But what one can do? As Muslim marriage cant be avoided cos its a sin , remember Allah is always with us. Marriage should take place in due course. Passing of time after marriage, by the grace of the Almighty will make every bride to be a good wife. They r just required to bear courage and patience in themselves.

Answer 5

maybe you just need to grow up more. You sound kind of young...I dont think young people have enough experience in life to be the perfect spouse. I'm scared to ever gt married because i dont know what to expect.
Did you know statistics have shown that the younger a person is, the less liekly the marriage will last?
Also, when you get married, you start learning your duties (like at a job..you wont fully understand the tasks required until you do them). You learn from your mistakes and perfect yourself over time.

Answer 6

Being women Allah has given us some extra strength of understanding men and the atmosphere. if you are a good daughter then you can def. understand family values. and your true family would be with your husband. when both of you will develop good understanding with eachother, then there would be no problem inshAllah. All you have to do is to be with your husband,respect him, love him,care, physically as well as mentally be with him. just make your life heaven, dear. Life is beautiful, if challenges and fears are coming into your way, take them as a challenge and do it for the sake of Allah for the sake of your betterment and be a good muslimah. InshAllah you will be succeeded. :)

Answer 7

Salaam Alaykum,
Marry a loving and kind husband who is aware of your doubts...marriage is a serious thing and in I have seen blissfully happy couples and miserable ones as well. It is how well you feel about him and call off the wedding if this is not your eternal partner. You are a gift to your husband one who will honor and cherish you..if he won't he doesn't deserve you.
Wasalaam

Answer 8

Salam

Read about the women around all prophets. You will have to either buckle into some repression mode or face your reality as to what you think you must do. Turn to error and not guidance and you have failed. That is now 3x I seen you bend to the will of this world, what is your intention?

Answer 9

haneen ! U r Right. I agree with U N U Asker! if U follow All the points INSHALLAH U will b very successful in Ur life

Answer 10

You will sweety..no one is perfect if Allaah blesses you with easy going guy that will help plenty.
its not going to be that hard, If I did it you can too.
I got married at 19 and my aunt told me to get up super early every morning and make breakfast for your hubby be neat and all. lolz
and the first morning when I wanted to getup my hubby told me just sleep and before he finished his sentence I was snoring!!!
I woke up about 11 am.lolz
so InshaAllaah it will be smoother than you think.