she says she wants us to grow and claims to be in love with me but it doesnt feel that way. please help. i dont want to talk to her about because she gets angry sometimes or irritable with me when we discuss feelings
2007-11-24 13:42:15 · 13 answers · asked by jerry1282004 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Like that's never happened. She is going through a phase that you are going to just ride along with . Sounds like she doesn't know what she wants. your going to hang for awhile, if she figures out what she wants you will get all the answers you want , but this is usually not good for the present relationship.
2007-11-24 13:51:37 · answer #1 · answered by redd headd 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her:
"look... if we don't get this sorted out we are going to break up... so stop getting angry and irritable and talk to me."
Take control of the situation. Suggest to her that you do more together. Go on trips (the zoo is fun). Spend time apart, so that you have new things to tell each other.
At the end of the talk give her a hug and a kiss... because you never wanted to cause any trouble.
If you really must leave her, listen to Simon & garfunkel's "50 ways to leave your lover". It'll make the whole thing seem like less of a big deal.
2007-11-24 21:49:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your situation seems like one that I find myself in. I think you should stop and think about how you truly feel about her. Us guys will always be "immature" to our ladies, and we will always need to grow. If you "love" her too, then you will truly see what she is talking about, but if you don't love her, then at this point you should probably let the relationship go before more emotions become involved. Also, if you can't see how you need to grow together, then you really don't have any feelings for her.
2007-11-24 21:47:45 · answer #3 · answered by TMull 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, you've GOT to talk to her. If you don't, it's not what many people would consider a "healthy relationship". But really, you should just gently ease into the discussion, and explain as nicely as possible how you feel. Be compassionate and sweet, and she probably won't be too upset.
2007-11-24 21:46:43 · answer #4 · answered by Spritey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like your girlfriend is forcing herself to be in love with you. Maybe she feels like she should be in love right now in her life and your handy. You can't feel something that is not there. If you're not in love with her, then, your not in love with her. If she gets angry with you for wanting to discuss your relationship, then maybe you need to move on.
2007-11-24 21:50:25 · answer #5 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe your not connecting cuz shes not the one u need to be w/. especially if shes getting angry at you for talking about feelings n stuff
2007-11-24 21:45:41 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs. T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's not willing to be able to disscuss it in front of yewr face then yewr gurl's got issues. She should put yewr feelings first. Not last. tell her how yew really feel. and if she claims to be in love with yew and wants yew guys to grow,,,,,,she'll listen.....
2007-11-24 21:46:41 · answer #7 · answered by ashjunban 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you cant talk to your girlfriend then that is just a red flag that says you guys are not meant to be together... don't try and force it because then you will be miserable... try and talk to her but if you are not happy then don't waste your time there are other fish in the sea...
2007-11-24 21:46:15 · answer #8 · answered by surmava 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you falling out of love? do you love her but don;t miss her that much anymore? does she becomes less and less open to you? is she still as sweet as last time? are u still that guy when you courted her? you know what to do.. you're just scared of the outcome.. good luck dude..
2007-11-24 21:47:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to show some respect. Get a new gf plz
2007-11-24 21:46:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋