Will some1 help me, i cant get over my dogs death, how can i get my mind of her?

Question

my dog died a year ago, and everynite i cry because i miss her so much! my first word was her name,sam, i love her! please help me i need help. im so depressed!

but my mom says that i cant get another dog but i really want to, what should i do? p.s. it was a yellow lab

really its almost 2 years to be exact. she died march 8,2005

Answer 1

I'm really very sorry for your loss. Like most everyone else here, I know what it's like to lose a beloved pet. and no two people handle grief or loss in the same way.

I know that's it easy for me to tell you this, but it's not easy to do, but you have to try and remember the good times and the happy memories that you shared with her. In time, it will get easier, but she always hold a special place in your heart and will live there forever.

I'm going to give you some links that hopefully will give your some comfort during this difficult time. The first link is for The Rainbow Bridge and the second is a java version of The Rainbow Bridge. The other links re places where you can place a free memorial for your your dog and that you will find comfort.

My deepest and sincere condolences. Rest in peace little one.

Answer 2

don't feel bad about your grief, losing a pet, especially one that is obviously so special to you, is a very hard thing. Everyone grieves at thier own rate. I lost my first dog over 2 years ago and I still cry when I think about her. The first year was the hardest, at times I was actually suicidal from my grief. If your grief bothers you, if you think it is excessive, or if you are truly depressed it may help to see a counselor. A counselor is not there to judge your grief, only to help you talk through it and to give support. I found it helped alot to talk about my dog, even if it made me sad. It felt horribly isolating to NOT talk, and seeing a counselor gave me an outlet where I could grieve openly. You sound young, if your parents won't take you to see a counselor, you could go talk to your guidance counselor at school. If that won't work, try calling a grief hotline. Some vet schools even have free 800 numbers specifically for grieving pet owners to call and talk. The person on the other end won't judge you, they are there to listen and the call will be free in most cases. It will pass, with time. Don't let anyone talk you into a new pet until you are ready, otherwise you may end up resenting the new pet because they are NOT Sam. When you are ready, however, a new pet may help you to heal by allowing you to enjoy the things that you used to do with Sam again, and by just being there, like pets are so good at. Sam sounds like she was a lovely dog. Its natural to grieve the death of a friend. -Neb

ps- mine was a yellow lab too, aren't they great dogs? Your Mom may also still be grieving the loss of your lab, I wouldn't push her too hard about getting a new dog, but do explain how you feel, maybe write her a letter about how much you miss Sam. If she's absolutely against a new dog, maybe there's another pet she would let you have that would help, or maybe you could volunteer at your local humane society for awhile so that you can be around dogs? -Neb

Answer 3

I am so sorry for your loss. The loss of a pet is sometimes more difficult than loss of a family member. Your dog was a faithful companion for such a long time.
A couple of suggestions would be to remove all of the toys, dog bed, dog dish and so forth from sight. You can keep them if you want but put them in a bag in the garage or at least out of sight. Keep any pictures. If your dog slept with you, get a new bedspread.
You may want to consider getting a new pet. I know nothing can replace the one you lost but you may need something to share your life with and nothing is better than a dog.

Good Luck.

Answer 4

I am sorry for the loss of your dog, I know it is hard, honestly getting over it is going to take sometime. Believe me i have had dog's my whole life on top of many other animals. The easiest way to get over the loss of a dog is to go get a new puppy. It's not replacing what you lost, but it will help. trust me i lost one of my dogs almost 10 years ago and i still miss her and all the other dogs i have lost. None of the ones I have now could replace the others, but some times the dogs i have now do some of the things my old dogs use to do. Get yourself a new dog trust me it will help a lot.

Answer 5

Brit. is correct. When our dog died, my husband was so depressed that he would not even look at any dogs. He wouldn`t let us get another one because "it would just die".
Finally after 4 years of us dog sitting for family and taking care of neighbor`s dogs, he finally said we should be taking care of our own dog. My kids were so happy when I went and brought home a new puppy. That was 2 years ago. Our dog is #1 to my husband. He loves our dog and his time is in the morning with it. They play in the yard before he goes to work.
At night, our dog sits or lays by hubbies feet until he goes to
bed. Then sleeps at his side of the bed.

Answer 6

hey hon, I know our pets deaths are very hard on us and they are always remembered and live on in our hearts and (if you believe it )in a better place where you meet again. But if its been a year, and you are suffering from depression, you should get some professional help, a talk therapist or counsellor can do wonders to help you sort things out and any other reason you may be depressed. Its not healthy for you to be always thinking of her like this and crying every night after a year shes passed. this probably affects everything in your life, your physical health also.

Tell a family member you trust or favorite teacher about your depression and thoughts about your dogs death. you dont have to suffer like this every day. The sooner you start talking to someone, the faster and better chance of recovery and healing.

Answer 7

I don't blame you. I've lost several dogs and a cat, and I still cry when I see/read/hear certain things - especially their pictures. Just take comfort in knowing that she touched your life enough for you to miss her so much. Try doing something in memory of her - plant a tree, donate to a shelter... and if you're really depressed, please seek help.

Answer 8

Honestly what im about to say might sound bad but it really works...my 1yr old chi died last month and the only way i got over it was to get a new one and love it as much as i loved my old one.

Answer 9

Get another dog the heep your affection on.