How can i let it all out?

Question

ive done self harm. and i wouldnt have to if i could cry. i actually cant cry, no matter how much i want to. i can get to the point of crying, as if im at the top of a hill, about to plummet down the other side, but i shed like one tear, and it dyes away. i need to learn how to cry again. people have said like "just let it all out" but advice like that is useless, as thats the problem

does someone have advice?

Answer 1

find somewhere where you're all alone and no one can hear you and just scream as loud as you can.

Answer 2

Your premise is flawed - you have to do self harm because you can't cry? You're doing self harm for other reasons that have nothing to do with your seeming inability to cry. What kind of self harm did you do, how old are you, what is your life circumstance? Maybe you just need to talk with someone & share some time & emotion. Are you in a situation that seems hopeless - and you are not in control? These are frequent situations young people find themselves in - but no reason to inflict self harm. You could talk to a guidance counselor or ask your doctor to recommend a psychologist - or you could confide in a close friend & try to work things out & figure out what is wrong. This has nothing to do with crying or not being able to cry - there's something deeper and you know it.

Answer 3

This is happening to me too. It's really hard. You need to realize that crying is not going to make you feel at peace. You will still have problems and be sad. I know you want to cry and "let it all out" but all the emotions and sadness wil still be in you. I encourage you to do some journaling. Just write about anything. Put pen to paper and just keep writing. Don't stop your pen. Just write. It will probably be random but somewhere in there will be some emotion. You might want to write some poetry or lyrics using your emotions in your journals. This may help you organize your thoughts better. I hope the best for you.

Answer 4

i would say that finding someone you trust to talk to is key.. maybe a counselor or a therapist or maybe a really good friend/ adult.

I think you should try to take some pressure off yourself and try to build up a relationship built on patience and trust with a person and I am sure that emotions will come. Unfortunately some of us cannot just tap into our emotions and cry when we feel we ought- but there is nothing wrong with that short term, and I think if you cut yourself some slack, find someone to talk to and are kind to yourself then you will begin to be more in touch with your emotions over time and the built up pressure of emotions can be dispelled and more manageable...

Answer 5

Try spiritual intervention. Attending church or a hot yoga session really beings it all out of me.

If not that, why not take your time and life, which is so valuable and precious, and donating it to those who are in need and do not have the same luxuries that you do?

You might be surprised that sitting down, and writing out everything that you are grateful for in your life, and affirming it to yourself will change your life dramatically within a matter of minutes.

Deep breathing, meditation, music and love also help to release everything built up inside.

Good luck and God Bless.

Answer 6

Try venting in other ways...buy a punching bag and beat the hell out of it or start writing a journal...you do not have you cry in order to release your feelings try them things listed above and if they don't work then maybe you need to talk to someone and they can break you down slowly.

Answer 7

Help others that are worse off than you are; volunteer and open your mind up to people other than yourself. Once you hear others share their pain and joy you will be able to got outside of your own head...it is so important to feel needed and volunteering gives you this.

"The smallest good deed is better than the grandest good intention." Duguet


"Those who bring sunshine into the lives of others cannot keep it from themselves."Sir James M. Barrie

Answer 8

I have been there. I still don't cry over what i have been through. go to therapy. Even if you don't cry you will get out everything. And you more than likely will cry in there once.

Answer 9

it's not about crying find the source of the depression or find a medium ground to deal with your inner feelings.life is what you make it. mine sucks but like they say thats life.hang in there look for something to brighten your life a friend a dog (unconditional love)

Answer 10

yes. you need to find another release. you don't have to be crying to express, release and heal sad or angry emotions. I suggest you try painting or drawing with huge, expressive marks. You'd be so surprised about how much you can let out in making marks on paper of canvas. best of luck to you

Answer 11

maybe u have chronic dry eye...it doesnt let u cry much...check it out ask a doctor if not use some eye drops when u wanna cry
good luck