liver. He is in the 4th stage. But he thinks he's going home on Monday, then eventually comming back to work. 2 questions.
1. Should I go along with his dreams or is there really a chance?
2. Am I so saddened because we both partied together for all those years and it could be me that's dying?
2007-11-24 12:14:30 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Cancer
Oh yeah hes a BIG drinker/ smoker, 50ish
2007-11-24 12:18:05 · update #1
his wife said she just hopes he can make it home from the hopspital let alone work again.
2007-11-24 12:27:02 · update #2
My mom died almost five years ago from cancer in her brain and lungs. However, there is always a chance. If your friend gives up of course it will all be over. Encouragement and dreams are one of the only things you can do to keep going through something like that. My mom gave up and died, I know. Don't let your friend do the same.
2007-11-24 14:45:58 · answer #1 · answered by adranth587 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear about your friend.
To answer your first question, in all likelyhood, he either knows or will soon know if his prognosis is grim, and there's nothing you can do about that, so why not try to keep up his positive attitude. As long as he's alive, there's hope.
Second, there are probably many reasons that you're sad. Cancer doesn't just take its toll on the patient, it also affects the people who care about that person. You may feel anger, sadness, guilt, or anything in between and that is okay. It is totally normal to see your friend and think 'that could be me' or wonder why it isn't. Unfortunately nobody has the answers to those questions because life is like that. The best thing that you can do for your friend right now is to be there for him and to take care of yourself as well. Lean on each other. There will be good days and bad days; cherish and enjoy the good ones and lean on each other to get through the bad ones. You can't control what happens to your friend, but you can make whatever time he has left as comforting as possible.
2007-11-24 20:22:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your friend just wants to be normal and go back to work and do whatever he did before his diagnosis.
A couple yrs back, I had a lung cancer pt go home from the hospital with a bunch of malignant tumors in his brain and bones. He was told not to drive or return to work. They offered him hospice and he declined.
Imagine my amazement when I pulled into the State Bank drive up and seen him in his big farm truck at the 4 way stop.
He was waving at people and smoking a cigarette. with his arm hanging out the window just like always. He had his farm hat on and looked normal.
I understood, he just wanted normal is all. He died within a week.
Your best friend just needs you to be his best friend,,,,thats all. If he wants to go out and drink and whoop it up like you always have and have shots of Tequila and chase women. Then do it, by all means. Make him happy. Thats all he really wants or needs. I dont think you need to remind him he is dying...he already knows. Be happy with him. Take pictures and make his time count. "Live like you were dying" and every day is your last.
2007-11-25 00:58:05 · answer #3 · answered by happydawg 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the odds are against your friend, that's for sure
He needs your friendship and support now more than ever
His dreams are his fuel
He may have some time of quality left, including working
What will motivate him most is to be able to do things while he can
He may do better than expected or worse than expected
Yes, you will be saddened at the end of an era, and that it could be you -
But it's not. It's him.
Cherish the time you have with him, make it really count.
I sense that strength in you.
His journey will not be easy, better or worse.
Be a rock for him.
It will benefit you both.
Here's hoping his treatment goes well.
2007-11-24 20:23:44 · answer #4 · answered by ceviche queen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hun,
My Grandma has lung cancer and ahs given up. Her time is soon, and im 15! She is my everything and i love her. She waited to go to the doctor.
Get him to quit smoking and drinking.
if not , there is no chance. EMAIL me for details.
alissanorfolk@comcast.net
2007-11-24 20:20:23 · answer #5 · answered by SiLveR RiBBoN 1 2 9 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be as optimistic as possible with him. The odds are not good but try to look on the bright side & keep your worries to yourself.
2007-11-28 03:52:07 · answer #6 · answered by David C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Miracles do happen, but it doesn't sound to good. Has the hospice people come to talk to you both.
2007-11-24 20:25:02 · answer #7 · answered by JusMe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋