i'm feeling so horrible right now...?

Question

i am finding out i am really ugly. whenever i post my pics and ask girls what they think, they either tell me i'm average or ugly. there are plenty of average and unattractive guys my age(i'm 19) who post those questions and girls tell them that they look fine or that they're cute. they are barely ever called ugly. the fact that girls need to say it to me must mean that i am REALLY ugly.

i never knew i was this ugly and even though i know i'm not hot, i don't see what it is that makes me so much uglier than most average guys my age. i'm so confused and depressed. i don't enjoy life anymore. i'd give almost anything for women to not see me as ugly. it hurts me so much when women i'm attracted to(which includes most women) are repulsed by the way i look. and it makes me feel so pathetic that they find most other guys my age so adorable.

i don't know how to get over this... i need someone to talk to.

this whole thing is REALLY affecting me. i can't focus on my school work, i have no interest in socializing, and i have no interest in anything anymore.

http://s205.photobucket.com/albums/bb65/hero_of_da_house/

here is my pic

Answer 1

wait. whoever says you're ugly is... ugly themselves. WTF I think you're cute and my fave pic is the fourth one.

learn to love yourself despite your looks. i don't think i'm the most attractive person either but that doesn't stop me from loving myself. i am really sure if you love yourself, some girl will learn to love you.

i dont think your appearance is stoping u from getting a girl but your attitude about yourself is turning people off.

Answer 2

Don't feel bad about ur feelings, it's a normal reaction to what ur going through with her. I totally understand for I too was once (long time ago), in such a relationship, almost identical except I had custody of my child. I was a strong person before him but, with the constant putting me down etc...I too eventually believed me stupid/ugly etc..I had no family to turn to but u do, so,please find a way to talk about this with them or find a counselor. There might also be a way for u to change on how the parenting should be, or even on how it can be arranged for u not having to see her when picking up ur child. Don't resent ur child,(I realize sometime u can't help that when ur in so much inner pain), just love him and in time he will see where the trouble really comes from. Do get help and contact a Legal Aid. Good luck, better times are ahaid, PRAYERS WILL HELP! Important: after going through this, I became an even stronger person and u will too, hang in there. I can read btw. ur lines above that, ur a really nice man with a generous heart and as u get stronger, someone nice will come along and help u with all of this. God Bless!

Answer 3

If girls really say this, then they aren't the girl for you. You need someone who likes you for who you are, and not what you look like. If looks were everything then a lot of people would be lonely. (look at angelina jolie and billy bob sheen, its possible). You need your personality to shine through, and if that isn't good enough for a girl, then they don't deserve you anyways. There are a lot of shallow girls around, but there are some who actually care more about the personality than whats on the outside : )

and i looked at the link, SHUT UP you're not ugly. Those girls were just being rude and shallow. I'm dating someone WAYY worse off in the looks ddepartment than you. trust me, you're fine.

Answer 4

Ugly? I wouldn't exactly say that, but you do have a unique look. you are probably just now growing into your looks...you know, like the "average" duckling? just chill.
I have known those that desired to be someone who I felt was way out of their league....and being their friend, I tried to tell them, but it wasn't received well at all...but since you already are down on yourself, there's no place to go but up. You may have to lower your high standards...So, if you want to be happy, look to the ladies that look at you. give them a chance, and also push the bounday a bit and you will meet pretty ladies that meet your desires..remember, your cup is always half full not half empty.

Answer 5

Everyone has different taste!Are you going to take a couple of ''average'' answers to heart? You shouldn't let it bother you. What's so wrong with average? I'd be happy with that. You shouldn't worry so much about what other people think of your looks. It will only make your life is miserable. I understand wanting to be attractive though. Most everyone wants that.
If you want to talk you can e-mail me.

Answer 6

Ah, c`mon Hero -- I think you're cute. I think maybe you need to get out of the house and meet girls more. You have a nice smile, and your eyes sparkle when you smile.

And see a doctor about being so depressed. Help is out there.

Answer 7

Noooo.......don't go there. You yourself say that no one is ugly! Someone thinks you're really hot, you just need to get to that self-confidence level and they'll really notice you. You're getting a negative vibe around you, get back up to your old self again! Plssss...we like that guy. That guy who should be funny and nice around people! Hope you feel better soon....(hugs)

Answer 8

What? Who called you ugly? How do you know they think that? My first impression was you're cute and ''out of my league''.Not being mean here but are you just fishing for compliments?

Answer 9

i think its wrong how they jst come out with it! i mean theres lots of people out there who think even the hottest guy on earth is ugly! its just not worth calling yourself the hotest guy when someone out there thinks your ugly. but im sure to some one your their hotest guy! post a pic and lets c!

Answer 10

be as sweet as you can, and be a girl's friend.
if you are a real real sweet funny guy, then girls wont even care about how you look. they will just LOVE you because of your personality.
you can send me a pic or something and i will tell you how you look, and if you really do look as bad as you think you do then i might be able to tell you how to make yourself more attractive.
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