My boyfriend left me when I told him I was bisexual. We've been going out for 6 months, I thought he could haddle it. His exact words were "I wouldn't be able to take it if you ditched me fo' a chick." Explain it to me please. Backround info: I'm 15, he's 16, the 28th is our 6 month annavesy.
2007-11-24 10:48:28 · 18 answers · asked by Alexa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i think he said it all.
what dont you understand?
his honesty?
2007-11-24 10:51:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No explanation need , if you left him for a girl he would feel like less of a man. you should have talked about threesomes and such first to bring him along into your sexuality slower. I was dumped by a girl once who wanted to "try it with another girl" and two weeks later she came crawling back saying she made a mistake but because she didn't want me involved in her experience I told her to take a hike and never saw her again.
Next time you will know what to do but don't worry most guys have no problem with girl on girl stuff but only if they are secure enough to know that they are first and the other girl is just for fun. But truly the way you did it I don't blame him.
2007-11-24 18:56:31 · answer #2 · answered by BILL 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to break this to you, but being Bi-sexual is not a small thing when you are on the receiving end of the information. He thought he "knew you" then all of a sudden you like dudes and chicks, this is a hard blow for a guy. I applaud his honesty, many guys would have done things to "make" you break up with him. You need to make this info available before feelings are involved.
it is not just a matter of his security. It is a matter of his belief system and how he was raised as well. Maybe its a matter of YOUR security? Why wait for SIX MONTHS to tell him?
15 and 16, you two are still quite young. Move on and make sure and tell you prospective partner that you are bi-sexual, don't wait for six months!
Good Luck!
2007-11-24 19:06:25 · answer #3 · answered by Wolf's Mate 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Are you sure he dumped you because of only that reason? Perhaps he's been meaning to dump you and that gave him an easy way out. If you believe that for sure he did it because you told him you were bi then do you really want to be with someone who won't love you as you are? If you still want to date him then tell him how you feel, he sounds like a guy who wants to be manly and blah blah blah and if you were to break up with him for another woman then ...i can only imagine that would be embarrasing for him (at school i'd assume because you're both young enough to go) . Did you always know you were bi? have you dated other woman? Being single now lets you start fresh and see what it is you really want (and who truly wants you) i hope my comments helped, and i'm sorry that he broke up with you
2007-11-24 18:58:49 · answer #4 · answered by Freeda 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try being honest from the start in your next relationship. Yes, withholding information is being dishonest. Let's say you had the genital herpes virus and didn't tell your partner. You just figure you won't have sex during an outbreak and everything will be cool. WRONG!
You are allowed to choose your sexual behavior. You are not allowed however to choose what sexual behavior your partner desires. By not telling your bf about your desire to have sexual relations with another of the same sex as yours, you are, by default, choosing that same behavior for him and that is not your choice to make.
Just be honest next time and the one's who are alright with your behavior will hang around and the one's that aren't won't. Simple!
2007-11-24 19:04:33 · answer #5 · answered by Dave C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alright now i know some guys are going to be like sweet my gf is bi. But think of it this way it would be a major blow to his ego and self-estem to find out dang i got dumped for a chick its the same way when a guy loses to a chick.
2007-11-24 18:52:40 · answer #6 · answered by Andrew k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alexa, this isn't a small thing. Maybe in several years you may be mature enough to understand what he said but anyone going out with a bisexual person has got to face the reality that they are going to be competing with the opposite sex. Many people can't and won't deal with that.
You should respect what he said and not minimize his feelings. He could've easily, verbally ripped you apart and didn't.
2007-11-24 18:53:20 · answer #7 · answered by Lisa W 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Let me help you understand. How would you have handled him telling you he was bisexual? Would you be able to handle it if he ditched you for a guy?
I think he left you for a huge thing not a small thing.
2007-11-24 18:54:40 · answer #8 · answered by thefinalresult 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He's obviuosly not comfortable with your sexual preferences and needs a girl who wants a guy and guy only.And I would say the same to a man who's bisexual....it'd be bad enough being dumped for another woman but to be dumped for another man would be devastating ...to me anyway.
2007-11-24 18:52:47 · answer #9 · answered by Janell T 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
thats not a small thing. i know this sounds mean, but he is not right for you if he cant handle every part of you. you need someone who can respect you for who you are. not someone who thinks you are gonna leave him for a girl. this is the mean part: i think he looks to you as someone completely different, like he cant believe he didnt realize that. i think hes somewhat ashamed. i know this hurts. but he was afraid you would leave him, and it wouldnt matter if it were a guy, but it would matter if it were a girl. and he couldnt handle that so he left you. move on from him. forget him and his morals. find someone who respects you. :)
2007-11-24 18:53:56 · answer #10 · answered by mcr_fanatic 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Maybe he just couldn't handle it. I'm sorry. You can't try to be with someone because he may not trust you after that. And he obviously didn't love you enough to want to work things out or try to stay with you, so he's not worth your time worrying over if he can't respect your decisions!
Can someone answer my question please?
2007-11-24 18:51:42 · answer #11 · answered by Cassie 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋