i cheated on my last bf...with my current bloke. and now my current bloke doesnt trust me he looks over my shoulder when i text hes knows my passwords and is always checking my emails and bebo account and asking about the boys on there.i can understand why but ive explained to him how different the relationships are! i cheated because i was in an abusive relationshio and im totally faithful in everyway to my bloke.wot can i say to him to get him to trust me and not keep checking up on me???
2007-11-24 10:45:30 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ive done all i can and all i know to 'earn' his trust, and i couldnt leave the abusive relationship for more serious reasons than i care to put on here! he was terrifyingly abusive and it wasnt a proper relationship
2007-11-24 10:53:53 · update #1
can people try to be understanding? im sure alot of you have cheated before and it was a long time ago now im a different person and that 'once a cheat always a cheat' is junk!
2007-11-24 10:57:15 · update #2
my friend is having the same problem.
just let him know you love him. and you'd never do something like that to him. and if there's anything you can say to him to make him feel more comfortable.
2007-11-24 10:50:28 · answer #1 · answered by Pri 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Geee I wonder why he has trouble trusting you? Maybe because most people assume that once you are a cheater you will always be a cheater. Stop making excuses for cheating. If you were in an abusive relationship you should have broke that one off first and then moved on to the next one. There is no valid reason for being a cheater.
2007-11-24 10:51:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant change him.Either he will learn to trust you and why should he?
You have all these guys you talk to, you cheated on your last b/f.This will be his excuse to dump you if you ever turn up pregnant hon.
If you were in an abusive relationship, YOU should have ended it BEFORE getting into another relationship.
He may be a jealous psycho who will never change,only time will tell.
2007-11-24 10:52:02 · answer #3 · answered by Joe F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Change your passwords. That's never good.
Also, you cannot have someone who doesn't trust you. Talk to him about it again. Honestly if you've really explained how different the relationships were, and he still doesn't get it, let him know that you can't be in a realtionship if he can't trust you.
2007-11-24 10:55:00 · answer #4 · answered by Meghan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he thinks the past will repeat itself thats why he does that and it happened to me (cheated on) and i most likely will be the same way but what u did wrong is u told him when u should have waited till u where deeper in the relationship cause now he doesnt know if u will cheat and thats what he is afraid of and thats why he acts that way
2007-11-24 10:50:53 · answer #5 · answered by Raven 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot make someone trust you. Trust is earned. And you did not earn his trust from the beginning because of your actions and the way you started your relationship. You have to decide if he is worth all the mistrust hassle or not.
2007-11-24 10:49:33 · answer #6 · answered by fancyface1 l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because u cheated on ur x with him he thinks u might do it to him prove him wrong he thinks u might **** him over u have to suck it up and not be mean to him about it he has every right u would dothe same thing if u were in his shoes think about it he just dosent want to get hurt
2007-11-24 10:50:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing will change his mind move onto a differnt guy
2007-11-24 10:52:10 · answer #8 · answered by Michael 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant
2007-11-24 10:52:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋