How do people 'start over' in a relationship?

Question

That would be hard. How do you forget and ignore everything thats happened?

Answer 1

you can use those buzz words of "starting over" but no one ever really does. you always remember whatever it is you are pretending to forget. if you want to try to keep it together, sit down, say what you feel about whatever happened, then let it go. that way, you clear your chest of what you want to say, but you deal with it and move on.

Answer 2

To "Start Over" in a relationship is redundant. You can't just forget everything that has happened during the course of the relationship. You CAN however try to ignore it. But, I assure you, it WILL come up again somewhere down the line and bite you in the butt. If you want to continue this relationship, you need to take a long hard look at why you want to continue and what is keeping you there. If you can't find more reasons to stay than to leave, you have your answer. Relationships are a lot of hard work. You need to decide if it's worth it to fight or easier to cut your losses and move on.

Answer 3

You can't go home again.

Relationships often end badly, espeically in Western societies due to the difference between the romantic ideals people are taught to expect the actual reality of what the relationship actually is or become.

Hollywood has lied to us so much and so often that many persons actually expect "happily ever after" with no problems and nothing every changing.

Change is a part of life, growth and development. One should not expect to "change " the other, however, one should be willing to accept the changes the other adopts if they are healthy mentally, emotionally and spiritually.

When most relationships end, usually one or both parties have burned to many bridges behind themselves. There would always be that lingering "doubt" regarding the other or ones self.

You can't go home again.

Answer 4

good question, my girlfriend and i have been together for about 6 years and she is the love of my life..unfortunatly when i was younger i made some mistakes because i was a young stupid guy i guess. Well anyway she found out because the truth always comes out, and we just fell apart. Deep down we loved each other so much and we both wanted a long loyal realationship so we tried to work it out and she tried to forgive me but she just couldnt get over the things i did, so finally she got the courage to leave me...i was crushed but after she took time to her self and thought about things she realized that im not the kind of guy that cheats and we decided to move on and forgive...now we are happier than we ever were. not to mention stronger as a couple....sorry for the long answer but if you can forgive and the other party is serious and wont mess up again than yes you CAN move foward. but no you can not start over, your histiry will always be there. but thats ok you learn from it and you will know where yous have been. you just have to put the past behind you and forgive and move foward together..good luck...take a long break. its so cliche but if you love it let go...if it comes back its meant to be!

Answer 5

It always takes people awhile to get over their last relationship. Don't just go on hunting for a new relationship for comfort. Dwell on what messed up your last relationship and make sure you can emotionally and mentally handle the next one. Even if you feel like you're ready to move on, evaluate how you really feel, the best answers come from the heart. But just make sure that you can work out kinks in your relationship. Here are some problems often found in relationships: Financing, cheating, and communication.

Answer 6

Essentially you don't. However, learning and growing from your experiences, especially the bad ones, is an important part of every relationship. I advise praying for the strength to forgive and accept in order to move on. Remember though, a hot stove burns you so you'll let go. Don't pursue an unhealthy relationship. If you don't feel comfortable, don't continue to waste their time and yours on something that will never result in mutual happiness.

Answer 7

the best way to start over is with counseling and forgiveness but you never really forget or ignore. It is a matter of choices: whether you choose to give the other person another chance, whether there is anything in the relationship worth saving, and even whether you should have gotten into that relationship to begin with.

Answer 8

you cant, you can forgive, but nobody ever really forgets. thats why i say its usually better to just let it go and move on. somebody will always have whatever happened in the back of their mind. especially if it violated the partner's trust. it causes resentment and suspiciousness that relationships have no room for. it's impossible to just "start all over"

Answer 9

It depends on the value of the relationship to both people. Counciling, hard work to build trust over whatever broke down the relationship, sometimes it can work. But do you really want to start over?

Answer 10

its hard but if you are frank and get all the issues out in the open it can work. Both must agree though that the final word is said and then the issuues do not get dragged up againand again... stranegly it helps if both parties confess a little and agree to adapt a little - even if one party if the prime problem....really decide how much is already invested in the relationship, is it worth resetting the odometer or get a new car?

PS oh and work out what brings you both together and is it bigger than what is splitting you up !!!!!!