howj do you know when you find the right person, especially when you have been burned over and over.?

Question

How do you know when you find the right person, especially when you have been burned over and over.

Answer 1

The simple answer is...It takes time. When you have been hurt before you naturally are more protective and suspicious. As a result you need someone who is willing to help break those barriers down while not hurting you again. So it will take time to build up the trust again.

What I would say is try not to judge a new person like any of the old ones. We are all different and deserve to be judged on our own merits. Down le the hurt and dissapointment from the past define who you are now. Things happen for a reason, so try to learn from the negatives and move forward with a positve. After all if it didn't work before, look for something different this time!

I would focus on what is really important to you and ask yourself, does this new person tick those boxes? If the answer is yes, then I think chances are they are more than likely right for you!

Try to stay positive and don't just expect things to fail and people to betray you. there are good people out there, lots of them actually. Sometimes it just takes time to hook up with them. But you will get there sometime!

Just follow your heart and don't get paranoid. If it feels ok and good,go with it. If not then back off and regroup.

Good luck.

Answer 2

Easy you dont have sex with him until you are married, and first,
1 does he have a job(at least for 2 yrs or more)
2 does he have his OWN transportation
3.does he have his OWN place or does he live with hi mommy?
4 does he pay his own way in life or does his g/f's and/or mommy pay for everything?
5 is he a player with lots of child support to pay to various mothers of many children?
6 does he have a violent temper?
If he has a job a place of his own,car, stays out of trouble with the law doesnt drink or do drugs or screw around making babies ,doesnt have a violent temper ,sounds like a catch.
However some guys put on a show, date for a yr no sex and see what he turns out to be.It takes a while to get to know someone.

Answer 3

one thing is for sure, you know you haven't found the right one as of yet.
your soul mate is found at the very moment you least expect it.
don't rush to find the right one on your own.
i believe that GOD has the perfect mate for us all, but we don't wait.
women [sometimes] use their feelings instead of their heart to choose a soul mate. this in itself will create flames that will scorch ourselves.
the things you have allow to burn you over and over, don't do those things. change the thinking progress and next you chose whom and when you date a guy.
look at a guy's eyes when he is speaking to you. notice his hands, if he is moving them alot, that means he's playing you.
a fork tongue speaks with nerviness,
the heart speaks straight forward, to the heart of the listener.
the mouth can disguise oneself, but the body language will reveal his true identity.
may the good Lord direct you to mr. right..
bless you

Answer 4

you take that "leap". otherwise you'll just sit around guessing all day long and not coming up with any more of an answer tomorrow morning than you had this morning.