I was with my ex for 2 years and the relationship went up and down. I was dealing with a lot of issues at the time, as was he. Every few months during the relationship, I would discuss with my mother or best friend how I was thinking of breaking up with him. I was too afraid to be alone though. My ex almost took care of me, like a mother would...which isn't very healthy.
When I finally got enough courage to break up with him, I met someone literally a few days later, probably due to my insecurities. This understandably hurt my ex a lot and he refused to be friends with me. Being with this new person made me face issues I didn't face with my ex. I've been with my current boyfriend for about four months and everything is going great. I haven't questioned my desire to be with him once. My ex contacted me on Thanksgiving to wish me well and I've been crying ever since. I truly love my boyfriend and now my emotions are all mixed up. Why is this happening?
2007-11-24 10:12:32 · 5 answers · asked by zelda 2 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The phone call from your ex stirred up emotions (which I'm sure he planned to do) that you still have for him which is quite natural and a lot of good and bad memories which eventually will fade. Good Luck with your new boyfriend.
2007-11-24 10:18:41 · answer #1 · answered by peaches6 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this has been happening because you probably have had some good times with your ex-boyfriend. Maybe more with your ex-boyfriend then your current one. Maybe the sound of your ex's voice had made you think about him and why you two had ever broken up. It all depends on how you feel now with your current one compared to your ex. Good Luck with your problems and I hope I gave you a hint on whats going on.
2007-11-24 10:25:48 · answer #2 · answered by monkey girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like your current boyfriend was more or less a rebound, which could be good or bad. being that he's help you grow and face things that you were avoiding or unaware of prior, sounds like it's a good thing. but when you take a serious look at the timeline of your boyfriend events, i don't think you gave yourself the time and space that you needed to fully break up and let go of the previous boyfriend.
2007-11-24 10:17:51 · answer #3 · answered by celticbuddha 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is happening cuz love is a cruel mix of emotions that you can't control. Unfortunatley we cannot choose who our hearts fall for.....and although we may try to reason with ourselves who is best for us, our heart doesn't reason. I believe you can be in love with 2 or more people at the same time, often you just love one more than the other(s) and saying bye to the otehr(s) isn't easy on your heart. Listen to your heart, you will know who it is you truely love.
2007-11-24 10:17:39 · answer #4 · answered by Chris T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unresolved issues here forget about the ex and move on you were together for a long time and it didn't work out talk with your mom stay with your current boyfriend
2007-11-24 10:17:49 · answer #5 · answered by dreamweaver 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋