PLEASE I PLEAD WITH ALL OF YOU TO HELP ME, im really down and i just feel like ending it, please help?

Question

i just lost my grandma, i have no family and fake friends. i feel i look terrible
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i have a talent in music but im too closed to make it noticeable. i just got rejected by a girl i really liked. i dont drink alcohol as i find it makes the pain even worse. i try praying to jesus but things are not getting much better. please help and dont give harsh answers like some people on here who want to vent their hatred to me. i beg you to help me please

Answer 1

you lookk fine! if you need help, talk to a psychiatrtit or something at your school or whatever. life is a beautiful thing. enjoy it. :)

Answer 2

I'm sorry you lost your grandma. What a sad tragedy. I know how it feels to lose somebody close to you. It's an absolutely sickening feeling.

Anyway, if you don't have any immediate family that you can console to, I would suggest going to your friends. Even if you think they are 'fake', if they really care about you as a friend they will comfort you in your time of need. However, if you don't feel like you can go to them, there are alternatives. You can talk to people on the Internet, go out and attempt to make new friends, etc. It is not as hard as it sounds and most people will be more than happy to comfort you during this time of tragedy and loss.

Don't try praying to Jesus, my friend. Prayer doesn't work and if you genuinly believe that it is going to help you then you are going to feel even worse when it doesn't. I am not trying to be harsh by any means, I am just giving you some honest advice from a person who has gone through similiar experiences. I also wouldn't recemmend that you try to drink your problems away either. Alcohol isn't the answer to numbing your pain, although I do drink when I'm upset, just not excessivly.

Above all, however, DO NOT end your life. Suicide is NEVER the answer no matter what situation you are in, and I have also had first-hand experience with that on several occasions, so I know what I am talking about. I know it hurts so bad to live right now but you will recover from this in time. It just takes time and patience.

If you really want somebody to talk to right now and feel like you have nobody to go to, I welcome you to email me or send me an instant message. I can't promise you that I'll be able to help you but I'll do everything I can. So please, feel free to drop me a line or shoot me up a message. I'll try to give you as much helpful advice as I can and help you to conquer your troubles.

Simply visit my 'profile page' on here to send me an email or drop me a message.

Answer 3

Dont talk like that!... I know someone that took that path, and it will hurt the ones that love you more than you could know!!

I am a guy (haha) but you look pretty above average to me!!.. And you play guitar! Man, women love musicians! Its a GOOD quality to have!

What you need to do is work on your self confidence during this time of your life... I went through a period (as far as women go) that I went 8 years without having a girlfriend... Read the Book "Feel the the Fear, and Do It Anyways" by Susan Jeffers... It will help you to come out of your "shell"

I spent the last 5 years of my life learning about women, and during that time I have had 3 girlfriends, and the last relationship was 1-1/2 years with one of the most beautiful women I have ever seen

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TRUST ME,,, This is very fixable,,, The thing about being a man is that your "looks" are onlyabout 20% of what can attract women,,, The other 80% is confidence, humor, and the list goes on...

Your grnadmother will take time, and you will get through it (mine died 4 years ago)...

I would be more than happy to help... Email me if you want & I will do what I can... But therapy (as others have stated), is a good idea to look into as well as far as your grandmother goes...

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Chris

Answer 4

First things first...DO NOT END IT, you will be making a decision that cannot be reversed. You are going through a hard time right now, and you must realize your thoughts are distorted and that it's not worth giving up. If you cannot stop thinking of ending it I urge you to call 1-800-273-8255 and talk to someone that can support you through this difficult time. Also, you are not alone. Many people are going through the same things that you are, probably many more people than you even realize. You must allow yourself to grieve over the loss of your grandma, just try to get it all out, I've been there and it's hard i know. Your issues with your friends and the girl you liked are most likely the result of feeling so low and thinking irrationally. You WILL feel better some day, I promise, then you'll realize that the girl that rejected you probably wasnt really worth it in the first place. The stuff going on with you is more than I can help you with through this site, but I strongly urge you to reach out to anyone that you can talk to and will listen...their are caring people out there who can assist you through this, and are probably much more qualified than I. Just know that these are difficult things that we all must go through and you WILL get through it and figure things out, just reach out to whoever is around you in your life and talk to people, grieve and start dealing with the pain inside, you can do it...by the way, looks are subjective, the better you feel about yourself inside the better you will look to yourself, and eventually to the girls that you are interested in. Take care :)

Answer 5

I'm sorry about your grandma, but she's probably looking at you right now. You'll see her again.

I'm sorry about your family too =(

If you're friends aren't real friends, then why don't you try and find new friends? Fake friends just hurt

You don't look terrible, not at all

As for talent in music, get in as many music classes as you can and sign up for solos whether you want to or not, it'll help

If you were rejected by her then she probably wouldn't appreciate you as much as she should, try finding someone else, and just remember people who reject you won't appreciate you as much as other will.

You're right, alcohol sucks, and if it doesn't put you in pain, just seeing you drink will put someone else in pain, even if you don't know it.

I won't comment, on praying, religion just baffles me.

When life gives you lemons, you have three options,
1: Make lemonade (easy and simple)
2: Eat the lemons (not very tasty)
3: Make apple juice (try something completely new)

Good luck, somethings got to go right for you soon =)

Answer 6

I am sorry about your Grandmother.
I used to feel the same way you do, I had lost a close sister when I was 19.It was the LORD though WHO delivered me from manic depression without doctors or drugs HE can do the same for you.You have to realize HE knows what you are going through and HE DOES care!
If you get a chance, read John 3:1-5 and Acts 2:38.Look in your yellow pages under churches and see if you can find a United Pentecostal church or Apostolic church in your area.You need the fellowship.My church family is closer than my flesh and blood family.My family was pretty UNGODLY , but I am married and happy now.I was on my own for 15 yrs or more.Hang in there. GOD WILL see you through, if you want to talk anymore just E-mail me at [e-mail]

Answer 7

im not gonna say iknow what you mean because i dont. and im soo sorry things are going bad for you and i know you might not want to hear this but you have to think positively... the more you down on stuff and the more you think negatively then the worse the situation will get. i know it hurts that your grandma pass away ... but just think about it she is somewhere better.... and if you have no family.. just think about living independently and you are too young there is always foster home. and about your fake frens im sorry i know how that feels but just think positively and find new ones...... get a job so you can get things out of your head. i mean no one can really help you except for yourself. so dont be so negative abotu life and stop being so pity and start over a new leaf........ a hard past makes a good future.

Answer 8

Oh Sweetie, I am so sorry you lost your grandma! Both of my grandmothers are gone, so is my mother. It is really hard to give up someone you love and it seems that everything bad happens all at once, doesn't it?

Please don't give up on yourself, don't do any harm, please. I know you are in a lot of pain and can't find a way to make it leave. But you must know that the pain of losing someone never goes away, it just fades and time is the only answer.

Please don't hurt yourself, my own sweet grandma suffered first hand the loss of her son by suicide. She suffered a nervous breakdown, it was horrible! My uncle's death affected everyone! My whole family was so horribly hurt, its been over 30 years since he killed himself, and it makes me cry still, as I am now.

I am sure you have more people who care for you than you think, your friends may not be as fake as you think and family doesn't mean blood kin. The teachers and counselors at your school have your best interests at heart, please find one to trust and confide in. If you belong to a church, go and speak to someone there, they can guide you in prayer, if that's what you want.

Take solice in your music, you don't have to be famous to find comfort in your talent. I wish that I could express my feelings musically, I tend to cry and feel sorry for myself and I am a grown woman!

Lastly, you do not look horrible! You look like a normal young man, who is trying to find his way in this life. I hope you find this long letter helpful, please know that this bad time will pass and you will become a stronger person, better at handling things like this in the future, which by the way, is a blank slate and you are in control of the paintbrush.

Take care..............

Answer 9

I am sorry that other people have been mean to you. You are on the right road. The straight and narrow road is hard. Jesus said that we will have trials in this life. But don't give up! What you are going through right now is for a reason. Jesus never wastes a hurt. Someday you may be in the positon to help someone because you have been there. Keep praying! I will pray for you too.

Answer 10

What you are experiencing may be the grieving process you are going through because of the death of your grandma. You may want to spend some time with someone who knew her, even a neighbor or one of her friends. They can share memories of her and help you feel that you haven't really "lost" her....she is still in your heart.

Rejection by someone you like is hard, but there really isn't anything you can do about that except continue to be friendly and try to make new friends. I know that isn't always easy to do. If you could find some people your age who are into music, so much the better. Maybe you are too shy to make it on your own just now in music, but you could still have fun jamming in a group. I find that to be a lot of fun and an easier way to make friends.

You are very smart not to get into trying to medicate your pain with alcohol......it is one of the worst things you can do. It will ruin your life. Praying can help, but you need to have the key: it's as easy as ABC: Ask, Believe, Claim.....the last two are the hardest, obviously. First of all, you need to remember that Jesus loves you....unconditionally, always, and forever. That's a fact. That means he's as anxious for you to get through this as you are. Why doesn't he just "get you through it", then? He probably wants you to grow from this experience. Maybe it's a way of getting you to connect with someone he knows can help you, not just in this, but in other ways that you may not even be aware of needing help yet. Or maybe he just wants you to depend on him. That's the "Believe" part of the equation. Believe he loves you, wants to help you. When you ask for help, be specific. What do you want him to do: meet a new friend, give you some way of reaching out to someone else in need to help you feel less lonely, (that is often very good "medicine"), help you through the greiving process (find a support group), etc. Then for the "Claim" part: when you finish asking Jesus for help, literally claim it as you would a gift. Reach out your hands, cupped, like you were waiting for something to be put into them. Then say to yourself, "It is so if I believe it!" Repeat that as often as you need reassurance.

As well, I suggest that to be sure you don't have something physically/chemically wrong in your body that is causing you to be depressed.....it would be a good idea to get a medical check up.

This experience you are going through may feel like "the end", but it could be just the beginning of a whole new, better life.

Answer 11

Look if that girl rejected you its no reason to end it, look for help with a close relative or professional help like suggested. Keep praying and it will all be fine, I will keep you in my prayers and remeber that life is too valuable to waste on some person who doesn't matter, there is someone out there for you and you just need to look.