Have you talked about this to your significant other?
Is it really that important to know....aren't some things better left unsaid
2007-11-24 09:15:50 · 21 answers · asked by cooldude11000000 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2007-11-24 09:17:42 · answer #1 · answered by dontbedenied 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No. HE never asked me. Kudos to him, most guys ask girls. HE didn't want to know. I did ask him...just as a safety precaution. But now I wish I didn't. It's not important to know. IF he's got kids, or has some std, then yeah, u need to know, it'll affect u. But he's he's clean, then no, u don't need to know. Yeah, some things are better left unsaid, because u'll always wonder if he's had better...especially if ur inexperienced and he's experienced. IT's hard to think that u might be great in his eyes if u knew he had experience, and if this were true, it would be hard to believe if he out ranks u in experience. IT's hard to be ok(or proud) with the fact, that, even if he's had priors, he choose u to do it with the rest of his life(yeah, me and the guy i'm speaking of are married).
2007-11-24 17:33:27 · answer #2 · answered by Uncertain Soul 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, this is a tough one. After watching the movie "Chasing Amy" I swore that I would never ask or disclose the amount of partners any future significant other and I had had. Unfortunately this only works in dating, not in marriage. Now I am married and the issue came up a long time ago. In order to keep a sane marriage these types of things must be known, however, when you are young and dating they are irrelevant. My advise is to tell them that it doesn't matter and what matters is that you are with each other now.
2007-11-24 17:19:41 · answer #3 · answered by chris_collins11 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People entering a serious ( by that I mean sexual) relationship have a right to know if their partner is safe to be with. It's only fair to be honest.
I can think of nothing worse than not telling a girl that you have been with someone who gave you an STD, and banging her bareback! That's cruel!
You should not have to submit to the second degree, or water torture and divulge every event or person you have been with.
Once you've lost your virginity, it then becomes a matter of safety and fidelity.
2007-11-24 17:30:01 · answer #4 · answered by seeitmiway32 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had to talk to it to my boyfriend, now husband, because I had contracted a STD from being sexually abused and knew that if our relationship started getting serious, he should know to decide what he wanted to do.
I don't think it's really important. My husband and I are completely comfortable with each other and he knows how many I've had, and their names and stories with them all. I know how many he has had. I think a lot of the time knowing this can pose jealousy issues with couples depending on how strong or weak the relationship is.
2007-11-24 17:19:24 · answer #5 · answered by Megan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to go into details like swinging from the ceiling or glass toys, but a number would be nice. AIDS and HIV can be transmitted up to 15 years later.
Or you can both be tested at the same time and have the results read together.
2007-11-24 17:23:32 · answer #6 · answered by Yankee Micmac 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've always thought that the past is the past and should be left there. On the occasions that the subject was brought up I was either lied to or got an answer that made me regret having gotten onto the subject.
2007-11-24 17:19:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm very picky and have been single a while. I don't want anyones whole sexual history, but I do want to know if he's been tested recently..or not, and if he used protection. But, if I'm at that level w/a guy that I want to take it there...He won't mind a few simple questions..neither would I. Infact I think I'd want us to both get tested.......then it's all about the br gymnastics..swinging from the chandlier etc....But, haven't found anyone I want to take it to that level since my hubby died.
2007-11-24 17:25:01 · answer #8 · answered by Carol (Yeah I said it!) G. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's safety you're interested in...then you both should be tested and share the results before indulging. Then you can proceed with a greater degree of confidence...both for your partner and yourself. Prior activity should be minor in importance.
2007-11-24 17:30:18 · answer #9 · answered by Robere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, better unsaid, UNLESS, there is a 'good reason to state something important, STD etc.......
Otherwise, forget it... that all was in the past!
2007-11-24 17:18:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i think that it is important because now a days people are having sex with everyone and we need to worry about AIDS and HIV. Honestly i dont think that the number matters.. well to me anyway... i mean the move people you sleep with the more experience you have but as the same time i want to know if i have to worry about catching anything...
2007-11-24 17:19:55 · answer #11 · answered by Broken Blue Eyes 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋