he's kinda a push over.. i hate it.. but i like him cuz he is like the sweetest guy on earth.. he does everything i ask except one small thing.. he all ways lets me talk.. it seems like he puts me first all the time.. i dont relly like it.. i want him to hang with his friends too. i want him to be more talkative.. how do i get him to think more about himelf??
2007-11-24 09:15:49 · 23 answers · asked by iloveyou<3 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i ask him questions about him self and like that.. also christmas is comeing up and he wont tell me what he wants he just sais idk.. he is the hardest person i have ever met to buy a present for...
2007-11-24 09:24:54 · update #1
he listens to everything i say..
2007-11-24 09:27:55 · update #2
ummm. i dont think u want this as bad as u think!!!
but if u want my opinion i think u should talk to his friends and see if he is always been this quiet with them or is it just with you! if he is always this quiet there is not much you can do because that is just how he is! but you can still tell him what u r feeling! strict and firm but don't attack him!!!
now if he is just like this with you and n ot to anybody else it sounds to me like he is SPRUNG!!! and he loves you alot! and he iz very shy! so when you talk he pays extreme attention to what u have to say! if u want him to talk more about himself TELL HIM!!!!! and i am pretty sure if u make it very clear he will do it even if he doesnt want to! because he cares about you! he will try! jus tell him what goin on and that it is buggin you! (not in a bad way!!!) and state the problem and he will listen and agree! and soon start to try! really hard! so next time you talk to him tell him what you feel! and when you are talkin to him on the phone at night or whatever you guys do ask him questions while you are talkin and try to invole him in the conversation as much as possible!!!
ok??? Hope every thing works out for you!!!
~Ali cubba~ signing out!
2007-11-24 09:37:47 · answer #1 · answered by Mr.???Mysterious??? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That kind of boyfriend is very special but can, indeed, be boring. Role model some independence for him. Take a course or join a club or activity that is only for girls/women (assuming you are one). I'm surprised he still has friends if that's all he wants to do is hang with you. My first husband was like that. He never did make any friends. It lasted 8 years. Apparantly he has been happily remarried for that long at least so some women obviously don't mind it that much.He may not change no matter what you do. So decide if his clingingness is more of a burden or a benefit. Remember not to fall into the trap of thinking the grass is greener on the other side. He could be out with his friends constantly and have you begging him to spend time with you.
2007-11-24 09:32:27 · answer #2 · answered by julie b 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Learn to be a great listener not only with your ears but with your eyes. Watch body language. In order to get a person to open up and talk you must ask questions and questions about things that you do not know and things that you know he is interested in and also give plenty of wait time for a response. Some people take time to process and then respond. Finally, relax, sometimes it is wonderful to just not talk but to be comfortable being safe with the person you enjoy and enjoys you.
2007-11-24 09:25:29 · answer #3 · answered by snookums 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like a self esteem issue. What might be helpful is to let him know how it makes you feel when he spends all his time taking care of you and not himself. You say he does everything you ask him to do then ask him to talk to you tell you what he wants and needs encourage him to express himself verbally. Ask him to make plans his friends and follow through with them or to make plans that include his friends and yours make it a group thing.
The bottom line is Low self esteem or self worth may be the real issue and it needs to be addressed.
From personal experience I can tell you that there will always be someone for you to take care of or someone who wants to be taken care of by you, but you really have to take care of yourself first because you are the only one who can. I have been told many a time to be a friend to others you have to be a friend to yourself first.
2007-11-24 09:44:33 · answer #4 · answered by K W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You better Thank God That He Puts You First. That Is So Sweet!! Be Happy Lady, Most Women Would Love That Attention!! You Have A Good One, So Be Thankful..
2007-11-24 09:20:19 · answer #5 · answered by T 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well do you like it when he hangs all over you? If you want my opion I don't like boy's or men that are whipped. Tell him to go spend time with his friends or to stop putting you first. Just be nice about it and put questions towards him or subjects you know he likes, then maybe that will make him more talkative.
2007-11-24 09:23:41 · answer #6 · answered by answer machine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I have just separated and one of the reasons was cos he has no backbone!!
He was the nicest man you could ever ask to meet but oh so frustrating!
I don't know how you can get your bf more fired up cos I tried for years and years with my husband. But be warned that if this annoys you now it can cause problems later.
Everyone needs to have a little passion in their lives.
2007-11-24 09:20:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be annoying for you, but your mom is only protecting you and does not want anything to happen to you. Age difference does not matter she will always assume a guy is to old for you because you are her daughter. And yes your mom may have met your father the same time you met yours and your mom probably made some mistakes that she just does not want repeated to you. Just listen to her because in the end if something does happen to you, you will feel bad for not listening and you will regret the outcome.
2016-05-25 05:52:35 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the way you described him.. its like a mirror image of me.
he is a push over because he is so lenient and all he wants is peace and not cause any trouble so lets people take advantage of him, he probably gets frustrated about it but doesn't express it and bottles it up. if hes not very talkative hes probably so self conscious and worries about his actions allot...lack of belief in his self, he probably is thinking to much about him self and doesn't truly listen to what your saying but it may seem like he is in a passive kind of way just agreeing to everything your saying etc. ask him whats on his mind or anything troubling him..he will probably lie about it if he inst upfront about his self.
2007-11-24 09:26:38 · answer #9 · answered by Matty S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably has a complex regarding his relationship with you. If he is a pushover like you say, it is probably only because he really likes you (choosing you over his friends) and at some level is really disbelieving that he is (in his view, I don't know you ;) going out with someone like you.
Give him reassurance about your feelings for him, that they won't change just because he does things for himself.
2007-11-24 09:20:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋