Do you ever feel you have been ostracized by your family or peers or your community?

Question

I don't know about myself but I feel that i have been shut off. Just cause I dont go to church or partake of different things .. I feel shut off from the world. Do you ever feel this way?

Answer 1

Boy, I'm glad u've asked that question! I'm hard-of-hearing and my family is hearing. I was born in Congo and my first language is french. Since I moved here, I've been ostracized by my family. It's so hard to learn other language especially if you have hearing loss. When I speak english to improve, my half-brothers laughed at me because I didn't pronounce the words right. Even my mom made fun of me. I'm an only child and my real father lives in Congo. I have no friends. I don't talk in classes because what my family did to me still affecting me. I'm afraid if I speak and my classmates will laugh. I told my mom that I want a speech therapist so I can enuniciate the words. My mom disagrees. I'm always quiet at home and my family always make comments about how quiet and ugly I am. But then later, they try to make up with me by smiling and forget what they say. I wish I could live by myself. I don't need them. Sometimes, I wish I wasn't born yet.

Answer 2

Yeah, totally. But then again, if I was the only sane person living in an asylum, I'd probably feel lonely, but "partaking" still wouldn't be a very good idea. With friends like that, who needs enemies, know what I mean?

If you're feeling isolated, find other atheists! Start an online community, or a social club that could meet up once a week or so. You're not the only one...that I can promise.

Answer 3

Do you feel shut off, or is it really that you are shutting *yourself* off by not going to church or partaking of different things?

If it's the latter, then you need to explore why you don't want to partake in things - it could be a symptom of an underlying problem that could be helped by counseling.

Answer 4

No offense K cause you know I love you but you shut yourself away in your house. You need to get out and meet ppl then you would feel morelike a part of the community. Me? I'm a friendly person and talk to EVERYONE whether they want me to or not!

Answer 5

I was lost in rural Africa for 30 odd
years ,lost contact because my house got burned with every bodies adresses.

and never talked to any one of my family during that time ,

recently i found my brother on the internet and also comunicate now with my other brother ,

but the rest of the family to this day even though they know where i am will not talk to me ,that is for 40 years now

Answer 6

Yes,I too feel that way. I went through a divorce about 13 years ago and I felt that I hurt my mother and family. Since then I have had very little contact with them so it is hard.....

Answer 7

Absolutely.

Even though she would never admit it, my mother would rather that I was christian than happy. I spent 15 years trying to be christian, and it was the most miserable aspect of my life.

She's good about it, thought, and has stopped telling me she prays for me every day to find god, and doesn't tell the rest of my family, because they would do the exact same thing.

Answer 8

you always have friends when your agnostic....its only the sky pilots that try to put you down...its either there way..or no way....little people living in there fantisy world of pretty pictures from a book...if they had seen what these old eyes have seen they would know what the real world looks like and then they may have to have a re.think in there own beliefs........who loves you.......seamanab xx

Answer 9

There must be other things you could take part in, if you're interested in finding them. Do you have a library, a historical society, a museum, a soup kitchen, etc., in your community?

Answer 10

Sweetie, I'm an atheist... no church, etc. but I am firmly connected to my family, community, and co-workers. Please talk to someone who knows you in person, a parent or trusted friend to find out why this is happening for you... ok?