very confused?

Question

I have been with this guy for 1 year now. At first things were great we would go out and have fun at leaset once a week. Then about 6 months ago things changed he no longer wanted to go out with my friends and i wasnt suppose to either. So i gave in and thought that staying home would be ok. I kinda enjoyed the time we had staying at home together every few weeks i would go out with my friends and he wouldnt say much. but the thing is he can go out whenever he wants he don't have to tell me when he goes or anything. we don;t go out together only out for dinners and movies. I feel and know he lies to me about what he is doing and i love him but i don't want to be a dumb *** not knowing what he really is doing. My emotions are confused and he doesnt want to talk about things. He says he is not doing anything but i just dont know. HOw do u confront somone who doesn't really want to talk ??? any ideas

Answer 1

You don't confront him until you realize! You love a stranger! Also you don't love him, you feel intensily for him, love goes into waters of understanding. And guess what! IF YOU UNDERSTOOD HIM YOU WOULDN'T BE HERE! But its not your fault he makes it hard, he's controlling. The problem thou isn't him, because I can give a flying crap about that guy, I care about you. And you need to get your head out of your butt NOW and realize you need more then this, love or not, it's not suppose to be this hard, realize that. Your selling yourself short and the fact is he holds the cards, simply because you keep telling yourself you love him, whats next?

*SLAP* Stay home, hoe, I can't trust you....

*SLAP* Don't talk about feelings, thats for sissies and wierdos

*SLAP* Whose your f'in daddy....

With you justifing your submission with "Well I love him, I guess I did something wrong" Realize love is more complicated then just feeling it, you need to learn to use it, and heres a starting tip:

DON'T DO IT LIKE HIM! DO IT EXACTLY OPPOSITE OF HIM!


Heres the complicated lesson, he loves you too! Yep he does! But thats HOW he choices to love you, thats his specially little flavour for you, so hopfully you realize it isn't the love, that words flaw'd. Its the FEELINGS the love inspires, which with him, seems they inspire insecurities, anger, and insecurites, making him feel better controlling you. If you don't learn this lesson now, when relationships get abusive, some counsellor well help me instead.....