Should I end it or do I have any other options?

Question

I'm dating this guy for like a month now.. and already we're having problems... Sometimes he acts like he doesn't see me, he never tells me anything, he uses me as a trophy to brag about, and he basically doesn't really have any feelings for me... I've been told by a friend of his that he was cheating on me... a week later he says; "if someone tells you I'm cheating you don't believe them because I used to have a girlfriend but she moved, and we still keep contact, but I don't love her anymore and I left her for you..." So basically I understood this as that he just wanted me to read between the lines and basically tell me that he IS in fact cheating on me... Am I being too paranoid, or should I break up with him?

Oh yea.. if this changes anything; we're in high school, and no sexual intercourse.

Answer 1

Sounds like this guy can't be trusted.

IF you do decide to stay with him, understand that more than likely, he is cheating on you. Also know that it's probably not good (long term) to be the trophy. (Sure, it's great for the ego initially; but long term it could undermine your sense of self worth).

How you paraphrased his excuse about the old g/f doesn't make sense, either. First he says she's my old g/f, but she moved. We keep in contact, but I left her for you...

- He didn't leave her for you...they broke up 'cause she moved away.
- If she moved away, how far away? How frequently do they 'keep in touch'? If people are still seeing them together, then she didn't move very far away.
- Either way, just casually seeing an old g/f should not have him boradcasting "if someone tells you i'm cheating..." unless they were doing something that would be considered cheating...As for your "Am I being too paranoid?" EVEN if you are paranoid doesn't mean he's not cheating.

Thanks for adding the clarification on age & level of the relationship. In this case, it doesn't really change my response. You deserve to be treated as more than a trophy. You are a human being and should be treated as a human being. If he can't be honest with you, maybe you should find someone you can trust and someone that'll treat you with respect for who you are (and not only when he it trying to impress ).

Answer 2

leave now