I had thanksgiving dinner with some of my high school friends this weekend. Lately, I've been having some troubles with my boyfriend. I don't know if I love him anymore. I feel like I can't depend on him at all.
Then this week, I saw one of my pretty good friends from New York. I don't know.. he did some things for his girlfriend, and I just felt kinda jealous. I mean, in high school, he liked me, but I saw him as a really good friend.. so i'm starting to wonder if i made the wrong choice by not giving him a chance. he was a really good friend since i can always depend on him, and we still talk.. maybe i'm just confused, but overall, that good friend and i match more, concerning family background, study habits, personalities wise. my bf and i are like almost opposites. i'm just very confused right now.. i dont know what to do.. should i just let go off my bf? i dont know if i can love him anymore... no matter how hard we tried... things always go bad...
2007-11-24 06:31:29 · 3 answers · asked by CS 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
BTW, my friend kept.. flirting with me during dinner? or maybe he was just being friendly since its been a while. his gf was there of course.
i'm not saying i want to intrude.. but i guess i want what they have. if i dont have it... should i just let go of my bf??
2007-11-24 06:33:17 · update #1
Sounds like your pretty sure, but are looking for someone to tell you what you already know. First, let's get your really good friend out of the equation - he's currently got a g/f, so that's not a possibility for the two of you at the moment.
As for your b/f, if you don't think you love him, and you don't think you can work it out, you should end the realtionship. There comes a time when it's not doing either of you any good to continue.
Once you are single, you can contact your good friend and see if there was more to the flirting - but you need to take it one step at a time. Be true to your heart, be honest with yourself and your current b/f, and then move on. It could be that he feels the same way you do. That's the problem when people are afraid of hurting their significant other. Ranther than hurt them by breaking up, you both end up in a relationship with someone you don't love. Look at the statistics: Over 50% of people who thought they were in love enough to get married get divorced. It's OK that things haven't worked out with your b/f. You've got a lifetime in front of you. It may be that seeing how your friend treated his g/f opened your eyes to how two people in love interact.
Best of luck!
2007-11-24 06:57:44 · answer #1 · answered by David M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let go of your bf just yet. Tell him exactly what you told us. Let him know what it is you're looking for socially and explain what it was that the other guy did that made you jealous. Give him a chance to try to be more responsive to your needs. But remember that you can't always expect someone to change for you.
2007-11-24 06:46:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yws, if you feel you dont like him and hes not thre for you, let go adn just be friends...
2007-11-24 06:38:02 · answer #3 · answered by Marie Rox =P ♫ + ♥ = ☺ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋