Ex Fiance Talking To Me Again, But Is Upsetting Me?

Question

My fiance, whom I was with for 4 years broke up with me in June. Needless to say, I was madly in love with her and completely devastated from the breakup, I was not expecting it at all. We tried to stay friends during the summer, but she got EXTREMELY UNCOMFORTABLE. She told me not to contact her, and that she would contact me when she was ready to talk. Three and a half months have gone by since I had heard from her at all. Recently I have been receiving calls or text messages from her in the middle of the night either sobbing or just wanting to chat with me saying that she misses me. Even during the day I get text messages that are actually lengthy and very friendly as compared to one-word texts that I received during the summer, I spoke to her on the phone last night and she seemed like her old self, she was laughing and very friendly, and told me to call her this weekend . I REALLY MISS HER, , do you think she wants to start to reconcile?. How Do I handle this?

She is now back to one word texts. I am sick of these mindgames, we went from a couple about to be married, to two seperate people. She broke up with me because she was depressed and she wants nothing to do with me. I just don;t get it. Please Help

Answer 1

If you want to stop feeling pain, you're going to have to cutoff all communication with her. It sounds like she's confused and she's probably been like that for some time. It's going to take some time, but every time you talk to her your sliding backwards and you need to push forward. Good Luck!

Answer 2

I think there is something Really big going on with this Gal you don't know about. You probably don't really want to know either. She sounds unstable and you are a Fall-Guy for her.
That is wrong and it sounds like she has called all the shots-Don't fall back into her prey or you're going to get hurt. We woman will play games with guys sometimes if they allow us to do so. I've seen to many of these scenarios played out-Not by me-but I have a lot of Girl-Friends that play their Guys like Fiddles.I can't stand it and I have told them so-but I'm out-side looking in so it's none of my business. I hate that character in them though and I have told them so.They think it's a Big Joke! Don't be a laughing Stock.Good Luck- I know this is going to be hard for ya. Woman Have as Much Power as You give Them in certain cases such as these.

Answer 3

They're right. You've come this far without her and its best to stay that way. I know you love and miss her, but your relationship is going to be completely different. You will NEVER go back to how things were before this.
She is unsure of herself, and no matter how hard it hurts, break off communication until she is decisive.

Answer 4

you don't deserve to be treated that way, no matter what her reason is. if it is some sort of depression, maybe help her seek out the help, so that if it is good for you two to be together from here on out, things run more smoothly. then everything might not seem so unsettled or iffy

Answer 5

If she's honest with you you'll find out she was dating another guy. If not, you'll find out she just needed a break. I really believe you should back away from this girl. Ask yourself, not your heart, do I really feel that I can trust her. Be carefull!!!!!

Answer 6

awe she misses you. i've left the love of my life but i always called back because i miss him to much. she loves you obviously, so try and start over with her. dont you want it to be like it was when you two were perfect?

Answer 7

stay away buddy! she's trouble...you're finally getting back on your feet, keep it that way