Girls are not what they used to be?

Question

Since when did girls become such nasty creatures? I am a single, straight, educated, employed, 28 year old male from New York. I live at home with my parents and other adult siblings, which indicates I am very family-oriented, which are great qualities IMHO. I have a lot to offer a special lady. However, I haven't gone on a date for about 5 years because my introduction to the world of dating was not very pleasant. I have only gone on 2 dates in my entire life and what I learned was disturbing. Both of the girls I went out with were very nice, religious, family-oriented etc., like me. Nice right? Then why did the topic of having sex come up on the first date? I ran like heck from those girls and never saw them again! I am learning that this is more the rule than the exception these days. So I have decided to put off dating until I find someone truly extraordinary. I can wait another 28 years to have my first girlfriend and/or kiss (both of which I have not yet experienced).

What do you think?

Answer 1

Sorry. But living at home with your parents at age 28 does not indicate that you are very family oriented and have great qualities. It indicates that you are still a child, and are not an independent adult, and that you still depend on others. By not having your own life and supporting yourself, you are severely limiting your dating pool. I don't know any women your age or older who would date someone in your situation. So unfortunately, you may be limiting your dating pool to skanks with very low standards. A sample size of two really isn't that good to judge things on, but the evidence is pointing that way.

Answer 2

Well I know you are looking for something perfect. But truthfully no such thing exists. Everyone has their flaws. Just because you are a virgin and are saving yourself doesn't mean that everyone is as strong as you are. Maybe you should move out from your parents home. Living at home with your parents believe it or not is not very appealing. I mean lets face it you are 28, the chances of you meeting a virgin 28 year old girl are slim to none.

Answer 3

Well there is nothing to be scared off. Not all girls are like that. You just had bad luck. Since you are 28 already it's time for you to move out of the nest. Live with roommates and make friends. Meet new people you just need to go out and experience life. Like I always say to my friends you can't wait for the perfect man. You have to go out and search. If you wait for the perfect person that perfect person will never come to you!!! What I mean is go out and put yourself in situations where you could meet women. Yeah believe me not all girls think about sex or talk about it on the first date. Good for you for waiting and being abstinence.

Answer 4

aww, wish there were more gentlemen like you! I think it is definitely worth the wait! God will bring the right girl around at the right time. But I would defiantly still date. Just get to really know the girl before you ask her on a date. You could even just go out with groups..the chance of that subject being brought up to you in a group is slim. Best of Luck and thank you for being a very rare respectable guy! It is worth the wait.

Answer 5

So do you choose NOT to move out? I should warn you, some girls might be turned off by the fact that you're still living with you're parents, but if it's you're choice and you enjoy it then i guess that's fine. But the discussion of sex on the first date might just be a test?...maybe they wanted to see what kind of a man you were. If you would've agreed, then they would've known that you were a onenight stander typa guy, but since you disagreed than that obviously shows you have some standards. But since you kinda ran away from those girls, i guess you're just never gonna find out huh?...

And sex isn't a rule. i'm personally planning to stay abstinent, so if that makes you feel any better, you're not the only one! But these days, it's just...hard to find a husband or wife, and some ppl want sex asap. so yeah.

my suggestion to you is to pretty much do what you're doing now...maybe go out on more dates just to experience. You never know when you could be missing out big time by not going out and meeting more woman.

anyways goodluck! =]

Answer 6

Expectations are generally not what they used to be. The whole idea of courting, and slow romance is something that i think may have been hoped for when they were younger but now in their mid-twenties, women want to meet different people, be sexual, and find out specifically what they want before committing. For you, sex on the first day is a no, but i feel many women would respect you if you stated that you wanted to take things at a slower pace - is this something you had stated in your previous dates? It's nice for us to know what you want and your expectations are since many dating experiences encompass guessing what a guy may want. But it does have to be said, because there are no protocols in dating anymore.

Answer 7

I envy you mate. I wish I learnt that sooner. I am 17 and I feel the same. At the age of 14 I had my first kiss and sexual experience with a girl I went out with for a year and a half. Now, I wish I didn't because I realize now that she was actually not a very nice person.

Since then I have had 2 girlfriends, both turned out to be complete sexual maniacs who really didn't see me, for me.

But, it isn't just girls who think like this. A lot of guys are the same with girls from my experience of speaking to girls.
The age we live in seems to be completely based on your looks and sex...nothing really more.
People are shallow these days and it is very difficult to find anyone. It seems if you go out and look, the girl you like is nice at one minuet then all over your mate the next or, the girl you like is already taken by a guy who is a complete jerk to her yet she stays with him because she thinks he is different.

All the good girls seem to be taken...

Answer 8

i think you have been misguided your whole life my friend. There is no truly extraordinairy girl out there.. Yeah she's out there, but she's dating the guy who's not afraid to branch out from his family and live his own life separate from them. You are a full grown man who was never pushed out of the nest.

When you say you have a lot to offer, I assume that means you are a gentle, kind, upper middle-class intelligent fellow. You are the kind of man that women settle down for. You will eventually find someone in your late 30s, maybe 40s 50s, but the time of really experiencing life and love and being reckless will have passed you by.

I was similarly sheltered for a time in my life, and breaking from that shelter, and going it alone was the greatest decision I have ever made.

It is not too late for you, not all flowers bloom at the same time. You have to challenge yourself, step out of your comfort zone. Step boldly in any direction you choose, and you will find with time, you can accomplish anything.

Answer 9

not all girls suck. And the things you are describing are atypical. Maybe the fact that you are 28 and living at home might be a little unsettling to girls as it seems that you are afraid to take care of yourself and are looking for someone else to step in and be your psuedo mom only in a different household. Just try getting out there a little more and dont be afraid to put your feelings out there about not having sex. Most people would understand your viewpoint. And dont worry, 90% of americans get married at some point in their life so the odds are good for ya.

Answer 10

Maybe it is time you move out and find a place on your own. That doesnt mean you will never see your family, but you will be more independent. Also I suggest you attend more church (if you are religous) events such as a singles group, or just go out and meet people! Not everyone is like that, they were just bad picks! There are people out there still with values, you just have to go out and find them