Are girls really just attracted to money and status, with the guy who provides that just being a side benefit?

Question

Well? Be honest.

Answer 1

Girls are not cookie cutter people, what they want being as varied as their hair, their clothes and their taste in men.

Some women are attracted only to money, to power or even just to looks. Some men are shallow too.

But in a general way I will say this. It is deep in the female biology to seek a mate who can provide security. That is the number one female need. It's because for millions of years human choices have been driven differently depending upon whether one is male or female. Men (in general) whether they are aware of it or not, seek out females who are fit specimens to reproduce. Since this time is limited in women, men usually prefer those younger, not in a conscious way, but far under the surface.

Women look for men who can protect them and their offspring,. We may not have animlas preying upon us any longer, but the instinctual drive is one hard to rid the species of. Since men can reproduce likely all of their lives, age is not so much a factor, but the ability to provide the best environment for raising children is. If "security" means money or status to a woman, she may choose that as being important.

So our choices being made with different criteria, my boyfriend likes to say this (and I agree)

Women are hardwired to mate well, while men, are designed to mate often.

We are animals after all, civilized a little maybe, but still animals.

Some women can get into men they don't care for just because they are greedy. But I do believe most are sincere, do care and aren't using men for cash machines.

Men use women (older ones especially) for their money too, ya know.

The best thing is not to make sweeping generalizations about either gender, nor to ever decide that "Men are this or that", "Women are that or the other thing", as you will always be proven wrong by many, none of us fitting the stereotype of either.

So my question to you is "Have you been used or perhaps rejected on the basis of money or status? Are you bitter because of it?" If the answer is "yes", don't let that convince you that "what women are"., but examine yourself to see if you chose badly. Find out how you might choose better next time, what to look for, where to look and most important where to dump the bodies.

Me? No. I do need security, to feel emotionally and physically safe, warmth and affection and genuine concern for me as a person and concern for what is in my best interest. But a guy with serious money troubles turns me off as they don't have control of their own life, tho I have enough to be comfortable without his.

The money, the status is the side benefit, not the man.

Answer 2

Notice what "mMK" said. Guys with money and status often act in a certain way, and it is this "appearance" of confidence & status that tends to physically turn girls on. It is hard wired in their genes to be attracted to a guy who seems to have his act together.

Of course, what the lady above me said is true too. Women want security, which means that you should have your act together in the sense that you have a future (such as a potential job), and that you are emotionally mature and have your life kind of together.

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Answer 3

for me the guy is what im attracted to...money and status are a plus and would probably make me like him more...but for the most part the guy himself is what I like. However to me, the way a guy dress's and carries himself + personality is what creates him. Idk if I really answered your Q or not cause now that I think about it I basically just described what money and status can do for a guy which makes me like him.

Answer 4

Not all girls are. Im with my boyfriend because hes a gentlemen, and he cares for me. We both have alot in common too. He also doesnt have the best status or alot of money but i got for a guy for who he is, not for the amount of money he has.