How do i change what people think about me?

Question

i am known as the school whore
but i am still a virgin
i have dated alot of guys
and they spread rumors about me
i dont like it
i need some answers on how
to change how people see me
like i dont want to be seen as
da school hoe for the rest of my life

Duh
Please Help!

Love,
Georgianna.

Answer 1

Well unfortunately rumors of that kind are kinda hard to crush..... however, the plus side is that when you go to college you can start new..... and if you are no longer a virgin in college, no one talks bad about you, people are more open minded as they grow up.

Answer 2

Well frankly I would say dont worry about what people think but in this case Im sure you are tired of hearing that. I would confront the guys about it and just let them know how messed up it is and try and get them to take it all back. I know it hard on you but there really isn't much you can do about it. Just try and lay low for a while if you can. But other than what I suggested the only alternative is go on with life not caring about what they say but dont justr let them talk. CXonfront the ones saying the rumor and have them know that it isn't true. Good luck.

Answer 3

Well coming from a boy's point of view you are a whore because your dating all of them and they tell each other what they did to you. Sometimes they even think your easy so they try to pass you around. Just lay low for a while and focus on your school work. Because once you've done builded up your reputation as a whore it's really hard to get rid of it. Boys come and go but your education is a life time. Take this advice for consideration you have your whole life ahead of you so stop trying to experience the joy of boys and focus more on your goals in life. Good luck and I hope this helps!

Answer 4

Peace,

Sister,

it sounds like maybe you're in high school, and the things that we [all] have done at one time or another, in high school, college and as adults, should not be the thing(s) that define who we are forever. i wish that so many girls wouldn't find out the hard way that having sex and/or trying to be "sexy" is not what makes them noticeable, it's not about the one that's trying to act shy and prim-n-proper wearing a micro mini skirt and a tube top. it's about the ones are not going to the extreme to show the world what's under her clothes, but, rather what's in her head. you have obviously made some small mistakes in reference to your not being a more modest girl.
but, the good news is..that if you have decided to hold on to your virginity, then you have found the one thing that makes stronger and better.
in my opinion, most of the time when women and girls start exposing their bodies.. a lot of the blame can be placed on us in this society that we have created. unfortunately, the impact for kids it's so normal for people to behave in extreme manners and the children-- there is something else lacking in their lives and it does not mean that someone's being neglected, molested, or someone's being abused.. it could be that someone has not set boundaries. that someone, could not only your mom and/or dad, but yourself. and what you allow yourself to follow and label as "good".
you can't let your desire to be pleasing in the eyes of boys- steer you into doing things with your body that you will regret later.
when you decide you want to be married, you will want your husband to know that he has something special. it will mean so much to him to know that you have not defouled you body, that when the other girls were out there giving themselves away to anyone that told them they were pretty, you were savng yourself, your pride & dignity
i know it may sound a little old fashion (although i'm far from it) i still know that the most intruging and respected women are the ones that won't compromise their moralities to fit the "in crowd". you will want to change your way of dressing. it has come to my attention, that the way a girl/woman dresses is the way she behaves. for example; if you wear short shorts and high heels-you won't have the tendency to behave like a ballerina and vice versa. also, try limiting your time with the boys. men and women were created to attract eachother. my faith teaches me that when a man & woman are alone together...there's always a third party( perhaps this is why it's hard for men and women to have strictly platonic relationships) anyway... as far as the rumors go... it's a known fact that boys will lie sometimes to make themselves look good around the other boys, just know that if you have protected your virginity and want to keep a positive reputation, you will have to do things different from the way you have before. i don't think that it's a good idea to try to gain others' acceptance by trying to explain your "side" of a story. at this point, the only thing that you can do is show and prove!

sincerely
onesoulbtful

Answer 5

Keep your chin up, your mouth shut and move on. You aren't going to change the rumors or the way people think about you by arguing with them.

The only way to change that is to change your behavior. Stop dating.

I'm not saying that dating is bad. The bad behavior is from the boys who are spreading the rumors. However, the rumors are already out there and in most people's eyes, the truth. Your protestations are not going to change that.

Answer 6

Stop dating so many guys in such a short amount of time! If you don't want to look like a *** then stop showing signs of being one. If you're innocent act innocent.
People, especially teens in school, go by what they 'see', and 'hear' from others.
They don't care that you're a virgin, you're acting like you're not a virgin by changing up boyfiends in such a short amount of time, so start dating less boys and get more into your school work.
Also it could be the type of guys that you're dating too. Don't date those bad-boy-looking type of guys. Bc ppl know what these type of guys want. Even if they just 'look' like a guy that wants sex but they don't. Try going for a smart, sweet, but kind of hot looking guy.
Hang out with people who respect you. Then you'll see things change.

Answer 7

Unfortunately, extroverted people tend to be warm, friendly and all around nice. This could lead to being popular, however, there are too many males and females who interpret this type of behavior as being "loose; an easy makeout; out for what you can get; etc." and many times are jealous. You didn't say how you dress, makeup, or actions when around males. Maybe if you re-evaluate the above, you will lose the perception of how people see you now.

Answer 8

If you're known as the school hoe, it's probably because you dress the part and act the part. You're a virgin and that's terrific. But, you're probably a tease. Showing some skin, flirting with the guys, acting all cute. It sucks that you've been labeled as something that you're not. But, you did it to yourself. If you don't like it, change it. Be a bit more conservative and less flirty.

Answer 9

You know who you are. Be more selective about who you hang out with. If someone calls you a whore, make sure you say how can you be a whore if you are a virgin. Try not to hang out with as many guys as people talk. Only hang out with someone if you see yourself possibly getting into a relationship. Change the way you act around guys. Good luck!! But dont change yourself or your morals and values.

Answer 10

Maybe you should either stop dating for a while or stop dating the guys at your school. At the end of the day, people are going to think what they wanna think about you. Focus your attention on something else and people will start to talk about someone new and more controversal.