i met this boy off the internet what do i do????

Question

this boy,19, added me off of bebo because he liked my site thought i looked ok...we chatted on msn and then he added his friend and said thought i might get on with him too. i got chatting to him. his name is alex he is 16 next month and he lives in Watford London and i live in dorset (bout 4 hours away) we got on really really well and have both been on webcam lots of times.

we where trying to meet up in london but it diddn't work out. my parents are fine with me dating older guys but not that i met him off the internet. i havn't told them about himyet and dont really plan to.

i want to go out with him and he feels the same way but i dont know how we can meet up or how my parents would feel about that i met him on the internet! i trust him 100%.

Answer 1

Lots of people date over the internet and lots of times it works out.
The reason your parents don't want you to meet him is there's a HUGE chance he might be a predator. You should read some stuff on these internet predetors. Some may talk to you 5 months and to get on your good side and ask you if you can give them you credit card number or lend them some money so they can fly-in and see you.

You lend them the money, and they just dissapear.

Conclusion: Meeting people off the internet = Very dangerous
Meeting people of a dating site and seeing that they've been a fine member for a long time = Makes it safer.

Answer 2

Have the first boy that added you come along with the 16 year old you're interested in and bring an older friend of yours. You'll have more to talk about and it probably wont be as awkward.
But make sure to meet up at a mall or a place where there are a lot of people... hang out at the stores and shop...maybe chat at the food court.

I wouldn't get in a car with them the first time you meet up...but I guess that's ultimately up to you.

EDIT.
Did anybody read that they have been using webcams?
He's obviously not a 40 year old child molester.

Answer 3

So how old is this kid, first you say 19, then you say "16."

????? Which is it.????

Anyways, sounds like you're going to follow through with meeting the guy despite whether or not everyone else tells you it's wrong or dangerous. I mean I would think common sense and seeing all the news stories about people meeting each other off the internet might detour you from doing it....but clearly that's not the case.

.So if you trust the guy 100 percent...then I'm not sure what to tell you. I guess your odds would be better to meet him in a highly public place that's well lit...etc. You know the OBVIOUS safety stuff when meeting a total stranger.

....Anyways if that is what you'd like to do, then by all means carry on.
However just be smart about it, and for your own sake, tell your parents the truth...they would rather know who you're with, where you met him, where you're going etc. than trying to guess where you are and who you're with if you go missing.
.....BE HONEST & SMART about this.

Answer 4

DON'T meet him alone. It's very easy to present just what you want to on the Internet; I personally know about 5 guys who -- for much more innocent reasons -- portray women online, one very convincingly; one woman who portrays herself as male; a 15-year-old who passed himself off as 22; and several married men who certainly don't act married online. If you sneak out to meet him alone and he turns out to be an abusive 45-year-old who likes playing with teenagers, then you could be in some serious trouble. It's nice to make the papers, but I really doubt you'd want to in that way. This is probably why your parents would be worried.

There are many men who are very well practiced at convincing young women into a relationship online, and then using and abusing them in person. Sad to say, they get a lot of practice -- many often working on 10 to 20 prospects at a time, all sure that she's the only one and what a nice guy this fella is.

If you want to meet him, I'd suggest meeting up with a few friends first, and going somewhere as a group. If he's on the up and up, he shouldn't have a problem with this; after all, he'd want to impress your friends too, so they'd give you good feedback on him, and a group date can be very fun. If he's not happy with that idea, and only wants to see you alone, especially on his own territory, that's a major red flag. There's safety in numbers.

Answer 5

you need to really and I mean really do your research on inter-net-dating and first meets on this..I mean just because your on web-cam he can't touch you but what if he could actually touch you...would he touch you right or would he touch you wrong or do you even care? I must ask because web-cam or chatting is very different from being up close and personal or being physical with one another...you can trust him 100% all you want but just be very careful when making decision's to meet for the first time...just make sure your in a open place in the public and have some-one follow you every where you go with this person and do not do the (we can be alone in this place thing) u-no what I mean

Answer 6

Could be detectives hunting down Internet predators. Not that you are one, but a sting operation is a sting operation non the less. You could do serious jail time, a sting operation is usually with two detectives and fantasy role playing is involved over the Internet. Be careful. In USA if you ask the person are you an investigator they by law must say so and you must have it on record.

Answer 7

My best advice is to just wait. Try corresponding with him via other means too- letters, telephone and such. Your parents might get used to having him around (though it could take a while).

Also, if you're not able to drive or transport yourself independantly, it would be good to wait until you can. In the meantime you can go steady with him if you really want, and don't mind working on a long distance relationship.

Answer 8

Just because you trust him 100% doesn't mean you should run off and meet him. If you insist on meeting him and your mother doesn't mind, then she should be with you when you meet him. Don't you watch the news? Don't go alone for God sakes.

Answer 9

i think you can still meet a person male or female out and about without the use of internet thats one thing that is a little more personal to me, and if your not 100% sure go with your gut!

Answer 10

well....you can never REALLY trust eople that you meet online because they can say anything to make you believe them. you just have to be careful and you're gonna have to tell your parents sometime so you might as well face them now. good luck!

~meggs