I mean aren't they lusting after the other woman to some degree? Is that not cheating? I think it is.Why is it so acceptable!?! Yeah, women do it to, but isn't it cheating? And it's a double standard for men. If a woman does it, people assume she's looking elsewhere, but when men do it, it's just because "they're men. it's in their genes"
I think it's stupid! I would feel so hurt if my boyfriend/husband did that. I mean it's not like the guy's looking going: "Wow, she looks like such a nice person!" He's thinking, "Damn! Her (insert body part) is so hot!"
Guys opinions greatly appreciated! And please don't be harsh with me in answers. Thanks!
2007-11-24 03:08:58 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
And some men will argue it doesn't mean anything and they won't cheat, but c'mon, if they could cheat, they would! It's so distressing. It's like you have to be Jessica Simpson or Adriana Lima to keep a guy!
2007-11-24 03:11:54 · update #1
It is not okay, and if a man I was with did it I would leave him right were he was standing ( or sitting ) and gawking. Always have an alternate way home ( cash for cab and a celll phone ) BTW Jessica Simpson couldn't keep a guy either
2007-11-24 03:12:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 4⤋
If a guy does it right in front of the girl he loves, then it's disrespectful.
OTherwise, he can go ahead and do it when I'm not there.
I only had one boyfriend who did it, and I found out after we broke up that, yes, he wasn't happy with me. He felt he could do better so he was looking at other women. The truth is, he couldn't do better. I was a pretty good catch but I had low self esteem and I got sucked into believing that if I didn't like what he was doing then I was one who was INSECURE. But it was HIM in reality. Don't let ANYBODY bamboozle you, if you don't like, you have every right to say so. Any self respecting woman would. And as far as a woman looking at another man, well, If I did, I wouldn't make it obvious or SAY anything for GOD SAKE. Men have feelings too.
2007-11-24 03:19:38 · answer #2 · answered by All That Glitters isn't Gold 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't know that it's okay. However I think it's pretty normal to take a glance at some hot young babe dressed very sexy. A glance not a 30 second drooling look lol You have to admit, women do the same thing.
I do think it is more in the nature of a man and it's bred in their during the single times with our friends, whether we are married or not, when we are out as a group of men and every decent looking woman who walks by is inspected and her assets enjoyed by the whole group.
I have to admit it, we never truly grow up lol
I think the comedian Jeff Foxworthy is right.... you women think men are complex. The only thing going on in his mind is I want a beer and I want to see something naked. lol
2007-11-24 05:10:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I've known a lot of people over the years,and,in my experience,the guys that are the biggest,most prolific and unrepentant screw-arounds are the ones who put up the biggest 'front'."I NEVER look at other people,I only have eyes for you,Baby."In my experience,THAT'S the guy who's nailing your' cousin and her best friend in your' bed while your' visiting your' sick Mother.A guy-a PERSON,for that matter-who's upfront and honest about appreciating the beauty of others is,contrary as it might seem,not usually the cheating type.The honesty extends to most every aspect of their' life,including their' relationships.
That having been said,let me just add that guys who stare or openly gape,weather with a woman or not,are animalistic rudenics who make us ALL look bad.I can't stand that.
2007-11-24 06:38:50 · answer #4 · answered by M 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lusting quietly is acceptable, and can't be prevented anyway. If your husband/bf can't keep it to himself, if you can see his head follow someone, that's rude. He needs to learn decent behavior toward you.
If he's deliberately making his attraction obvious to you, that's something else. Maybe he's trying to intimidate you, or make you feel insecure, or hint at a threesome. Or maybe he believes you feel so secure with the relationship that you can accept his "that woman's hot" the same way you'd accept "that flower's beautiful" - I know a couple like that.
2007-11-24 03:17:41 · answer #5 · answered by DW 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
They are human and are appreciating God's beauty. Just because a man looks at an attractive woman does not mean he is lusting after her. No I do not consider it cheating and it does not mean that the individual does not love and adore you. I am a woman with healthy eyes and a good mind. I am going to look at things or people that are attractive,it is natural. People that think it is wrong to look at someone are insecure in themselves and are jealous. Rather sad if you ask me.
2007-11-24 04:52:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
I hate to tell you, but I can guarentee your b/f has already checked out other women without you even knowing it. It doesn't mean he wants to sleep with them, no it's technically not cheating, and I'm sorry I can't give an answer other than that's just they way they are, but you just have to live with it....we can't put one of those dog lampshade things on their heads, now can we?
And I agree with you, if a woman wants someone bad enough, I believe even the strongest willed guy will have trouble not giving in, but if you want to truly love someone, you have to take that risk, otherwise you will spend your whole life shortchanging yourself by never letting go for fear that they are going to drop you like a potato, over some chick they think looks hot for all of a second before they totally forget her and pull you a little closer thinking that they can't wait to get you home.
2007-11-24 03:14:42 · answer #7 · answered by flowerchildofthecorn 3 · 2⤊ 3⤋
Wow ! Where do I begin with this one. Well first of all, let me start by saying that you are well within your right to be upset with your boyfriend/ husband checking out a beautiful woman in front of you. That **** is just rude and disrespectful. HOWEVER, you need to be aware that this type of thing happens..........................................alot. Now, just because it happens, does not make it right ! People snort cocaine and shoot herion all of the time, but is it right ? In my opinion, checking out a man or a woman in front of your significant other is just plain wrong and disrespectful. But is it cheating ? Is it lustful behavior ? I DO NOT believe that it is cheating but IT CAN BE LUSTFUL depending on the way that he is looking at her. Was it a casual glance or a deep erotic stare? If you look down at HIS package and see a " WOODY " , then you have your answer.It is possible for a man to look at a woman in a way of admiration as opposed to a lustful one. If you continue to think that it is cheeting, then you are going to pop a blood vessel by worrying about something that YOU CANT CONTROL.You have to understand that everyone looks. IT is going to happen. Your man is going to look. You can look without being disrespectful. I believe that most women accept this behavior because they feel like this is an example of " a man being a man. " Like you said earlier, women do it too. There is a way that one can do it without being disrespectful to his/her significant other. Everytime that I am out with my girlfriend, I see a woman who looks whorish, or wearing something that she knows will get the guys attention.The trick is to look with your eyes............NOT YOUR ******* HEAD. In other words, dont turn your head and drool over what you see. This is when it becomes disrespectful. It is about being subtle. Women are MASTERS at this. If a woman is walking in the mall with her man, and a FINE *** MALE MODEL is crossing your path from the opposite direction, I guarantee the woman noticed everything about him. The color of his shoes, his tie, hair color, wedding ring, etc. And she was able to obtain all of this info without turning her head and starring at him. This is where men fail to be subtle. WE see some big *** tities or a camel toe and get fuc*ing stupid and retarded. If we starred at her any longer, that glance would burn a hole right thru the woman. To sum up what I am trying to say here is that everyone does it. Some people are blatantly disrespectful. It is not right but it happens. If you feel that this is disrepctful,let him/ her know. You just need to decide wheather this is something that you are going to accept or dont accept in your relationship.
2007-11-24 04:33:40 · answer #8 · answered by umcgpd5o 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I don't see anything wrong with checking people out. Why do you assume men only look at certain things? I look at everything everyone when I'm out. If you consider this cheating you're going to have trouble keeping any decent guy.
2007-11-24 03:12:39 · answer #9 · answered by John 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Sassy hit the nail on the head with her answer. Just because a guy looks at a pretty lady does not mean he is lusting after her. Not all men are saying "Damn! Her (insert body part) is so hot!"
However, a glance is OK, but if the guys glance lingers, then it is not ok when he has a lady.
2007-11-24 04:56:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋
You have to understand that NOT ALL MEN DO THAT. So, you can conclude that if the man you are with is doing that, he's not in control of himself, and if he can't control himself in your presence, what do you think is happening when you're not around?
Bad boys = bad behavior.
2007-11-24 05:07:22 · answer #11 · answered by Rick H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋